Palibe njira yosavuta kuwonera pakati pa abwenzi monga zosasangalatsa komanso ngakhale ntchentche, m'malo moyamba kukumana ndi mwamuna wokwatiwa. Inu mumakhala razluchnitsu, kumene abwenzi aakazi amadzibisa mosamala amuna awo, ndi omwe amawerenga bwino nkhaniyo, ndipo poipa - akupera mafupa kumbuyo kwake. Kukumana ndi mwamuna wokwatiwa ndi tchimo, ndipo tchimo losakhululukidwa - ndicho chimene akuyesera kukuuzani. Koma kodi zili choncho?
Kotero ndizozoloŵera kuti aziimba mlandu mkazi chifukwa cha chiwembu, zomwe amati, amatsogolera mwamunayo, ngati kuti wasiya mbuzi pakutsitsa. Koma ngati angakonde (inde, kuti avomereze kukhala mkazi), chinthu china ndi chakuti n'zosadabwitsa kuti mwamunayu amakonda mkazi wina. Pamapeto pake, aliyense ali ndi ufulu womenyera chimwemwe chake, ndipo njira zomwe timasankha zimangokhala pa chikumbumtima chathu.
Kukumana ndi mwamuna wokwatira ndi bizinesi yanu. Kuphatikiza pa malingaliro owonongeka a anthu, mumakhala ndi chiopsezo ndi mtima wanu. Nkhani zokhudzana ndi nthawi yomwe abambo angasamalire amayi awo osankhidwa ndi malonjezano zakhala kale zotsutsana. Chikondi chimaphatikizidwa ndi kulemekezedwa, choncho ndizomveka kuganiza kuti munthu wachikondi adzayesa kutsimikiza kuti wokondedwa wake sakukumana ndi mwamuna wokwatiwa, kudziwonetsera yekha kuchititsidwa manyazi. Mwachidule, iye amayesa kutenga udindo, osati kukukakamizani kuti mubise.
Koma ngati simuli mwezi woyamba mumamva izi:
- mu banja tsopano ndi nthawi yovuta (wina ali odwala, kukhumudwa kwamanjenje, amatsenga, ndi zina zotero), ndipo pokhapokha mutatha kuthana ndi mavuto omwe mukhoza kukhala pamodzi;
- kwa osankhidwa a mkazi wake sanakhudze miyezi ingapo ndipo, mochuluka, amakhala ngati alendo.
... mwachidziwitso, muyenera kukhala okhutira ndi udindo wa ambuye ndi kupitirira. Nchifukwa chiyani mwamuna ayenera kuswa idyll (ndi momwe iye akuonera, zofanana ndi izi), kuti agawane katundu ndipo mosakayikira apange adani.
Mukakumana ndi mwamuna wokwatiwa popanda kunena mumtima mwake, chilichonse chimakhala chophweka kwambiri. Osati iwe, kotero winayo, ndithudi, adzakhala mbuye wake. Komabe, ndi munthu womasuka kuti akhale pa chibwenzi ndikumachepetsa kwambiri.
Kumene mungakumane ndi mwamuna wokwatira?
Lamulo loyamba: musabwere kunyumba kwake. Lemekezani mkazi wina, si mdani wa anthu kokha chifukwa adakumana ndi wokondedwa wanu kale.
Ngati muli ndi nyumba yanu, ndipo simukuopa kufotokozedwa ndi anansi anu, ndiye kuti mukhoza kumubweretsa nokha. Komabe, ndibwino kuti musalole kuti malo anu azifulumira. Tawonani momwe ubale wanu udzakhalire. Koposa, samalirani kuti mukakumana ndi ndani ayenera kukhala pa mwamuna. Kaya ndi hotelo, nyumba yomwe ili ndi mlingo wa ola limodzi kapena sauna - ikhale yoyamba kutenga choyamba. Pazimenezi mudzatha kuzindikira kukula kwa ubale wanu.