Makhalidwe otere, monga kudzidalira, sapatsidwa kwa amayi kuchokera kubadwa, amafunika kuphunzitsidwa ndi "kukula" mwa iwo okha kutsutsana ndi mavuto onse a moyo. Kuti mukhale otsimikiza, muyenera kuphunzira momwe mungadzikondere nokha, mukhale okhutira ndi kukwaniritsa zambiri mwa inu nokha, mutha kugwiritsa ntchito malingaliro achilengedwe ndi luntha.
Azimayi amaonedwa kuti ndi oimira abambo ogonana, koma izi sizikutanthauza kuti onse ndi otetezeka komanso opanda chitetezo. Chibadwa chachibadwa - kuteteza kugonana kofooka - kawirikawiri kumapikisana ndi chikhumbo chokwaniritsa chikhalidwe cholimba, kotero kuti amuna amakopeka mosakayikira ndi amayi odzidalira. Chikhalidwe chotsimikizirika nthawi zambiri chimayambitsa kaduka pakati pa abwenzi omwe sali ofooka. Anthu ambiri amafuna kupita modzikuza pamaso pawo, koma sadziwa momwe angakhalire otsimikiza mtima, koma izi ndizofunika - chilakolako cholimba, mphamvu zamakhalidwe abwino ndi kukhala ndi mphamvu za mzimu, zomwe zimatsimikiziridwa ndi anthu a cholera ndi a magazi.
Pokhala ndi chikhumbo chokhala mkazi wodzidalira, yambani kuyesetsa kusintha pa njira yosankhidwa. Kumbukirani kuti "ntchito yovuta kwambiri ikugwira ntchito pawekha." Sitiyenera kungophunzira kuti muwone zabwino pamayeso onse oyandikana nawo, komanso molimbika kuti muzindikire zowawa zomwe zidzachitike.
Chochitika chilichonse chili ndi phindu labwino kapena lopindulitsa kwa inu - phunzirani kufotokozera mfundoyi ndikugwiritsira ntchito, ngati "mumamatira" pambali zotsutsana - mudzatayika zotsalira za chidaliro ndipo mutha kukhala okhumudwa. Mavuto aliwonse ndi kuwongolera kwachinsinsi muyenera kuzindikira ndi kunyada, pambuyo pa munthu aliyense wodalirika akudziwa, kuti "kusintha konse kwabwino".
Kodi mungatani kuti mukhale wotsimikiza komanso wodalirika?
Kupambana mu bizinesi kumadalira mbali imodzi pa chidaliro pazochita, chifukwa osakayikira ndi kusamala, makamaka zochita zanu ziri zolondola. Kusinkhasinkha kwa nthawi yayitali ndi "kulemera" kumapangidwira ndi "magawo theka" olakwika, osati ndi zolimba, zozizwitsa. Ndipotu, pamene "muyesa kasanu ndi kawiri", wina amakhala ndi nthawi - ayambe, ayese, ayimbenso kapena kubwezeretsanso ndi "madiresi" anu.
Anthu okhulupilira amakhala okhutira ndipo sakhala ndi nsanje, sangathe kuganiza kuti "Ndikufuna nsapato ngati zake" kapena "thumba lake ndilopambana kuposa langa", "Ndasankha nsapato zowonongeka" ndikubadwa m "mutu wanga kapena" nsapato zanga zofiira. " N'zovuta kuti musinthe malingaliro anu, koma phunzirani kuyamikira zomwe muli nazo, ndipo muzigwiritsa ntchito momwe mungathere, osayang'ana pozungulira ndi "pakamwa poyera" ndi maso achisoni.
Ndapanga chisankho - Ndikufuna kukhala wodzidalira, phunzirani momwe mungamangire mawu ndi ziganizo, mwachitsanzo,. Ndikofunika kufotokoza malingaliro anu m'njira yoti anthu samve okha, komanso mverani mawu anu. Kotero, mwachitsanzo, munthu wodalirika samayambitsa mkangano ndi mawu akuti "Inu", akulengeza udindo wake ndi mawu akuti "I". Yesetsani kuyambitsa mkangano wapanyumba ndi mwamuna wake za mtundu wanji womwe mungayang'anire usiku uno, osati ndi mawu akuti "muli ndi magalimoto anu pa nsomba"
Pewani vuto lomweli kuntchito. Musalankhulane ndi anzanu mu mau "koma simundimvera", nenani "ndikukuuzani za izi" kapena "malingaliro anga, lero munagwira ntchito kwambiri", ndi zina zotero. Inde, musaiwale za kugonjera, ngati mutasankha kukhala mayi wa "iron" musadumphire mutu wa bwana. Koma ngati cholinga chanu ndikutenga mpando wotsogolera, chitani zolimba, koma pang'onopang'ono ndiyeno, ndithudi, oyang'anira anu adzayamikira ntchito zanu.
Ngati muli ndi zizindikiro za phlegmatic kapena melancholic ndipo ganizirani momwe mungakhalire wamtendere ndi wodalirika, yesetsani kuchita zonse zomwe mukuganiza mofulumira, musayese kuti mukhale ndi wina, koma phunzirani kuyamikira ndi kukonda zonse zomwe mukuchita.