Chikondi chosadziŵika chinachitikira pafupifupi aliyense wa ife. Kawirikawiri ichi ndi chikondi choyamba, wachinyamata, koma chimachitika ukalamba. Koma zokwanira kunena kuti "Ndikuvutika ndi chikondi chosadziwika ...", tiyeni tiyambe kuganizira zomwe tingachite pa izo.
Chikondi chosadziŵika - choti uchite chiyani?
Chikondi chimakhala chosangalatsa kwambiri, koma bwanji ngati chikondi sichingatheke? Choyamba, kukhudzidwa koyamba, kudzakhala chilakolako chodzimvera pamodzi. Koma simunayesere kale? Ngati chirichonse chinayesedwa, ndipo chilakolako chokhumba chikanakhala chozizira, musaganize kuti nkhaniyi mu maonekedwe athu kapena zolakwa zina sizingatheke. Zimapezeka kuti mwamuna samvetsera msungwana wamkazi wokongola kwambiri, pamapazi a gulu la mafani, koma amapeza chimwemwe chake ndi "imvi". Ndikovuta kuti musayambe kukondana ndi wina aliyense koma osagwira, kotero mumayenera kuchoka kwa okondedwa anu, ndi kuchotsa kumverera kwa chikondi chopanda chikondi. Pali njira zingapo zomwe mungapulumutsidwire chikondi chosasangalatsa, koma chinthu chachikulu chimene muyenera kuchita ndicho kufuna kuthana ndi vutoli. Pambuyo pake, izi sizinakupangitse kanthu koma kuzunzika, choncho ndi nthawi yowaletsa.
Kodi mungapulumutse motani chikondi chosagonjetsedwa?
Atasankha kuchotsa chikondi chosadziwika kwa mnyamata, apa pali mfundo zingapo za momwe mungachitire.
- Mmene mungalimbanire ndi chikondi chosagonjetsedwa? Yesani kuiwala za nkhani ya kuusa moyo kwake. Koma zidzakhala zovuta kuchita izi ngati nthawi zonse mukukumana nazo kapena ndi kukukumbutsani. Choncho, yesetsani kukumana naye pang'ono pa ntchito (kuphunzira). Kuchotsa panyumba kuchotsa zonse zomwe zingakumbutse - zithunzi zofala, zinthu zina zomwe zingakukumbutseni. Mwachitsanzo, kamodzi pamene adanena kuti mukuwoneka bwino kwambiri mumphuno iyi, ndipo mumabweretsa ku mabowo, kotero kuti akuyang'aninso. Zokwanira, mukudikirira moyo watsopano, kotero bayi kuchitapo kanthu (ngati mumakonda kwambiri, gulani chinthu chomwecho, ndi chinthu chatsopano, osakumbukira zomwe zilipo), ndipo muli ndi chiyembekezo chopanda kanthu chogonjetsa mtima wosafikirika. Komanso kuchokera pa chiwerengero chake akuchokera ku bukhu la foni, kotero kuti palibe chilakolako chomuimbira nthawi yachisoni chachikulu.
- Chikondi chosagwirizanitsidwa nthawi zambiri chimayambitsa matenda, ndipo maganizo a maganizo amalimbikitsa kulimbana nawo ndi nthawi yomwe yapangidwa kuti musakhale ndi nthawi yoganizira, chifukwa chake chikondi chanu sichinasinthe, cholakwika ndi inu, ndi chifukwa chake chiri chopanda chifundo komanso chopanda pake kudzikonda. Kodi muyenera kuchita chiyani ndi nthawi? Chilichonse - ntchito, chatsopano, zosangalatsa.
- Ndi chiyani chinanso chimene mungachite kuti mupirire chikondi chosadziwika? Onetsani kumverera kotere kwa inu nokha. N'chifukwa chiyani muyenera kugwiritsa ntchito mphamvu zanu zauzimu pa munthu amene saziyamikira? Dzikondeni nokha, pangani zopatsa, pangani zosangalatsa zanu nokha - dzigulireni nokha chovala chochitidwa nthawi yaitali, tumizani ku misala, dzipatseni chinthu chokoma, yong'onetsani zokondweretsa zomwe mumazikonda, mukhoza kukondana ndi mapeto okondwa.
- Kawirikawiri amayi, omwe akufuna kuyika siteji yatsopano pamoyo wawo, amasintha mtundu wa tsitsi ndi tsitsi. Bwanji osagwiritsa ntchito njirayi? Ndipo mukhoza kupita patsogolo kwambiri osati kusintha kokha tsitsi, koma mumabweretsanso chithunzi chatsopano, mogwirizana ndi zomwe muyenera kutenga zovala, nsapato, ndikudziwitsanso njira yatsopano yojambula.
- Chifukwa chovutika kwambiri ndi chikondi chopanda chikondi, ambiri amasankha kupeza chitonthozo ndi munthu wina, nthawi zambiri sali okondweretsa. Akazi amachita izi kuti adziwonetsere kuti sizinayamikiridwe ndi munthu wina amene sankamugonjetsa. Izi siziri zofunikira, chifukwa chimodzi chosavuta - simungathe kupeza chitonthozo mu ubale woterewu, koma mudzakhumudwa ndi supuni yonse, chifukwa ngakhale chidwi chenicheni cha munthu wosayanjanitsa chidzakukumbutsani ndi amene mukufuna kukondana naye. Kotero musati muthamangire mmanja mwa wina, ingodikirani pang'ono. Kutsekera konse kuchokera kwa amuna, inunso, simukusowa, koma zikhale zowonjezera, ndizochita misonkhano yopanda malire komanso nthawi yogwiritsidwa ntchito bwino.