N'zosadabwitsa kuti akunena kuti chikondi ndi choipa, chifukwa palibe mkazi yemwe alibe chifukwa chakuti tsiku lina sangasangalale ndi omwe ali kale ndi mwamuna kapena mkazi wawo. Ngati muli mu mkhalidwe womwewo, ndiye kuti muli ndi njira ziwiri zokha, kapena yesani kuiwala chinthu cha chilakolako chanu, kapena funsani momwe mungatengere mwamuna wokwatira.
Kodi mungatenge bwanji mwamuna wokwatira m'banja?
- Kuunika kwa mkhalidwe. Ngati mwasankha kuchita, chinthu choyamba kumvetsa ndi momwe mnyamata amene mumamukondera amakuchitirani. Mukhoza kupeza ndi zizindikiro zosalunjika, choyamba, mvetserani ngati munthu akukuyang'anani ndi diso losangalatsidwa, kaya ndi zosangalatsa kuti alankhule nanu, kapena ayi, amakulepheretsani. Yesetsani kufufuza momwe ziliridi, ngati n'kotheka, funsani mnzanu wapamtima kuti ayang'ane zomwe zimakukhudzani. Njirayi idzakuthandizani kumvetsetsa bwino momwe munthu amakuchitirani. Malingana ndi zomwe mumalandira, pangani kusintha kwa fano lanu, mwachitsanzo, pitani kwa wolembetsa kapena mugule zovala zomwe zingakulimbikitseni ulemu wanu.
- Fufuzani kusakhutira. Kenaka, mudzafunika kuphunzira zambiri za banja la chibwenzi, monga momwe zimadziwira, palibe ukwati uli wangwiro, ndipo palibe mwamuna amene angakonze mwamuna pa chilichonse. Muyenera kumvetsetsa mbali zina za moyo waukwati zomwe munthu sakonda, zomwe akufuna kuti asinthe. Zomwezo ndizofunikira kwambiri, zidzakuthandizani, momwe mungakopere wokondedwa, ndi kuchotsa mnyamata wokwatiwa. Muyenera kuganizira zosakhutira ndi mwamuna ndikusintha kuti mukhale woyenera pamaso pake. Mkazi ali wotanganidwa ndi ntchito ndipo sakonda kuphika? Mkulu! Sewerani mosiyana, yambani mnyamata ali ndi chitumbu chapanyumba. Mkazi sakonda agalu, ndipo mwamuna angakonde kukhala ndi nkhosa yamtendere? Chodabwitsa, muuzeni momwe mungakonde kukhala ndi galu m'nyumba, funsani zokhudzana ndi zinyama, fotokozani za makhalidwe a maphunziro. Pambuyo pake wokondedwayo ayamba kukuyerekeza iwe ndi mkazi wake, ndipo zotsatira zake zidzakukondani.
- Kukopa malonda. Tsopano chinthu chovuta kwambiri chimakhalabe, kuti akhale munthu wapafupi kwambiri kwa mnyamata, popanda izi sikungatheke kukwatira mwamuna wokwatirana, ndi kusunga ubale. Mvetserani ndi kumuthandizira wokondedwa wanu, musamachepetse ufulu wake ndipo musamangomuthokoza. Ngati munthu awona kuti mumagawana malingaliro ake, ayamba kukukhulupirirani, ndipo ichi ndi maziko a chiyanjano .