Chikondi choyamba kwamuyaya chimakumbukira, mwa akazi ndi amuna. Anthu ambiri amakumbukira nthawi imeneyi ngati yowala komanso yosangalatsa, ndipo ena kwa nthawi yaitali amazunzidwa ndi nkhawa ngati zingatheke kusintha chinachake ndikusunga maganizo kapena ayi. Chiwerengero chachikulu cha anthu chili ndi chidwi chochita ngati sindingathe kuiwala chikondi choyamba. Mkhalidwe wotero ndi wowopsa, chifukwa zakale sizikulolani kuti mupite patsogolo ndi kumanga maubwenzi ndi anthu ena.
Kodi n'zotheka kuiwala chikondi choyamba?
Lingaliro lakuti nthawi yamachiritsi ndi lolakwika, chifukwa chofunikira kwambiri ndi mtima womwe umakulolani kuti muchitire munthu mosiyana. Akatswiri a zamaganizo amalangiza kukumba mwaokha, kulingalira, chifukwa chiyanjano choyambirira sichikupumula, mwinamwake, simunasankhe kanthu ndi wokondedwa wanu ndipo simunayambe kumaliza. Ganizirani zifukwa zogwirizanitsa, chifukwa chinachake sichinagwirizane ndi munthu ngati mutagawanika. Panthawi yachisoni, kumbukirani mikhalidwe yosasangalatsa imene inabweretsa ululu. Mankhwala oterewa adzakuthandizani kuiwala za maubwenzi akale.
Malangizo momwe mungaiwale chikondi choyamba cha mnyamata:
- Nthawi zina, kukomana ndi wokondedwa wanu kumathandiza, ngakhale kulankhulana kwachidule kumatsimikizira kuti munthu wasintha komanso maganizo omwe poyamba simukuwadziwa. Kukumbukira ndi zowona ndizo ziwiri zosagwirizana.
- Kuiwala chikondi choyambirira kukuthandizani, monga momwe mwatsopano ndikumverera bwino komanso kolimba. Ndi ntchitoyi idzakuthandizani kulimbana ndi madera osiyanasiyana, mwachitsanzo, mukhoza kudzipeza nokha zosangalatsa zomwe mumakonda kapena mupite ulendo.
- Osakhala pakhomo, ndipo osamira mu malingaliro anu okhumudwa, pakuti izi zidzangowonjezera mkhalidwewo. Gwiritsani ntchito nthawi pa anthu, kuyankhulana ndi anzanu achikulire ndikupanga anzanu atsopano. Mwinamwake pakati pa nkhope zatsopano mudzapeza bwino m'malo mwa malingaliro akale.