Kubwezeredwa, ngakhale kumalota m'maloto, kumabweretsa mavuto ambiri. Munthu akadzuka, nthawi zambiri amakhala ndi mantha komanso osasangalala. Kuti muchepetse kapena kukonzekera mayesero a moyo, ndibwino kuti mugwiritse ntchito kumasulira kwake, komatu pokhapokha mutayesedwa.
Kodi kugwiriridwa kumawoneka bwanji?
Kwa mtsikana wamng'ono maloto oterowo akuti wokondedwayo amadziwa yekha ngati chinthu chogonana ndipo palibe. Komabe zingakhale chizindikiro cha kuti kwenikweni palikumenyana kwakukulu ndi munthu wapafupi, amene ayenera kusankha posachedwa. Kwa mkazi wokwatiwa, maloto ndi chizindikiro cha ubale wolakwika ndi mwamuna kapena mkazi, mwinamwake, mumamva bwino. Wotanthauzira maloto, amene akulota kuti agwirizane, akumasulira, monga chitsimikizo, kuti mu moyo weniweni muyenera kukhala oleza mtima ndi anthu apamtima. Maloto ausiku omwe simungakhoze kuwona nkhope ya wodula ndi chizindikiro chakuti m'moyo weniweni anthu otere amakhala pafupi kuyesa kukuchititsani.
Kutanthauzira maloto okhudza kugwiriridwa makamaka kumadalira yemwe anali mu chigololo. Pokhala wowukira, ndiye kuti nthawi zambiri mumayesetsa kuletsa mtima, kuti musataye mkwiyo wochuluka kwa munthu wina. Kutanthauzira kwa maloto kumalimbikitsa kupeza njira ina yothetsera zolakwika, chifukwa izi zingayambitse chitukuko cha matenda osiyanasiyana. Masomphenya ausiku, omwe mumasungira chakukhosi, ndi chizindikiro chakuti mumamva kuti mulibe mphamvu ndipo simungathe kuthandiza munthu amene akufunikira.
Kuwona m'maloto kugwiriridwa kwa bwenzi, ndiye kuti kwenikweni mumakhala ndi zodziwikiratu kwa bwenzi lanu ndipo mumaganiza kuti simunamuthandize kuthana ndi vuto lomwe liripo. Komabe zikhoza kukhala chizindikiro cha mtsikanayo ali ndi mavuto m'banja kapena kuntchito.
Nchifukwa chiyani ndikuganiza kuti ndikugwiriridwa?
Pankhaniyi, malotowa amachititsa kusintha. Posakhalitsa, mavuto omwe alipo alipo adzatha ndipo moyo udzasintha. Ngati mukuwona kuyesa kugwiriridwa kuchokera kunja, zikutanthauza kuti m'moyo weniweni mukhoza kukopa anthu ena mosavuta, koma kumbukirani kuti khalidwe ngatilo lingayambitse mavuto ambiri. Maloto omwe wina amayesera kukudandaula ndinu chizindikiro kuti munthu wina ayesere kukugwiritsira ntchito pazinthu zawo.