Ubale ndi mwamuna wokwatira

Vuto la chiyanjano ndi mwamuna wokwatira ndilokale ngati kukhazikitsidwa kwaukwati. Mwatsoka, malingaliro sangathe kukakamizika kusankha chinthu choyenera kuti alemekezedwe, motero, pokhala chinyengo ndi kutseka maso anu ku khalidwe labwino ndi labwino la vutoli, tiyeni timvetsetse malingaliro a chiyanjano cha ubale ndi mwamuna wokwatira.

Psychology ya maubwenzi ndi mwamuna wokwatira

Atsikana omwe ali ndi chibwenzi ndi "osankhidwa" osankhidwa, nthawi zambiri amadzitsimikizira kuti, akuti, sakhala womasuka m'banja, mkazi wa ntchentche, ndipo ndi ine yekha amapeza kutentha kumene kuli koyenera. Mbali ina, maganizo awa ndi olondola: ndithudi, amuna ambiri sangasinthe theka lawo lachiwiri ngati zonse kapena pafupifupi zonse (pambuyo pa zonse, palibe chiyanjano chabwino) zogwirizana ndi moyo wa banja. Komabe, palinso zitsanzo zomwe zimagwirizana ndi mawu akuti "Mimbulu zingati sizidyetsa ...". Mwa kuyankhula kwina, ziribe kanthu momwe mkazi wake angakhalire osangalatsa, komanso nyengo yabwino ya banja, moyo wa tsiku ndi tsiku, ndi bedi, iye sangathe koma "kuyenda mbali" mwa njira iliyonse. Pali mitundu yambiri ya amayi odwala matendawa:

1. Lembani imodzi ndi "mitala" . Amuna oterewa sangathe kupeza chidwi ndi kutentha komwe akusowa paubwenzi ndi mkazi mmodzi. Kawirikawiri iwo anakulira limodzi ndi agogo ndi amayi, ndipo sakhala ndi mwayi wosankha pakati pa akazi awiri. Mwa njira, kawirikawiri mkazi ndi mbuye wa munthu wotere amagwirizana ndi maganizo a agogo ake ndi amayi ake. Motero, amangobwereza zomwe akudziŵa kuyambira ali mwana.
2. Mtundu wachiwiri ndi "wosonkhanitsa" . Kwa munthu wotero, mkazi aliyense wokhazikika ndi chikhomo chovomerezeka. Iye sangakhoze basi, mu mpikisano uwu wosatha kuti atsimikizire masculinity ake. Ngakhale atatha kuika mphete, mkazi wake, ndi bwino kugwirizanitsa ndi lingaliro lakuti sadzakhala yekhayo mzimayi m'moyo wake (ngakhale chimodzi mwa ziwiri, kawirikawiri nkhaniyi imapita kumabuku ambiri). Ubale ndi mwamuna woterewa sangakhale wotalika, chifukwa si cholinga chake, ndipo amayamba kulemedwa mofulumira ndi iwo.
3. Lembani zitatu - "masewera okonda kwambiri" - monga ngati mtundu wakale, koma cholinga chake si chigonjetso cha chikondi. Amakonda kudya zakudya za endorphins ndi adrenaline zomwe zimayambitsa magazi ake kumayambiriro kwa buku lililonse latsopano. Kawirikawiri amapeza maubwenzi angapo panthawi imodzimodzi, kotero zinali zosangalatsa kwambiri. Zomwe zimaperekedwa mosavuta kwa wonyamulira, koma "kukhala ndi moyo wautali ndi mosangalala" naye, nayenso, sagwira ntchito. Makhalidwe apamtima kwambiri a banja, kwa munthu woteroyo, atembenuke kukhala zingwe.

Monga momwe zikuonekera kuchokera ku mndandanda, maubwenzi ndi amayi omwe ali ndi vuto lachirombo kawirikawiri amalephera kutsogolo. Popeza kuti "mitala" sitingathe kuchoka m'banja lake, iye amakhutira ndi momwe alili ndi mkazi komanso ambuye. "Wosonkhanitsa" ndi "Wopambanitsa" ngati apanga banja latsopano, ndiye izi sizidzatha. Mwa njira, amuna okwatira amenewa ndi ambiri amene amayambitsa chiyanjano ndi mkazi kumbali.

Kodi mungathetse bwanji chibwenzi ndi mwamuna wokwatira?

Kawirikawiri, njira yokhayo yolandiridwa kuti mkazi athetsere ubale ndi mwamuna wokwatira. Choyamba, kutenga nawo mbali katatu, kumangotaya nthawi, chifukwa mwayi wopanga banja pano ndi wochepa. Chachiwiri, nsanje, nayonso, siinachotsedwe. Ndipotu, kuyang'ana kwake paulonda wake, bodza lililonse kwa mkazi wake pa foni, kuti adakanikizana ndi kupanikizana koopsa (zofunikira kuti agogomeze), koma posachedwa adzabwerera kunyumba, kuvulaza enawo. Mkazi aliyense akufuna kukhala wapadera ndi wapadera, osabisa chikondi chake, komanso osasewera pa ntchito.

Choncho, ngati mutasankha kusweka ndi wokondedwa wanu, dzifunseni funso lakuti "Kodi mumapeza chiyani kuchokera pachibwenzi ichi?", Osati zabwino zokha, komanso zoipa. Onetsetsani nokha. Ngati zotsatira zotsatizana za ubale wachikondi ndi mwamuna wokwatirana, zikupambanabe zomwe zimapindulitsa, kuchepetsa, kapena kusokoneza misonkhano yanu. Fufuzani munthu amene amakuyamikirani kwambiri. Munthu woteroyo angapezeke.