Aliyense amadziwa kuti kawirikawiri amavomereza kuti akazi ndiwo anthu omwe amakukondana komanso kuti nthawi zonse amakhala okonzeka kuwonetsa mtima wawo mwachikondi ndi zabwino zokhazokha chifukwa cha chikondi kwa okondedwa awo. Koma psychology ya nthawi yathu yatha kuthetsa nthano iyi. Koma "Motani?" - tidzapeza pomwepo.
Psychology ya maiko awiri
Ankhondo a m'zaka za zana la 21, osadziyang'anira okha, amaiwala za zinthu zotero, zomwe olambira awo ali nazo kwambiri. Iwo amatha masekondi atatha mphatsoyo ndikukumbukira tsiku la msonkhano wawo kapena kukupsompsona koyamba. Koma, monga momwe kafukufuku wasonyezera, ngakhale kuti zochitika zoterezo, amuna adakali okondana kwambiri.
Ofufuza Pepper Schwartz ndi James Witte ankafufuza pa intaneti. Pafupifupi anthu zikwi 80 anagwira nawo ntchito. Choncho, anthu omwe anafunsidwawa adagwirizana kuti maganizo a amuna onsewo amakhala okongola kusiyana ndi akazi. Otsutsa anayankha moona mtima ku mafunso okhudzana ndi khalidwe lawo mu chiyanjano. Kuchokera pa izi, zinadziwika kuti 49% mwa oimira za kugonana amphamvu anayamba kukondana ndi akazi awo pakali pano poyang'ana. Kuchokera pa maudindo a amayi, chizindikiro ichi chinakhala chochepa - 30 peresenti yokha.
Komanso, dziko la psychology laphunzira kuti oposa theka la amuna omwe adafunsidwa amapeza mphamvu yakuvomereza kuti adamva kuti akukondwera pambuyo pa tsiku loyamba .
Ndikofunika kuzindikira kuti kufufuza kwina kunapereka zotsatira zosangalatsa. Zinaoneka kuti abambo 75% amapita kumalo achikondi atapita maulendo atatu okha. Pomwepo, amayi, choyamba, amakonda kukonda maganizo, malingaliro, koma osati mtima. Ndipo azimayi 11 pa 100 alionse omwe amafunsidwa amakhala ndi maganizo amphamvu pambuyo pa maminiti angapo atatha kumudziwa mwamuna ndipo atatha tsiku lacisanu ndi chimodzi msungwana wokonzeka kutsegula mtima wake ku chikondi chatsopano.Kufotokozera za chikondi cha munthu
Akatswiri a zamaganizo amafotokozera zotsatira za maphunziro amenewa chifukwa chakuti achinyamata amadziwa mozama maganizo awo oyambirira pa maonekedwe a mtsikanayo. Kotero, ngakhale ziri zosadabwitsa izo zingamveke, koma pakuyamba kuganiza kwa izo, mosamalitsa iwo amapanga lingaliro lotsatira: ngati liri lokongola, ndiye woyenera chikondi changa. Maganizo achikazi ndi ovuta kwambiri. Pambuyo pake, amayi amagwiritsidwa ntchito poyesa mosamala zonse zomwe zimapindulitsa ndi chiwonongeko asanatsirize kuti munthu uyu aloledwa kuwona masamba obisika a bukhu la moyo wake.
Chikhalidwe cha Chikondi
Khalidwe lachikondi mwa amuna limayambitsa testosterone ya hormoni. Inde, ndi amene amayambitsa kugonana. Zonse zimagwirizana. Zimapangidwira kuti mnyamatayo ayambe kufuna mtsikana, motero, azichita bwino. Kodi "mwa njira yoyenera" ndi motani? Yankho lake ndi lolunjika: monga likufotokozedwa m'magazini, likuwonetsedwa mu kanema. Koma, ziribe kanthu momwe zinalili zomvetsa chisoni kwa theka lazimayi, izo sizinamveke, koma atatha kukhala ndi kukongola, chikondi chinangotaya nthawi yomweyo. Pambuyo pake, izo zimakhala zosafunikira mpaka wofunsidwa wotsatira akuwonekera.
Kwa zaka zambiri, kupatsidwa kwa testosterone kumachepa ndipo munthu sangathenso kudzitamandira chifukwa cha chikondi chake pachibwenzi kwa okondedwa ake.
Kwa amayi ndi chikhalidwe cha chikondi chawo, muzu wa zonsezi ndi estrogen. Ndi hormone yomwe imayambitsa kudzimva, kukhudzana ndi ena, moyo wamba.
Kumbukirani kuti munthu aliyense ndi wapadera komanso ngakhale akuwona masewera olimbitsa thupi, wogwirira ntchito sayenera kuchepetsa kukula kwa chikondi chake. Palibe anthu amene amaika lingaliro la "chikondi" chimodzimodzi ndi tanthauzo lofanana. Choncho, amayi akuyankha pempho lofotokoza chikondi chakukamba za ulendo wopita ku zisudzo, kudya chakudya chodyera, mphatso yokongola, ndi zina. Ndipo amuna - kuthawa ku chitukuko, moyo wa banja m'hema waung'ono.