Maonekedwe a mwana m'banja si chisangalalo komanso chimwemwe, komanso mavuto ena, komanso pamene mwana wachiwiri wabadwa, komanso ngakhale pang'ono panthawi yoyamba, zovuta zonse ndi mavuto akuwonjezeka kawiri. Amayi ambiri omwe angakhale ndi nyengo ya nyengo amawopa kuti zimachitika zovuta, mantha ndi zokayikitsa zosiyanasiyana zimawasokoneza pa nthawi ya mimba yachiwiri. Winawake akuwopa kuti chikondi chake sichikwanira kwa ana awiri, ndipo wina amawopsedwa ndi mavuto oyambirira apakhomo. Ngati mumakhulupirira mauthenga a amayi omwe ali pa intaneti, zimakhala zovuta chaka choyamba, ndiye zimakhala zophweka kwambiri.
Choyamba, panthawi yoyembekezera ndi kofunika kukonzekera mwana wamkulu kuti awoneke watsopano m'banja. Fotokozerani kuti posachedwa adzakhala ndi bwenzi lapamtima komanso mwamuna wapafupi, mchimwene wake kapena mlongo wake. Phunzitsani mwana wanu kudziimira, ndipo onetsetsani kumutamanda ngati akuthandizani mwanjira ina. Kukulitsa nyengo sikuli kovuta kwa inu mukamayandikira, mwachikondi komanso mopanda phindu. Ndikofunika kusintha momwe nyengo imakhalira kotero kuti palibe zochitika zomwe mayi ayenera kudula pakati pa ana awiri.
Zochita ndi phindu la kubereka ana-nyengo
Mu maonekedwe a ana, nyengo mu banja ili ndi zokhazokha ndi zosungirako. Chofunika kwambiri, ndi zoona kuti ana adzakhala mabwenzi apamtima mtsogolo, zofuna zambiri ndi masewera adzawasonkhanitsa pamodzi. Kungokangana kwakukulu "kwa" nyengo ndi njira yothetsera ndalama, makamaka pa gawo loyambirira: zinthu, zovala, toyesero zidzatengera mwana wokalamba kupita kwa wamng'ono kwambiri, zomwe zingapulumutse bajeti ya banja. Amayi ambiri ali ndi funso: momwe angayendere ndi pogodkami? Ndipo apa ili kale vuto, koma kuthetsedwa! Chilichonse chimadalira nthawi ya chaka, zaka za ana ndi khalidwe lawo, kukhalapo kwa othandizira pafupi, ndi moyo wamba wa mayi. Kuthandiza kubwera wozungulira kapena kuponyera mwana; achibale omwe ali okonzeka kuyenda nanu paulendo; masewera a ana. Chinthu chachikulu, kumbukirani: kubadwa kwa nyengo sikuyenera kukuchititsani mantha, pakapita nthawi mudzakhala ndi miyambo yanu, ndipo kuyenda ndi ana awiri, olemekezeka kuzipanga, adzayamba kubweretsa chisangalalo kwa ana okha.
Tsopano, kawirikawiri palibe aliyense amene amasankha mwana wachitatu, ndipo mawonekedwe a m'banja la nyengo yosiyana ndi kugonana ndi yowonjezera kuphatikiza.
Kumvetsetsa momwe mungagwirire ndi pogodki kumangokhala ndi chidziwitso, simungathe kukhumudwa ndi mantha. Onetsetsani kuti muwonetse chikondi chanu ku zinyenyeswazi zonse, mwinamwake pachiyambi makamaka kwa mwana wamkulu, kuti asakhale ndi nsanje kapena zopanda phindu. Kulankhulana ndi amayi ena a nyengo, kugawana zakukhosi kwanu. Onetsetsani kuti simungadandaule ndi njira yotereyi, ndipo pakapita kanthawi mudzakumbukira nthawi iyi ya moyo ndi kumwetulira ndi chifundo.