Aliyense wakumanapo nthawi zonse kapena mu chikondi, kapena kumverera kwa chikondi. Koma pali nthawi mu moyo pamene mumadzifunsa nokha kuti mumvetse bwanji ngati mumakonda ndikuyamba kupyola mu laibulale yonse, ndikuyesera kupeza chidziwitso mu ziphunzitso za akatswiri a maganizo ndi afilosofi.
Tiyeni tiyesetse kupeza momwe tingamvetsetse kuti mumakonda munthu, kusiyanitsa chikondi ndi chikondi.
"Sindikumvetsa - chikondi kapena ayi?"
Psychoanalysts, akatswiri a maganizo amaganiza kuti aulule zinsinsi za chirengedwe ndi thupi laumunthu, lingaliro lake la chikondi.
Musanadziwe ngati mumakonda munthu, muyenera kudzifufuza nokha kuti chikondi ndi chikondi zili zotani.
Choncho chikondi chimatha kukhala chochepa kapena chachilengedwe. Mu moyo wa munthu aliyense, panali chikondi chachibadwa. Kawirikawiri, inali nthawi yaunyamata, pamene mumakonda mnzanu kapena fano lina. Pa nthawi yachikulire, chikondi chimaphatikizidwa ndi malingaliro, mahomoni a anthu okhudzana ndi kukopa kwa woimira amuna kapena akazi okhaokha. Chinthu chochititsa chidwi kwambiri ndi chakuti munthu akhoza kukhala m'chikondi kwa zaka zambiri.
Chikondi, chomwe chiri cha mawonekedwe apansi, chimalepheretsa chifuniro cha munthu, malingaliro ake. Ndikumverera kolimba kuti kungabweretse munthu m'chikondi ndi matenda a maganizo, komanso - asanadziphe.
Tsoka, koma kulibe sayansi ya chikondi. Ndipo chifukwa chakuti ambiri omwe anali atangokwatirana kumene analibe ngakhale nthawi yoti alole chikondi chawo m'miyoyo yawo, iwo adamuimba mlandu wawo kuti asudzulane, koma sananene kuti sakudziwa kanthu za chikondi.
Kodi mungamvetse bwanji kuti mumakonda munthu?
Zathandizira pa chitukuko cha chidziwitso cha chikondi, zodabwitsa monga zingamveke, koma akatswiri a sayansi ya zamoyo, omwe ntchito zawo zikugwirizana ndi kuphunzira za kusintha kwa chisinthiko. Amatsutsa kuti mwa anthu omwe amakondana kwambiri, ana ali ndi thanzi labwino komanso amatha kupirira. Ndipo izi zikusonyeza kuti chikondi ndi mtundu wa chizindikiro cha mitundu.
Tiyeni tipereke chitsanzo cha zizindikiro zomwe mungadziwe zomwe mumakonda, osati chikondi.
- Inu mukudziwa za zolephera za munthu wanu, koma inu mukhoza kumvetsa ndi kukhululukira izo.
- Musatseke kudziko lakunja. Ndikokuti, chikondi, mosiyana ndi chikondi, sichichita mopambanitsa.
- Simukuopa kupatukana.
- Chikondi ndikumverera mobwerezabwereza.
- Muli omasuka, mfulu mukakhala pafupi ndi wokondedwa wanu
- Chikondi ndi kuvutika, kupsinjika maganizo sizimagwirizana.
"Ndinazindikira kuti ndimakonda wakale"
Koma, ngati izo zikuchitika kuti inu, ngakhale mukukondedwa panopa, mukuzindikira kuti muli ndi malingaliro anu akale, tikukulimbikitsani kuti muchotse kuledzera kwa kukumbukira. Kumbukirani kuti muyenera kukhala lero ndikuyamikira zomwe muli nazo. Pezani zabwino zomwe zilipo panopa.
Choncho, munthu aliyense ali ndi chikondi. Kuti muchite izi, chinthu chachikulu ndikusankha kulola chikondi m'moyo wanu.