Kukonzekera moyo wapadera kwa mtsikana wakhala nthawizonse vuto. Sikokwanira kukomana ndi mnyamata woyenera, ayenera kukhala wokondweretsedwa, kukopa. Ndipo posachedwa msungwana angayambe kufunafuna yankho la funso: mungasonyeze bwanji chikondi chanu kwa mnyamata.
Kodi mungasonyeze bwanji chikondi kwa mnyamata?
Sonyezani mnyamata yemwe mumamukonda mungathe kuchita zinthu, monga, mwachitsanzo, chitani anyamata olimba mtima, anyamata omwe mumawakonda patsiku ndikuwapatsa zizindikiro za chidwi. Inde, izi ndi kuphwanya maudindo achikhalidwe, ndipo si zoyenera kwa atsikana onse, koma ngati munthuyo ndi wodzichepetsa, simungakhoze kuyembekezera kuti mumuitane.
Osakhalanso atsikana olimba mtima kuti asonyeze mmene amamvera, mungalangize kuti muwonetsetse kwambiri zomwe mumamvera. Popeza kuti makamaka ndi ntchito ya munthu kuti achite zinthu zopanda pake, mtsikana akhoza kusonyeza malingaliro ake mwachikondi ndi chisamaliro. Ngati pali mwayi, wokondedwa akhoza kuchiritsidwa ndi zakudya zokoma zomwe akupanga, kuyendera nthawi ya matenda, zosangalatsa zodabwitsa. Zizindikiro izi zazing'ono popanda mawu zimamuuza munthuyo za momwe akumvera.
Kodi mungatsimikizire bwanji kuti mumakonda mnyamata ali patali?
Ngakhale ngati chinthu chozama kwambiri chiri kutali, mungathebe kusonyeza chikondi chanu kwa iye. Umboni woyamba ndi umphumphu. Ngati banjali liri ndi anthu ambiri omwe amadziwana nawo, mnyamata angadziwe mosavuta kuti msungwana sakuphonya, ndipo anzakewa ndi abwenzi ake adzawadziwa bwino. Choncho, ngati mtsikana akufuna kutsimikizira chikondi chake ndi kukhulupirika kwake, ayenera kuchita mosalakwitsa.
Njira yachiwiri - kuyang'anitsitsa zochitika za wokondedwa, maganizo ake, ndi zina zotero. Pali njira zambiri zolankhulirana lero, kotero ngakhale patali, mukhoza kulankhula ndi kuwonana.
Ndipo chomaliza kwa atsikana omwe akufuna kuphunzira momwe angatsimikizire chikondi chawo kwa mnyamata - musaiwale za kukula kwa chiwerengero. Kutengeka kwambiri kwa mtsikanayo sikungamukope kokha, koma m'malo mwake mumusokoneze. Chikondi sichitsutsa kudzilemekeza.