Chikhalidwe cha banja chikuwonetsedwa m'malembawa, iwo ali ndi chidwi ndi kuyankhulana kwa ntchito, ngakhale pamene akulembetsa pa malo ambiri amafunika kuti asonyeze chidziwitso ichi. Kodi munganene chiyani kuti "wokwatira" za mkazi?
Kodi ukwati ndi wotani?
Pali mitundu yotsatira yaukwati: wosakwatira, wosudzulana, wokwatira. Lamulo la malamulowa likuwonekera kwa aliyense, koma ndicho chomwe chikwati cha abwana akulembera ndi nkhani yaikulu.
Kodi chikhalidwe cha banja chidzati chiyani kwa abwana?
Zikuwoneka kuti njira yabwino yopezera ntchito pa graph ndiyo kukwatira okwatirana. Koma ayi, kupezeka kwa banja kungakhale kokha kwa munthu - abwana ake adzakonzekera kuti azikhala masiku ndi usiku kuntchito. Koma kuchokera kwa mkazi wamng'ono wosakwatiwa akudikirira unyolo wosasinthasintha: maulendo obwereza - ukwati - lamulo. Ndipo ngati mkazi ali ndi zaka zoposa 35 ndipo iye sanakwatiranepo, ndiye kuti izi sizingapangitse abwanawo - mwadzidzidzi chifukwa chake ndi khalidwe loipa la wopemphayo?
Akazi okwatiwa opanda ana sali pabwino - amayembekezereka kuchoka pa chigamulocho, ndipo amayi omwe ali ndi mwana wamng'ono sakufuna kugwira ntchito, chifukwa amadwala nthawi yodwala chifukwa cha matenda a mwana.
Mkazi amene ali pachikwati cha boma siyenso chokoma kwa abwana - kusakhutira kukhazikitsa chiyanjano mwalamulo kungasonyeze kusakhazikika ndi ntchito.
Choncho, wokhala woyenera ndi mkazi wosudzulana kapena wokwatiwa ali ndi mwana wamkulu.
Kodi mungasinthe bwanji chikwati muzolembazo?
Popeza tapeza kuti kulembetsa mgwirizano walamulo n'kofunika, ndi bwino kukumbukira mwambo wa chikhalidwe chonse. Kukhalapo kwa chilembetsero chaukwati sikunakupatseni inu mokwanira kulemba mawu amatsenga "okwatira" ku funso laukwati. Iyenso akufunikanso kuyika chizindikiro mu pasipoti.
Kusintha malo okwatirana mu pasipoti muyenera kugwiritsa ntchito ku ofesi ya pasipoti pamalo anu okhala. Musaiwale kuti ngati mutasintha dzina lanu, ndiye kuti pasipoti iyenera kusinthidwa.
Ukwati siwokwatirana!
Koma zikalatazo ndizolemba, koma sitikhala pamapepala. Ndipo ukwati ndi zambiri kuposa chizindikiro mu pasipoti. Tinamva, mwinamwake, mawu akuti: Ukwati siwokwatirana, koma ndondomeko "Kwa kulimba mtima". Ndi ichi sitingathe kusagwirizana, ndi zovuta kuti tisayikane mphete pa chala chanu, koma tizisunge pamenepo. Mkazi amafunikira kulimbika mtima ndi kulimbitsa mtima kuti akhale ndi chikhulupiliro m'banja komanso kusunga chikondi cha zaka zambiri. Koma udindo wa banja losangalala sizimangokhala pazigawo zazing'ono zazing'ono, thandizo la mkaziyo lifunikanso pano. Ngakhale, izo zimadalira pa banja, mwachitsanzo, akatswiri a maganizo amaganiza mitundu yosiyanasiyana ya mabanja.
- Ubale, umene tinakambirana nawo, pamene udindo waukwati umagawidwa mofanana pakati pa okwatirana, akatswiri a maganizo amalingalira kuti ali pafupi. Union of Companions ndi yokhazikika, chifukwa amafunikira kutsutsana osati kudzidalira okha, koma kusankha njira yowusamutsira banja. Chikondi muukwati woterowo ndi wosasamala, osapempha kugonjera kwathunthu kwa mnzanuyo.
- Chiyanjano chomwe chimakhalapo nthawi zambiri ndi ukwati wodalirika - mmodzi wa okwatirana amamverera kuti ali ndi udindo kwa wina ndipo amasamalira mavuto ake onse. Mwamuna samagwira ntchito yowisamalira nthawi zonse, posachedwapa akazi akukhala ngati chipilala cha banja.
- Pali mabanja omwe okwatirana amayesetsa kwambiri kuti asunge ufulu wawo. Iwo akhoza ngakhale kukhala moyo mosiyana ndi kudzilola okha kukhala ndi misonkhano yosangalatsa "kumbali".
- Sizodziwika kwambiri kuti pali mgwirizano umene awiriwo amapeza kuti ndi ndani yemwe ali mbuye wa banja. Mipikisano pambaliyi ndi yopitirira. Maukwati oterewa kawirikawiri amakhala otalika, nthawi zambiri awiriwa amagawana njira ndipo sadziwa kuti ndi ndani amene ayenera kukhala patsogolo.
- Chiyanjano china chosagwirizana ndi chiyanjano chimene okwatirana amakhulupirira kuti ayenera kukhala a wina ndi mnzake, osakhala ndi ufulu pa miyoyo yawo. Nawonso, mikangano siikusowa, koma chifukwa chochitira iwo nsanje ndi nsanje.
Monga momwe mukuonera, mawu achidule onena za chikwati akunena za momwe zinthu ziliridi sizinthu zambiri. Choncho musaganize kuti amayi onse okwatiwa amakhala osangalala komanso ogwira ntchito, komanso osowa a razvedenok.