Nthawi zambiri, tikawona banja laling'ono, timadzifunsa tokha kuti: "Kodi ali ndi chiyanjano chotani?". Nchifukwa chiyani iwo ali palimodzi? Mwamuna wamtali, wamtengo wapatali ndi msungwana wakuda, wopanda-kuzindikira, kapena mkazi wokongola, wokonzekera bwino ndi wamng'ono, wothandizira. Koma, komabe, iwo ali pamodzi kwa zaka zambiri, kukhala moyo, moyo mpaka moyo ndipo samayang'ana mawonekedwe odabwitsa a odutsa. Ponena za ubale wotere munganene kuti "kukonda zoipa," sakuwona zolakwa za theka lachiwiri.
Chikondi ndi choipa - mumakonda komanso ...
Kuchita kumatsimikizira kuti aliyense akhoza kukhala wachikondi, ngakhale mbuzi yolemekezeka yomweyo kuchokera mu mwambi wodziwika kwambiri. Malingana ndi chiwerengero, ambiri okwatirana amatha kusokonezeka pambuyo poti mmodzi mwa okwatirana akuyamba kumvetsa kuti theka lake silili langwiro. Amadutsa chilakolako chamisala, ndipo ali ndi malingaliro odwala komanso okondedwa akutembenukira ku khwangwala woyera kupita ku bakha wonyansa. Yambani kukwiyitsa zizolowezi zake zonse, mawonekedwe a maonekedwe ndi khalidwe.
Asayansi a yunivesite ina ku London anafunsa funso: chifukwa chiyani miyezi yoyamba (zaka) okonda amakondana mosamalitsa ndipo sazindikira zolephera. Zotsatirazi zinadabwiza ngakhale ofufuza okha. Izi zikusonyeza kuti chikondi cholimba chimapangitsa anthu kukhala osazindikira. Ubongo wawo umataya mphamvu yofufuza mozama zowona. Mu ubongo wa wokondedwa pali kusintha kwina komwe kumakhudza machitidwe omwe ali ndi udindo wokhudzidwa m'maganizo a zovuta zosiyanasiyana. Pachifukwa ichi, malo okhudza ubongo m'madera omwe amachititsa kuti chiwonongeko chichepetse. Chilankhulo chosavuta: mwamuna wachikondi amatha kuona chirichonse kudzera mu galasi la magalasi obiriwira, amachitapo kanthu pamtima nthawi zonse za moyo wake ndipo sadziwa kanthu kosalekeza.
Mbali yolakwika ya chikondi chopanda khungu kapena chifukwa chiyani mumakonda zoipa?
Chikondi ndi wakhungu. Ngati mumakonda kwenikweni, ziribe kanthu momwe munthuyo amawonekera, momwe amakhalira, zomwe akuchita, momwe amachitira ena. Pafupi ndi munthu ameneyu mumakhala wokondwa kwambiri padziko lapansi. Kotero ziyenera kukhala, muyenera kukonda munthu mwiniyo, osati mawonekedwe ake, udindo kapena ndalama. Koma ...
Mwamwayi, zimachitika kuti chikondi chopanda khungu chimaponyera mkazi mumadzi wa mavuto ndi zovuta. Amakonda munthu amene samamuyamikira komanso amamuchititsa manyazi. Iye ali wokonzeka kupirira zonsezi chifukwa cha chikondi chake. Mkazi wotereyo amafunikira thandizo la kunja, popeza iyeyo sangathe kulimbana nalo. Apo ayi, zingakhale zowawa za thupi kapena maganizo.
Zikuchitika kuti kugwera mu chikondi, mtsikanayo amatsegula maso ake ku khalidwe losayenera la mnzanuyo, kenako amayamba kugwiritsidwa ntchito ndi maganizo otere, ndipo pamene palibe mkodzo kuti apirire - amakhala ndi iye chifukwa cha mantha. Ichi ndi njira yolakwika. Ukapitiriza kukhala ndi munthu wotero, zimakhala zovuta kwambiri kuchotsa.
Chikondi - chinthu choyipa kwa iwo omwe ataya mutu wake. Mulimonsemo muyenera kukhala odziletsa komanso kudzidalira.
Kotero, ife, asungwana, sitiyenera kukondana ndi mbuzi yomweyo?
Yang'anani pozungulira, mwinamwake alipo munthu pafupi ndi inu amene akuyenereni chidwi chanu, yemwe adzakukondani, kuyamika ndi kuyamikira. Pangani, dziwani nokha mtengo ndipo musalole kuti aliyense asokoneze moyo wanu. Ngati kumverera kwakukulu kwakuphimbani kale, ndipo simungathe kufufuza bwinobwino, ndiye mvetserani malangizo a banja lanu ndi anzanu. Kawirikawiri, ndi kumbali yomwe amadziwa yemwe mumasankha. Sadzachotsa magalasi anu a pinki okha, koma adzakuthandizani kuthawa kuchoka ku ukapolo wa chikondi chowononga.