Mwinamwake, aliyense wa ife anakumana ndi vuto ngati limeneli, wina pa zowawa zawo, ndi wina, kutonthoza bwenzi lomwe "silinagwire ntchito." Zili choncho, lingaliro lirilonse la momwe mungaiwale munthu amene mumamukonda, osati kuti mulole usiku komanso kuti musamayeke pamtsamiro. Zili bwino kuti mwamsanga muiwale wokondedwa wanu, ziribe kanthu momwe mukuyesera, izo sizigwira ntchito, zimatenga nthawi ndi zina, bwino. Koma mungathe kufulumizitsa ntchitoyi pogwiritsa ntchito nthawi moyenera. Tiyeni tione njira zomwe mungaiwale wokondedwa wanu kosatha.
Gawo 1
Chinthu choyamba chimene muyenera kuchita kuti muiwale wokondedwa wanu ndikuzindikira momveka bwino kuti ali kale kale gawo lanu. Ndipo palibe nzeru kubwerera. Musayende mozungulira mmoyo wanu wonse. Ndipo popeza tinaganiza kuti tiiwale, ndiye kuti tifunika kuchitapo kanthu nthawi yomweyo, sitiyenera kukhala ndi chidwi ndi moyo wakale, kuyitana ndikukonzekera zopanda pake. Ingochotsani nambala ya foni ndikuletsa abwenzi anu kuti akudziwitse za moyo wake, inu simukulikonda tsopano. Zoona, poyankha funso la momwe tingaiwale wokondedwa wathu zabwino, akatswiri ena azachipatala amapereka uphungu woitana anthu akale. Koma nthawi zina, komanso ngati mukufuna kuitanitsa nambala yake kwambiri. Chilakolako chosadziwika chingayambitse kukhumudwa, choncho muyenera kuyitana, koma kuti muyankhule momasuka. Ngati simukumva kuti muli ndi luso lanu, muiwale nambala yake ya foni, adiresi ya e-mail ndi ena.
Gawo 2
Malangizo a katswiri aliyense wamaganizo, momwe angaiwale wokondedwa wake, adzakhala ndi chiganizo chotsatirachi: "Musasunge maganizo anu nokha." Izi zikutanthauza kuti muyenera kupeza womvera woyamikira ndikupeza bongo wabwino, ndikukuuzani momwe zimapwetekera ndi zina zotero. Ngati womverayo sapezeka, kapena ngati simungataya mtima pazifukwa zina, yesetsani kuwapatsa njira ina. Mwachitsanzo, kodi mumakwiya kwambiri? Awonetseni zithunzi zake kuti zikhale zowonongeka, ponyani zidole zofewa zomwe zimaperekedwa kwa iwo, kumbali, kuponyera zinthu zake kuchokera khonde (mwa anthu okhawo omwe sakupita), chirichonse.
Gawo 3
Simudziwa kuti mungaiwale mwamsanga wokondedwa wanu? Psychology imatilangiza ife kuganiza ngati zinali zabwino, kuti tisiyane zonse zomwe zili zabwino ndi zoipa. Kumbukirani njira yakale: timagawanika pepala limodzi ndi kulemba limodzi limodzi, ndi zina, zosungira. Kawirikawiri njira iyi imathandizira, ngati simungaiwale wokondedwa wanu, ndiye kuti muyenera kudandaula. Mayi wokhumudwa amapeza zolakwika zambiri zomwe zimatha kumadzaza tebulo, pomwe adakali ndi chirombochi.
Gawo 4
Kodi mungayese bwanji kuiwala wokondedwa wanu? Ndipo mwanjira iliyonse, imani kale, kumapeto, yesetsani kuti muzitsatira mosalekeza. Khalanibe ndi moyo, mu moyo pali zambiri zambiri zabwino, ndipo zinali, ndipo ziri, ndipo zidzakhala. Musamangidwe kumbuyo. Chabwino, kotero kuti malingaliro osafunikira sakukuchezerani inu, mudzaze tsiku lanu ndi ntchito mpaka malire. Izi sizikutanthauza kuti ndizofunika kuti zikhale zovuta kwambiri, kuyenda mu malo osungirako malo, masewera ndi abwenzi, maphunzilo olimbitsa thupi (m'katikati mwa kudula ndi kusoka, kuumba kuchokera ku pulasitiki, kuvomereza zolimbitsa thupi) ndizofunika kwambiri pa lingaliro la "bizinesi". Ndipo mutatha tsiku lotanganidwa, palibe malingaliro opanda chisoni omwe sangakhale nawo nthawi yothetsera malingaliro anu, thupi lidzafuna mwamsanga mpumulo ndipo palibe masewero achikondi panthawi ino
Khwerero 5
Kaŵirikaŵiri kumacheza ndi okondedwa anu, sititha kumvetsa kwa nthawi yaitali kuti padzakhala malo osangalala. Kuti mupirire kukhumudwa, phunzirani, tsiku lirilonse kuti muwone zinthu zing'onozing'ono zomwe zinakupangitsani kumwetulira. Ziribe kanthu kuti zidzakhala zotani, khofi yokometsetsa ndi mkate, walawa mu cafesi yokondweretsa, mwana wamphongo ndi maso odabwa, akuyang'ana gulugufe kapena lipoti lovomerezeka. Chimwemwe chiri, ndipo chiri mu zinthu zing'onozing'ono izi. Usiku uliwonse kumbukirani zomwe zinachitika pa tsiku labwino. Kotero inu mudzayanjananso kachiwiri kumamwetulira dziko, ndipo iye adzakumbatirani mobwerezabwereza kwa inu.