Zikuwoneka kuti asungwana onse amadziwa kukondana ndi mnyamata, koma ena akufuna kuphunzira momwe angachitire. Kufotokozera kuti oimira amuna kapena akazi amachitira zachiwerewere osati momwe angafunire. Kuyambira kuti mudziwe momwe mungakopera ndi mnyamata bwino, kodi masewera osalakwawa angayambe mwa njira yapadera? Ndipotu, palibe amene angapereke ndondomeko yoyenera - anthu onse ndi osiyana, choncho timachita mosiyana ndi njira zathu. Ndipo musatsanzire aliyense, chifukwa mkazi aliyense ali ndi chidwi ndi umunthu wake weniweni, ndani amene akusowa timitengo? Koma, ngakhale zonsezi, pali zizoloŵezi zingapo zomwe nthawi zonse zinkathandiza amayi kupereka chizindikiro cha chidwi kwa iye.
Kodi mungaphunzire bwanji kukondana ndi anyamata?
- Zanenedwa kale kuti kukonda ndi masewera omwe samatha ndi bedi, zimadalira zolinga zomwe mumadzikonzera nokha. Ndipo kuyamba kuyambana ndi mwamuna, muyenera kudziwa momwe mungathere kuchokera ku chiwonetserochi - kugonana kapena mukungofuna kuti mutenge nthawi kuti mutenge nthawi yambiri, zomwe zimagwira ntchito bwino kuposa chokoleti), ndi zina zotero. Ndipo atatsimikiza cholinga, timachita moyenera. Ngati simukufuna kuwona, simukusowa zolaula zogonana, zokwanira zokhazokha.
- Tonse timadziwa kuti mtsikanayo kuyamba chibwenzi ndizosafunika. Ngakhale amayi amasiku ano omwe amafuna kutsindika kumasulidwa kwawo sali ochititsa manyazi kwambiri kuti asonyeze zoyesayesa m'mbali zonse za moyo, ndibwinobe kuchita izi, kuyamba kuyamba kukopa. Apo ayi, mumayesetsa kudziletsa nokha, choncho musachedwe. Ndiye, kodi muyenera kuchita chiyani kuti mumusonyeze munthuyo chidwi chake? Ndi zophweka - muyeneradi kukhala ndi chidwi ndi munthu uyu ndi kumasulidwa kwathunthu - khalidwe lanu lidzakuuzani chirichonse - m'chinenero cha manja omwe amadziwa kunena chirichonse, ngakhale sakudziwa za izo. Zonse zomwe mukusowa ndiziwonetsero zosangalatsa (palibe chifukwa chogowola mosamala chinthucho ndi maso anu, ngati kuti akukugwiritsani ntchito ndalama), kumwetulira moona mtima, momasuka. Pambuyo pake, inu mulimonsemo mumafuna kukondwa ndi kukonda ena, muziwongolera ndi kusangalala nawo masewerawa kuyambira maminiti ake oyambirira.
- Chabwino, apa pali nthawi yowonjezera, kuposa kuyang'ana nthawizonse, thupi loyendetsedwa molunjika kwa chinthu chokopa chinali ndi zotsatira zake, ndipo pakubwera mbali yovuta yofanana yowonongeka - kukambirana. Chimene munganene sikofunika kwambiri, chinthu chachikulu ndi momwe mungachitire. Lamulo lalikulu - lankhulani mochepa, mvetserani zambiri. Amuna amakonda kugonjetsa amayi ndi mfiti wawo, bwanji osapatsa mwayi umenewu. Ndipo ndemanga zonse zomwe zidzatulutsidwa simuyenera kukhala akunyoza, okhwima, chidwi chenicheni, chikhumbo chanu chothandizira kukambirana ndi chofunika. Ndipo kuopseza womulankhulana ndi mawu okhwima, mumayesetsa kuti musiye masewerawa. Ngati mphindi mukulankhulana yabwera, ndiye njira yabwino yopitiliza kulankhulana, idzakhala kuyamikirika kwa mwamuna. Ndi mwamuna, osati mawonekedwe ake. Mwachitsanzo, mumafuna kutamanda zobvala zake (zowonjezera), choti muchite chiyani? Kuti munene chidwi (chokongola, choyambirira) munasankha tie yanu (foni, mchere, etc.). Izi ndizofunikira kuti musamvetse kanthu, koma kuti munthu athe kusankha. Ndipo ndithudi, panthawi yolankhulana, kuwala kumalandiridwa,
kachiwiri kuti agogomeze chidwi chawo pa kukambirana. - Kodi mungatani kuti muzichita masewera olimbitsa thupi ndi mwamuna? Zikuwoneka kuti ndikudziwa choti ndichite, ndikuchita mogwirizana, komabe sizigwira ntchito. Zodziwika bwino? Chifukwa chake chingakhale chisankho chokwanira, kudzidalira kapena kuoneka kosadziwika. Pooneka kuti mwamunayo anangoima pa iwe, usazengereze kutsindika ndi kusonyeza ulemu wa chiwerengero chako. Osatengedwera ndi madiresi osamveka bwino, m'malo mwake amamukankhira mwamunayo, kapena iwe udzawoneka ngati mayi yemwe ali wovuta kwambiri.