Pamene chiyanjano chimaima, ndipo wina wa zibwenzi amasiya kumverera wina, nthawi zonse zimakhala zovuta komanso makamaka kwa mkazi, chifukwa amadziwa kuti sakondedwa komanso sakufuna mwamuna wake. Kuzindikira kuti munthu wagwa chifukwa cha chikondi ndi kovuta kwambiri, koma chifukwa chakuti ena akupitiriza kusewera mu mgwirizano wabwino ndikudzipusitsa okha. Koma posachedwa tidzakumana ndi choonadi. Ngati mwamuna sakonda mkazi, ndiye zizindikiro ziti zimasonyeza izi - m'nkhaniyi.
Momwe mungamvetsetse kuti mwamuna sakonda?
Ndipotu, ngakhale funso la chikondi cha mnzanu ndilo chizindikiro choyamba. Pambuyo pa zonsezi, sizinayambepo kanthu. Kotero, pali zizindikiro zina zochititsa mantha zomwe mkaziyo anagwiriridwa mwauchidziwitso ndipo anazindikira kuti chinachake mu chibwenzi sichinapite. Ngati mwamuna sakonda mkazi, ndiye kuti mukhoza kumvetsetsa ndi zizindikiro zotsatirazi:
- Wokondedwayo amasiya kudzipereka kwa amai ku zolinga zake. Iye samamufunsira naye ndipo ngati momwe angathere amalephera kupeza malonda ake. Amasiya kugawana zomwe zinachitika kuntchito, kubisala makalata m'mabuku ochezera a pa Intaneti , ndi zina;
- amayesa mochepa momwe angathere kuti aziyendera kunyumba. Amadza ndi zifukwa zoti apitirire kuntchito, pamapeto a sabata amachoka ndi abwenzi a nsomba, kusaka, kupita ku bathhouse, etc;
- amaika zokonda zake pamwamba pa zofuna za banja, mwana ndi mkazi. Izi zikutanthauza kuti mwamunayo sakufunanso kukhala ndi udindo kwa omwe ali pafupi ndi kukhala wodalirika kwa iwo;
- ngati munthu sakonda, ndipo amasangalala, ndiye chizindikiro chodziwika cha ichi ndi malingaliro a wogula. Izi zikutanthauza kuti iye amakhala mbadwa komanso amakonda pamene akusowa chinachake. Atalandira kapena osalandira chofunikanso, amayamba kunyalanyaza mnzake;
- munthu yemwe wasiya kukonda, sikuti amangonena kuti amamukonda, komanso amanyoza, komanso mu chirichonse, mwatsatanetsatane, ndipo amayamba kuzindikira zofooka za mawonekedwe ndi kuwafotokozera;
- palibe chikhumbo chokhudza, sakunamizanso, kumpsompsona, amapewa misonkhano yochezeka;
- amalephera kutsata mawu ake mukumenyana, akhoza kunyoza, kukhumudwitsa kapena kusonyeza kusalemekeza.
Kawirikawiri, munthu woteroyo amangosiya kuona mnzakeyo ndi maonekedwe ake onse ndi khalidwe lake akusonyeza kuti sakusamala momwe amakhalira komanso momwe amapuma, kaya ali ndi moyo. Samasamala za thanzi lake, malingaliro ndi thupi komanso alibe nsanje, chifukwa sakuopa kutaya. Zonsezi zikuwonetsa mwachindunji kapena mwachindunji kupanda kusowa chikondi, ndi choti achitepo - kutenga kapena kuyesa kusunga ubale, mkazi aliyense amasankha yekha.