Ndondomeko ya mkangano

Kulankhulana kuli kovuta kulingalira popanda mikangano, yomwe ndi yosiyanasiyana m'chilengedwe ndipo nthawi yomweyo magawo awo ali ndi kusiyana kwakukulu kwa wina ndi mzake. Koma sizingatheke kukhala ndi moyo popanda kuvulaza thanzi lanu, pamene mumatsutsana ndi munthu wina, choncho ndi bwino kudziŵa kuti masitepe a kuthetsa mikangano ndi otani.

Zigawo zazikulu za chitukuko

1. Gawoli likuyambira kutsogolo kwa kusagwirizana. Kusamvana kumapanga zofanana ... zolimbana. Chotsalira ndikumenyana pakati pa adani, omwe amayamba ndi kutsutsana kwina. Komabe, nkofunika kukumbukira kuti izi sizimayambitsa zotsatira za nkhondo. Izi zimangopangika zokhazokha zomwe amatsutsana nazo, ngakhale osadziŵa, ngati zosagwirizana ndi zofuna zawo, malingaliro, mfundo ndi masomphenya a interlocutor.

Choncho, vutoli limakhala ndi maganizo a anthu ndipo popeza liri ndi khalidwe lobisika, limatchulidwa ngati sitepe ya mkangano wa mtundu wamtunduwu. Cholinga chake chachikulu ndi kusakhutira ndi zomwe zikuchitika panopa kapena, mwachitsanzo, kukula kwa zochitika zamakono. Izi zimapangitsa kuwonjezeka kwa msinkhu wa mavuto. Panthawi imodzimodziyo, mkangano wosabisa mkati mwa aliyense umakhala kutsutsana ndi munthu wina. Pachifukwachi, amasandulika kukhala gawo lotseguka. Koma nkofunika kuzindikira chinthu chimodzi: Mkhalidwe wa mkangano ukhoza kukhalapo popanda kutsanulira mu zina (nkhondo). Kukhazikitsa chisinthikochi kumafuna kuti pakhale zochitika zina, zochitika pazochitika. Chochitikacho chingakhale mwangozi, kapena chimangidwe chapadera. Sitikudziwa kuti munthu wina akhoza kuzilenga, zomwe sizichita nawo mkangano.

Pakali pano, pali njira zingapo zomwe zidzakhalire mtsogolomu:

• chochitika china ndi chizindikiro cha kuyamba kwa kugunda kotseguka;
• Adani onsewa kapena mmodzi wa iwo akufuna kuzimitsa moto wotsutsana;
• Mmodzi mwa anthu omwe akutsutsana naye amamusiya, akudziyesa kuti palibe chomwe chachitika.

2. Kusamvana mwa munthu. Pakati pa gawo lino, magulu otsutsana angasinthe malingaliro awo, potsata awo okha ndi omwe ali okhoza. Chifukwa cha zatsopano, zikutuluka mkati mwa kusagwirizana, kuyesa koyendera kwabwino kumachitika. Zimasintha machenjerero a mbali zonse ziwiri, khalidwe lawo. Anthu otsutsana amayamba kupeza njira zochokeramo. Nthawiyi ikuimira kuyamba kwa nthawi yomaliza, kusintha kwa gawo lachitatu.

Ndikofunika kuzindikira kuti siteji ya chitukuko chakumenyana ikhoza kukhala motere:

• Mtsutso umakula mu nkhondo yapadziko lonse yomwe mbali zonse ziwiri zimagwiritsa ntchito njira zosiyana ndi zolimbikitsira, pamene siziwona kuti ndizofunikira kuyang'ana zowona zenizeni za mkangano;
• Chikhalidwe chapafupi cha chitukuko cha zochitika, okondana amapanga zoyamba kugwiritsa ntchito mphamvu;
• Nkhondoyi ikuphatikizapo mitundu yonse yotsutsana nayo.

3. Gawo lomaliza. Gawo ili limaphatikizapo kukambirana ndi kupanga mapangano, yothandizidwa ndi siginecha ya bungwe lovomerezeka. Kukonzekera kwa nthawi yayitali ndi chikhalidwe chachikulu cha chiyambi cha zokambirana. Koma chisankho sichinatchulidwe kuti mwamtendere mikanganoyo sidzatha ndipo mbali zonsezi zikonzekera kusokoneza kusagwirizana. Izi zimachitidwa pofuna kulimbikitsa malo awo.

Njira zotheka kuthetsa mkangano:

• Otsutsana akuyesetsa kukwaniritsa maudindo awo;
• amadziwa nkhondo yomwe alipo;
• malonjezano omwe adafika atchulidwa;
• mitundu yonse yothetsera ikufufuzidwa.