Kugawana ndi anthu kumakhala kokondweretsa pokhapokha mutalandira kuchokera kwa iwo zokhazokha. Koma kuti musapite kukakumana ndi munthu amene mumamverera kuti ndi ofunda kwambiri, zimakhala zovuta kwambiri. Ngakhale mutadziwa kuti kuli kosavuta kuti mupulumuke ndi munthu amene mumamukonda, simungathe kuthawa masiku omwe amadzazidwa ndi zowawa komanso zowawa. Komabe, mukhoza kuchepetsa nthawi zosasangalatsa.
Mmene mungayanjane ndi mwamuna amene mumamukonda?
Kuyanjana ndi wokondedwa kungatheke pokhapokha mutakumana ndi mavuto. Choncho, mfundo yofunikira pa izi ndi kuzindikira kufunikira kochoka munthu wokondedwa. Ngati mutasankha kuti kulekanitsa kuli kosalephereka, musachedwe nthawi yomaliza. Thandizo pa izi zingathe kuthandizira izi:
- Lembani pa pepala chifukwa chake muyenera kugawanitsa ndi phindu lomwe mumapeza pamene mutagawana ndi mnzanuyo. Malangizo amenewa ndi othandiza makamaka ngati mukuganiza momwe mungakhalire ndi mwamuna wokondedwa wanu amene mumamukonda.
- Kusamvana ndi wokondedwa sikuyenera kuchedwa. Yesetsani kusiya misonkhano yamtundu uliwonse ndi munthu uyu, chifukwa zokhudzidwa zikhoza kutha pamene alibe madzi.
- Khalani olimbikira pa chisankho chanu. Musasinthe ngakhale mnzanuyo akakukakamizani ndi kupereka mphatso. Konzani kukonzekera kutembenuka kwa zochitikazo. Mukakhala ovuta kwambiri, njira yochepetsera idzakhala yosavuta.
Momwe mungayanjane ndi munthu amene mumamukonda?
Kuti mugawenso, muyenera kutero. Yesetsani kuchita nawo uphungu wotere:
- Fotokozerani mnzanuyo chifukwa chake muyenera kusiya msonkhano;
- nenani kuti chisankho chanu cholowa ndi chomaliza;
- Muuzeni mnzanuyo kuti mumamukonda kwambiri ndipo mumayamikira nthawi yomwe mumakhala naye limodzi, koma muwone kuti nkofunika kuthetsa chiyanjano;
- Kukambirana kotsiriza kuyenera kukhala chete, popanda kutsutsidwa ndi abodza, kotero ndi bwino kukonzekera pasadakhale;
- Ngati palibe mphamvu yonena mawu oyenera pamsonkhano, mukhoza kulemba zonsezi m'kalata ndikuzitumiza.