Mu moyo, pali zochitika zomwe munthu angachite molakwitsa, zomwe pambuyo pake amadandaula kwambiri. Ngati izi zikukuchitikirani, mukuganiza kuti mungabwezere bwanji chikhulupiliro cha wokondedwa wanu. Chinthu chachikulu chimene chiyenera kukumbukira pa izi ndikuti sikungatheke kukonza mwamsanga. Yesetsani ntchito yayitali pa chiyanjano.
Momwe mungathenso kutaya chikhulupiriro mu chiyanjano?
Zambiri zimadalira chifukwa cha kutaya chikhulupiriro . Ngati munanama ndipo bodza lanu silinabveke - ichi ndi chinthu chimodzi. Ngati mukuchita zoipa muzochitika zilizonse - ndizosiyana. Ndipo chidaliro cha mkhalidwewo ndi choipa kwambiri, ngati mwasintha, kapena mwakhala mukukondana ndi munthu wina.
Munthu aliyense amakhudzidwa ndi zovuta m'maganizo osiyanasiyana: ena amayamba kufuula ndikusokoneza maubwenzi, ena amasungidwa mwa iwoeni, ena ambiri amayesera kuti asatuluke kuti adziwonetse okha. Kaya chikhalidwe cha khalidwe lanu ndi chiyani, munthu ayenera kuvomereza.
Yesetsani kuyankhula, kufotokozani malo anu, tiuzeni chifukwa chake mwachita chimodzimodzi momwe munachitira pamene mwazindikira kuti mwalakwitsa. Ngati simudziwa nokha, munthuyo mwiniyo adzabwera ndi chirichonse, ndipo akhulupirire ine, ichi sichoncho chabwino.
Momwe mungabwezeretse chidaliro cha munthu pambuyo pa chiwembu?
Choyamba, ganizirani ngati mukufunadi chiyanjano chanu, ngati mwatengapo mbali mwanjira imeneyi? Mukudziwa bwino kuti kusakhulupirika kwanu kudzakhala kowawa kwambiri kwa mnzanuyo, koma izi sizinakulepheretseni kuchotsa mphindi. Choyamba, dzimvetse nokha, mwa zolinga za khalidwe lanu, ndiyeno pitirizani kuwongolera.
Pa mtima wobwereranso kumakhala kukambirana moona mtima. Pokhapokha mutanena zonse (osati mwatsatanetsatane) ndikuvomereza kulakwa kwanu, mukhoza kupitiriza.
Tsopano muyenera kumvetsa ndi kuopa kwake, kulola kulamulira, nthawi zonse kuyankhula komwe muli komanso ndi ndani. Musapitirire mochulukirapo, pitirizani kulekerera ndi kuzunzidwa. Lankhulani ndi munthuyo ndi kunena kuti mukhoza kukhala pamodzi, ngati mutha kuthandizana ndi kuiwala zomwe zinachitika. Sikoyenera kuti tinyalitsidwe, monga kuchita mwaukali. Pano mukufunikira kukhudzidwa, kulingalira komanso kumvetsetsa - pokhapokha pali mwayi wobwezeretsa chiyanjano .
Koma sikungatheke kuti ubale wina tsiku lina udzakhala wofanana ndi umene unalipo kale. Cholemetsa chachitampu chimene mumawayika chidzakhala ndi chidziwitso kwa nthawi yaitali.