Ubwenzi pakati pa mnyamata ndi mtsikana

Pali anthu omwe amakhulupirira kuti oimira amphamvu ndi ofooka omwe angakhale abwenzi angakhale abwenzi, makamaka ngati akugawana zofuna ndi zolinga zomwezo . Komabe, malingaliro a ambiri, ubwenzi pakati pa mnyamata ndi mtsikana sungatheke konse, motero chikondi kapena chikondi chimabwera, kapena wina amakhalabe ndi maganizo osaganizira komanso mtima wosweka. Tiyeni tiwone ngati anthu osiyana nawo kugonana angakhale mabwenzi abwino popanda chikondi cha ubale, kapena ubwenzi wa mtsikana ndi mnyamata sizowonetsera.

Maganizo 1. Palibe mabwenzi

Ali wamng'ono, moyo ndi wosiyana, zonse zimawoneka zophweka komanso zomveka bwino, ndipo bwenzi ndi bwenzi, ndipo sitikuganiza kuti ndi chiani. Koma kukula, zovuta padziko lapansi zimakhala zovuta ndipo, ndithudi, ubwenzi ndi anyamata sizingakhale zophweka. Choncho, monga lamulo, kugwirizana pakati pa mkazi ndi mwamuna kuli ndi zochitika zotsatirazi:

1. Chikondi chapakati . Ubwenzi wa mnyamata ndi mtsikana umaphatikizapo nthawi yodziphatikizana, zofuna zambiri ndi zochitika. Nthawi zonse pokhala palimodzi, anthu amayamba kumva chifundo kwa wina ndi mnzake, zomwe zimakhala chikondi. Mwa njirayi, ukwati pakati pa anzanu apamtima ndi wolimba komanso wokondwa, chifukwa banja ngatilo siliwopsedwa chifukwa cha kusamvana.
2. Mtima wosweka . Mmodzi wa abwenzi ndi chikondi mwachikondi, ndipo winayo sakuwona momwe akumvera. Monga lamulo, ubwenzi umenewu sukhalitsa nthawi yaitali, chifukwa wokondedwa ndi wovuta kukhala pafupi ndi munthu amene amamuwona ngati bwenzi basi. Choipa kwambiri, ngati munthu wokondedwa ali ndi theka lachiwiri, zomwe iye, ndithudi, adzanena, chifukwa ndinu abwenzi. Ndiye ndibwino kuthetsa chiyanjano kusiyana ndikumva zowawa ndi kudzipweteka nokha, powona momwe wokondedwa amakukwiyira. Mukhoza kuwulula malingaliro anu kuti muzindikire zomwe mukuchita, kapena mukhoza kungochoka popanda kufotokoza, kuti musamve chisoni ndi mnzanu wakale.

Mfundo 2. Ubwenzi ulipo

Zimapezeka kuti msungwana ndi chibwenzi amadziwa bwino nthawi yomwe amaphunzira ku sukulu kapena ngakhale ku sukulu ya kindergarten, ndiye kuti zenizeni kuti anthuwa adzalumikizana ndi ubwenzi weniweni. Ndipotu, kwa zaka zambiri akhala ngati banja, pafupifupi aliyense amadziwa za wina ndi mzake, amakhulupirira wina ndi mzake zinsinsi zawo, amapempha malangizo, mopanda mantha, kusagwirizana ndi kusamvetsetsana.

Ubwenzi ndi chibwenzi choyambirira

Atsikana ena amatsimikiza kuti munthu wakale m'tsogolo akhoza kukhala bwenzi lapamtima. Pambuyo pake, palibe amene angakumvetsereni monga munthu amene mudali naye limodzi, amene amadziwa zofuna zanu, zokonda zanu, zomwe mumakonda. Ndipotu, atatha kupatukana, okonda kale amakhalabe mabwenzi abwino, makamaka ngati ubalewu watha nthawi yokwanira ndipo anthu adzizoloŵana.

Ngati mukufuna kuti mnyamata wakale akhale bwenzi lanu, muyenera kuyembekezera pang'ono. Zilibe kanthu kuti ndani anayambitsa kupatukana, koma mulimonsemo ndikofunikira kuti nthawi yatha kuchokera nthawi yomwe chibwenzicho chikuwonongeka, chifukwa kumverera kumayenera kuchepetsa, ndi kunyoza, ngati Ndizomwe, zidzatha. Pambuyo pa masabata angapo kapena miyezi ingapo, pali mwayi wokhala anzanu abwino omwe amamvetsetsana bwino.

Komabe, ubwenzi woterewu uli ndi phindu, chifukwa theka lanu lachiwiri, mosakayikira silingavomereze chiyanjano choterocho, padzakhala zowonongeka, nsanje ndikuyenera kusankha - chikondi kapena ubwenzi.

Komanso, ubwenzi ndi mnyamata ukhoza kukuthandizani kuti mukhale ndi mbiri kachiwiri, ndipo mutha kukhala ndi buku kachiwiri, koma mwinamwake, idzatha mofanana ndi nthawi yoyamba.

Choncho, musanayambe kukhala pachibwenzi ndi munthu amene kale munali wokondedwa, ndi bwino kulingalira ngati mukufuna chiyanjano ichi.