Ambiri samatha kudzimva okha ndipo akufunafuna kufotokozera za chikondi. Tikukupatsani malingaliro angapo omwe angakusonyezeni momwe mungasiyanitse chikondi chenicheni kuchokera kwa chikondi, chikondi ndi malingaliro ena ofanana omwe angathe kumanga anthu awiri.
Kodi chikondi chawonetsedwa bwanji?
Kusiyana kwakukulu pakati pa chikondi ndi malingaliro ena onse ndiko kusakhala kwathunthu kwa kudzikonda poyerekeza ndi chikondi. Mwa kuyankhula kwina, munthuyo adzakhala wofunikira kuposa chisangalalo cha wokondedwa, osati mwayi wokhala ndi iye, ngati mwadzidzidzi zimakhala kuti malingaliro sakugwirizana.
Pamene munthu ali pachikondi, akufunira - amafunikira nthawi, chidwi cha wokondedwa. Wokondedwa ali wokhutira - amafuna yekha kuchita zabwino kwa munthu wofunika kwambiri m'moyo wake, kuti am'patse chimwemwe. Chikhumbo cha chimwemwe chimatenga mawonekedwe osasangalatsa, monga mu nyimbo: "Ndikukhumba inu chisangalalo, musati mukhale ndi ine, kotero ndi wina ..."
Chikondi chachikulu
Ngati tiganizira kuti chikondi ndi chithunzithunzi cha umunthu, tiyenera kuzindikira kuti n'kosatheka kuganizira chikondi chimene munthu amavomereza kuti munthu wina sachilumikiza. Pankhani ya chikondi chenicheni, idzadziwonetsera mwa mawonekedwe a kugwirizanitsa ndi ziwalo zonse ndi ziwalo za kulingalira:
- Masomphenya - wokondedwa ndi wokoma pamtunda, akuwoneka kuti ndi wabwino kwambiri, ngakhale kuti sali wokongola ndi miyezo yoyenera;
- kumva - mawu a wokondedwa nthawi zonse amasangalatsa kwambiri;
- Kumva - fungo la thupi la wokondedwa liri ngati;
- Kukhudza - kumayandikira kwa iye kuti agwire, kupweteka, ndi zina;
- kulawa - kupsompsona kwa wokondedwa kumakhala bwino kwambiri padziko lapansi, ngakhale kuti sikunayende bwino mu teknoloji.
Pokhapokha ngati pali chikoka chokwanira, kulandira kwathunthu khalidwe ndi zolakwika (osati kokha kokha, monga ndi chikondi), kumverera kungatengedwe ngati chikondi. Monga lamulo, zimapangidwa muzaka zingapo, ndipo pachiyambi, pamene aliyense alumbirirana wina ndi mzake m'chikondi, ndiza kugwa m'chikondi.
Kumva chikondi choyamba
Panthawi ina phunziro lachidziwitso lomwe linatsimikizira kuti mnyamata, motsogozedwa ndi chikondi mu maganizo ake, ali mofanana kwambiri ndi munthu yemwe ali ndi vuto lachilombo. Munthu wotero amakhala wodabwitsa kwambiri, amangofuna moyo wake wokhawokha, amatsimikiza kuti palibe amene amamukonda kwambiri, ndipo palibe yemwe adamva zowawa zambiri, komanso kuti, kuphatikiza pa malingaliro ena, izi sizidzakhalanso.
Komabe, patapita nthawi, nthawi ikadutsa, nthawi zambiri izi zimangokhala chikondi - ngakhale kuti aliyense amamukumbukira moyo wake wonse.