Kwa zaka zambiri, mkanganowo sunathetse ngati chibwenzi pakati pa mwamuna ndi mkazi chipezeka. Ambiri amakhulupilira kuti kwa nthawi yayitali kusunga ubale wotere sizingatheke, chifukwa amatha posachedwa. Koma mwinamwake, simungasokoneze bwenzi kapena mfundo izi sizigwirizana?
Kodi pali kugonana kokondana?
Amanena kuti anthu okwatiranawo amakhala okondwa kumene okondedwa amakhala mabwenzi abwino. Ndipo izi ndizoona, ubale sukumangidwira zokha. Koma kodi izi ndizofotokozera, kodi ndi zoona kuti simungasokoneze ubwenzi weniweni ndi kugonana? Akatswiri ambiri amaganizo amakhulupirira kuti izi zidzachitikadi. Pamapeto pake, ubalewo udzalowa mu gawo la chikondi kapena kusiya. Kotero yankho la funso la kugonana kwaubwenzi - liripo, komabe, lalifupi kwambiri. Tiyeni tione tsatanetsatane chifukwa chake izi zimachitika.
Kugonana sikulepheretsa ubwenzi!
Anthu omwe saganiza motere ndi olakwika monga momwe angayang'anire poyamba. Kugonana kwaubwenzi kumakhala ndi ubwino wambiri, umene umakondweretsa.
- Mwachitsanzo, abwenzi sayenera kuyang'ana bwino pamaso pa wina ndi mzache, kuti apeze zofanana - ali pafupi kale;
- pamene abwenzi nthawi zina amagonana, palibe omwe akukonzekera tsogolo, alibe chikondi pakati pawo;
- Pakati pa abwenzi, abwenzi akhoza kumasuka, chifukwa palibe mantha olephera. Ngakhale zitatha, amangoseka ponena za kuyesayesa kopambana, koma izi sizidzakhudza maubwenzi awo mwanjira iliyonse.
Inu simungakhoze kuononga kugonana ndi kugonana, inu muwononge kugonana kwake
Funsani chifukwa chake ndizosiyana, chifukwa pamwambapa tafotokoza njira yabwino yogonana? Chowonadi ndi chakuti ichi ndi chitsanzo chomwe sichigwira ntchito kwa nthawi yaitali pakuchita. Ndipo chifukwa chake:
- anthu amene amanena kuti kugonana si chotchinga ubwenzi, musamaganizire mfundo imodzi yokondweretsa - ubwenzi wapamtima sizowonjezera zokhazokha zokhumba za thupi pokhapokha munthu wina. Popeza pali chiletso cha chikondi, abwenziwo amagwiritsana ntchito, monga momwe angachitire ndi mnyamata (mtsikana) wotengedwa madzulo. Ndiuzeni, kodi mungatchule bwenzi la munthu amene adakugwiritsani ntchito?
- ndife tonse amoyo, ndipo tikufuna kutentha ndi kumvetsetsa, amuna ndi akazi ambiri amafuna kugonana ndi wokondedwa, osati bwenzi basi. Choncho, n'zosadabwitsa kuti, ngakhale zilizonse zoletsedwa, mwa amodzi (nthawi zambiri ndi msungwana), m'kupita kwa nthawi, pali chikondi. Chabwino, ngati zogwirizana, ndiye kuti njira yopita ku banja losangalala imatseguka. Ndipo ngati sichoncho? Mwinamwake, padzakhala kusokoneza kwathunthu kwa ubale uliwonse;
- Inde, n'zotheka kuti pamene abwenzi amachita zogonana, ndipo sakondana wina ndi mzake. Koma kumverera kwauzimu
kuyandikana, komwe kumayenderana kwambiri ndi munthu, kumatayikanso; - munthu sangathe kuthandiza kulankhula za mbiri, kugonana ndi bwenzi kungathe kulepheretsa kumanga ubale ndi mnzanu wina. Tsopano simunganene kuti "uyu ndi bwenzi basi, ali ngati mng'ono wanga", palibe amene adzakukhulupirirani, kuyitana kulikonse kwa mwamuna wamwamuna kumayambitsa kuphulika kwa nsanje.
Monga momwe mukuonera, zotsatira zowononga zakugonana zingakhale zovuta kwambiri, choncho musanayambe kusankha zochita, kumbukirani zomwe zimapangitsa kugonana okondana, ndikuganiza ngati mukufuna zotsatirazi.