Kodi ubwenzi - momwe mungaphunzire kukhala mabwenzi molondola?

Mawu a nyimbo ya ana otchuka "bwenzi losowa sadzasiya" ndi chitsanzo chowoneka bwino cha momwe munthu amaonera ubale wabwino. Kodi chiyanjano ndi chiyani kumalo amasiku ano, kumene anthu amalankhulana kudzera pa malo ochezera a pa Intaneti, ndipo zimachitika kawirikawiri pamoyo weniweni.

Kodi pali mabwenzi?

Lingaliro la chiyanjano linaganiziridwa kwa zaka zambiri ndi nthumwi za mafilosofi osiyanasiyana, koma akatswiri ofufuza anali olemba, olemba ndakatulo ndi akatswiri a maganizo. Chodabwitsa cha ubale sichimangokhala pazinthu zina, koma pakuwona kwa anthu ambiri, ubwenzi ndi mgwirizano wapamtima ndi wodalirika pakati pa anthu, mogwirizana ndi zokopa, njira ya moyo komanso kumvetsetsa kwabwino.

Psychology of Friendship

Vuto la ubale liripo, akatswiri a zachikhalidwe amakhulupirira. Mu msinkhu wa zamakono zamakono, anthu amakonda kulankhula mu njira zamagulu, koma nthawi zambiri sakhala ndi nthawi ya msonkhano waumwini. Anthu amataika kwambiri: palibe patsitsi laubwenzi pamapewa, kukhudzana ndi maso, komanso kuwona mtima kulibe. Akatswiri a zamaganizo amakhulupirira kuti kufunika kwa ubale kumisonkhano, kulankhulana mwachindunji, komanso kusalumikizana kwathunthu kungayambitse kuvutika maganizo . Psychology ya ubale imatsimikiziridwa pazinthu zabwino:

• kumverera "Sindi ndekha!" motsutsana ndi kusungulumwa komanso kudzipatula;
• Pokhapokha pakhala pali zina zofunikira, munthu amadziulula yekha ngati munthu ndipo amaphunzira kukhala bwenzi.

Mitundu ya ubale

N'chifukwa chiyani anthu ndi abwenzi? Kutchulidwa koyambirira kwa kufunikira kwa ubale kumapezeka ngakhale m'mabuku akale. Olemba ndakatulo amalemekeza ubwino wa mapewa, omwe amapezeka mu nthawi yovuta pafupi ndi chikhumbo chochita malingaliro achikondi m'moyo wonse. M'madera ammudzi, zimakhala zachizoloŵezi kugawana ubale malinga ndi msinkhu komanso chikhalidwe. Mitundu ya ubale:

1. Mwana - mwanayo amaphunzira dziko lapansi ndikuyesera kumanga maubwenzi ndi ena, kuphunzira pamodzi chinthu china chatsopano. Ana amatsagana pamaseŵera amodzi.
2. Wachichepere - chosowa chachikulu chofotokozera nokha, malingaliro anu. Ubwenzi wa m'badwo uno uli ndi malipiro apamwamba. Makhalidwe a wina amatsitsimutsidwa ndi kukwezedwa - mwabwino kumathandiza kupulumuka nthawi zovuta pamoyo: kusamvetsetsa kwa makolo, kudzimva kuti ndi otsika. Ubwenzi wachinyamata ukhoza kukula kukhala chikondi.
3. Munthu wamkulu - nthawi zina izi ndi ubwenzi womwe unakhazikitsidwa muunyamata ndi kulimbikitsidwa kwa zaka zambiri. Mabwenzi oterewa amadziwa zonse ndi zochokera pakati pawo - ubwenzi umenewo ndi chinthu chosavuta kwambiri, choncho ndiwothandiza kwambiri. Pali mitundu yambiri yaubwenzi wamkulu: chikhalidwe, wochezeka, bizinesi.
4. Ubwenzi wamwamuna - nthano zimamangidwa ponena za iye, nyimbo zambiri zikuimbidwa ndi mabuku abwino olembedwa. Kodi chibwenzi ndi chiani, chikuwonetsedwa mu filimu yotchedwa Soviet "Three Musketeers": kuthandizana, kuvomereza munthu kwathunthu ndi zofooka zake zonse, kudalira ndi kuthandizira ngakhale panthawi yomwe mzanga anali m'mavuto kudzera mwa zolakwa zake. Kawirikawiri mwa amai, abwenzi amuna amachititsa kusamvetseka ndi kaduka.
5. Ubwenzi wa Akazi - Amuna amakhulupirira kuti m'chilengedwe sichipezeka. Kodi chiyanjano cha amai chikhoza kuwonetsedwa pachitsanzo cha filimuyo "Kugonana ndi Mzinda".

Kuti kugonana kwabwinoko muubwenzi n'kofunika:

• chifundo ndi chifundo;
• kukhulupirika;
• kudzipereka;
• lingaliro lina pazochitikazo;
• maubwenzi;
• mwayi wopezeka thandizo nthawi iliyonse yamasana kapena usiku.

Kodi bwenzi lenileni ndi liti?

Kodi kutanthauzanji kukhala mabwenzi - osati kungokhala pamodzi ndikumwa khofi pamodzi nthawi ndi nthawi, koma zenizeni? Anthu omwe alibe abwenzi nthawi zambiri amamva kukhala osungulumwa komanso akulakalaka. Ubwenzi weniweni umakhala mukutengapo mbali ndi chidwi chenicheni kwa wokondedwa, pamene abwenzi amagawana chisoni komanso chimwemwe. Mizimu yofanana - imodzi mwa ziphunzitso za kubadwanso kwatsopano imalongosola chodabwitsa cha ubale ndi ziphatikizo zofanana mu moyo wakale. Miyoyo amayesetsa kupeza wina ndi mzake, kenako, akakumana, palikumverera kolimba komwe akhala akudziwana kwa nthawi yaitali, pamene adakumana nthawi yoyamba.

Kodi ubwenzi umapatsa munthu chiani?

Ubwenzi mu moyo wa munthu ndi chimodzi mwa zinthu zabwino kwambiri zomwe zimatsatira banja. Bwenzi ndi galasi limene mumapenya. Kodi chiyanjano chomwe chiyanjano chimawonjezera ku chiyanjano:

• mgwirizanowo wa makhalidwe abwino a wina ndi mzake;
• kumverera kwothandizira;
• chisangalalo chosangalatsa;
• kuthandizana pothandizana ndikupitilira nthawi zovuta;
• amaphunzitsa kudzikonda komanso kudzipereka;
• maganizo abwino .

Kodi chinthu chachikulu ndi chiani pa ubwenzi?

Ponena za mabwenzi ambiri, koma momwe mungadziwire kuti ndi chinthu chofunika kwambiri mu chiyanjano ndi ndani yemwe ali bwenzi lenileni? Munthu aliyense ali ndi malingaliro ake pazomwe amakhalidwe abwino a chiyanjano: kwa wina ndikutsimikizika ndi mwayi wodalirika zinsinsi zonse, zomwe zimachitika kwa amai, kwa amuna - izi ndizimene zimagwirizanitsa: nsomba, kuyenda, kusaka. Zomwe zimagwirizana ndi ubwenzi ndizokhazikika zamuyaya: umulungu, kukoma mtima, ndi chidwi chenicheni kwa wina ndi mzake.

Kodi mungaphunzire bwanji kukhala bwenzi?

Kwa anthu ena, vuto la zovuta zogwirizana ndi anthu ndi zenizeni ndipo, motero, kusungulumwa kumapangidwa. Anthu ambiri amafuna kukhala ndi abwenzi apamtima, koma pa zifukwa zingapo sangathe kukhala nawo ocheza nawo. Momwe mungakhalire ndi anzanu ndipo pali malamulo ena apamtima? Akatswiri a zamaganizo a anthu amapereka malingaliro angapo omwe amathandiza kuti muyankhulane ndi munthu amene mumamukonda ndikukulitsa ubale umene umakula kukhala bwenzi, chifukwa ichi mukufuna:

• kuthana ndi manyazi ndipo mudziwe bwino;
• yesetsani kudziwana okha;
• kukhala munthu wotseguka;
• khalani ndi chifundo ;
• phunzirani kumvera wina;
• chithandizo pa zovuta;
• kumvetsetsa kuti kukula kwa ubale kumafuna nthawi yaitali, khama ndi ntchito.

Chimene chimawononga ubwenzi?

Chiyeso cha ubwenzi chimakhala ndi nthawi. Anthu pamodzi amapita ku magawo ena a moyo ndi mayesero osiyanasiyana, osati onse omwe amapulumuka. Zifukwa zomwe ngakhale mgwirizano wolimba kwambiri ukhoza kugwa:

1. Chikondi choyamba cha abwenzi kwa munthu mmodzi.
2. Mmodzi wa abwenzi akukhala wolemera mwamsanga, chachiwiri ndi zovuta kulandira chikhalidwe chosiyana.
3. Kusakhulupirika ndi kutengeka. Zifukwa zikhoza kukhala zosiyana - koma zimachitika (mnzanu wapamtima / chibwenzi amachotsa mkazi / mwamuna).

Mabuku okhudza ubwenzi

Ubwino wa ubwenzi unayamikiridwa ndi olemba ndakatulo ndi olemba. Momwe mungakhalire mabwenzi ndi anthu komanso kukhala bwenzi lenileni - maphunziro ofunikira amenewa angaphunzire kuchokera m'mabuku a mabuku akale ndi amasiku ano:

1. "Musketeers atatu." A. Dumas . - Buku lonena za chikondi, kudzipereka ulemu ndi mfundo. Ntchito iyi ndi yopangidwa kwambiri padziko lonse lapansi.
2. "Mitima ya Atatu". D. London . - Buku lonena za kudzimana chifukwa cha bwenzi ndi kuti palibe chuma chomwe chingalowe m'malo mwa chikondi ndi ubwenzi.
3. "Anzanga atatu," Erich Maria Remarque . - Bukhu lonena za malingaliro enieni, owona mtima, omwe mlembi walankhula mosamala kwambiri.
4. "Jane Eyre. S. Bronte . " - Kusadzikonda komanso ubwenzi pakati pa anthu otchulidwa m'nkhaniyi, adakula kukhala chikondi.
5. "Kachisi wamsewu wotchedwa Bob . " J. Bowen. - Ubwenzi, pakati pa munthu ndi nyama, kumathandiza kuthana ndi kuvutika maganizo kwa James kwa nthawi yaitali.