Zosamvetsetseka, koma zotsutsana ndi mwamuna ndi mkazi, zimadalira kwambiri wina ndi mnzake. Mwachitsanzo, atsikana ambiri amaopa kuti mwamuna wawo amaopa kukwatira, ndipo amayesa kumukakamiza kuti achitepo kanthu - kupanga banja ndi kukwatirana, ngakhale kuti zaka zingapo zaukwati, theka la mabanjawa silingakhutire ndi chisankho chawo, ndipo ena amakwatirana " pa seams. " Komabe, tiyesera kumvetsetsa maganizo a amuna, kuti tizimva kuchokera kwa wokondedwa posachedwa cholinga chofunika cha dzanja ndi mtima.
Nchifukwa chiyani amuna akuwopa kukwatira?
Kuwonjezera apo, mantha amunthu pa banja amachokera ku nthano:
Nthano nambala 1. Ukwati "mabwinja" moyo wa kugonana. Mabanja ambiri amakhala ndi mavuto osiyanasiyana pa nthawi, koma izi zikhoza kuwonedwa ngati chifukwa china choyesera.
Ndipotu. Choyandikira chimalimbikitsa kumasulidwa, chifukwa wokondedwa wanu amakulolani kukhala opanda nkhawa pa matenda osiyanasiyana opatsirana pogonana, ndipo amakulolani kunena momveka bwino za zikhumbo zanu, ngati mnzanuyo ali ndi chikhulupiliro.
Nthano nambala 2. Iye akuganiza kuti tsopano adzayenera kugwira ntchito kangapo kuti athandize mkazi wake ndi ana ake.
Ndipotu. Akazi amadziwanso momwe angagwiritsire ntchito, ndipo ena (akazi otchuka kwambiri) ngakhalenso analephera kuthetsa mwamuna kapena mkazi wawo phindu. Banja ndilolimbikitsa kwambiri kuti tikwaniritse ntchito zapamwamba komanso kukhala ndi udindo wabwino pakati pa anthu. Munthu wam'mbuyomu amadziwa kuti ayenera kuyesetsa kupita patsogolo, chabwino, choyamba, kwa iye.
Nthano nambala 3. Amaopa kuti banja lidzamuchotsera nthawi yake yamtengo wapatali.
Ndipotu. Chimene ankayenera kuchita pamaso pake, tsopano chidzachita anthu awiri: kusamba mbale, kuyeretsa m'nyumba, kukonza, kuphika, ndi zina zotero. Kugawidwa kwakukulu kwa maudindo, mukhoza kumasula nthawi osati "kugona pabedi", "kusewera masewera," "kuyang'ana mpira," komanso kulankhula ndi mkazi wake ndi ana ake.
Choncho funso lakuti "Amuna akufuna kukwatira" ndi yankho losayenerera, likufuna, koma akuwopa udindo komanso kusokoneza ufulu wawo.
Kodi amuna akufuna kukwatiwa ndi ndani ndipo ndi atsikana otani amene sawatenga?
Amanena kuti mwamuna amasankha mkazi yemwe amawoneka ngati amayi ake. Izi ndizoona, koma osati pa milandu yonse, tiyeni tione izi.
Ndi atsikana ati omwe ali okwatira?
- mfundo yakuti atsikana ndi aluso okha omwe amatha kutenga akazi awo, omwe amatha kupaka mtanda ndi kuphika pie zokoma - kalekale akhala osakhulupirika. Yang'anani pozungulira ndikuyang'ana mkazi wangwiro wokwatiwa: pali ochepa mwa iwo;
- Woyamba kukwatiwa ndi atsikana osasuka, odzidalira komanso okongola omwe amadziŵa kuti ndi ofunikira, samakhala ndi anyamata onse pabwalo, ndipo nthawi yomweyo amakhala ochezeka komanso omasuka kulankhula. Ngati mkazi akudziwa momwe angatengere anthu kwa iye - zimakhala zosavuta kuti akwatira;
- Anthu a PR - gulu lina la atsikana omwe angathe "kuthawa" mwamsanga. Iwo sangawalitse ndi malingaliro, koma ali ndi machitidwe apakati, koma makhalidwe omwe ali nawo, amadziwa kulengeza kotero kuti munthuyo amaganiza kuti: "Inde ndi Elena Elena Wochenjera yekha kuchokera m'nthano zomwe agogo anga amandiwerengera ndili mwana!".
Ndi akazi ati omwe sanakwatirane?
Moyo wochuluka wa banja nthawi zambiri umakhala wokongola ozizira omwe amakhulupirira kuti amapangidwa okha kwa akalonga ndi mafumu. Momwemonso, amayi omwe ali ndi ufulu wokhala ndi ufulu ndipo sangathe kunyengerera: palibe munthu weniweni amene angagwirizanitse ndi mfundo yakuti pafupi ndi iye si mayi wofooketsa, koma mtsogoleri weniweni muketi yomwe imatsogolera ndi kumvera.
Bwanji ngati mwamunayo sakufuna kukwatira?
Ngati munthu sangathe "kuvula" pa sitepe yaikulu, ndiye kuti akusowa thandizo mu izi.
- Momwe mungakakamizire munthu kuti akwatire? Choyamba muyenera kuyesa kumukakamiza, koma pazifukwa zolondola, pezani zifukwa zenizeni za khalidweli. Akuwopa kuti ataya ufulu? Kenaka muuzeni zambiri, ndi mwayi wotani umene umatsegulidwa iye asanalowe m'banja.
- Kodi mungapange bwanji mwamuna kuti akwatirane? Ngati mwamuna ali wokondana kwambiri ndipo akuwopa kuti ataya mkazi wake, amatha kumufotokozera kuti ukwati ndi wofunika kwambiri, ndipo ngati mutenga nthawi yaitali kuti "musankhe", ndiye kuti misewu yanu ingafalikire.
- Momwe mungakankhire mwamuna kuti akwatire? Kukakamiza kukwatirana ndiko kukwiyitsa. Nkhani zokhudzana ndi mimba yachinsinsi ya mndandanda wa ma TV ku Brazil -
kuchokera m'gulu lino, koma ndizosautsa, monga bodza sikumanganso ubale wokondwa. Kukankhira mwamuna kuukwati kungakhale kokha mkhalidwe weniweni: osati mimba yongoyerekezera, yomwe imatanthawuza kutalika kwa wokonda kapena mpikisano waukulu.
Komabe, ngakhale kuti ali ndi chikhumbo chokwatira, mkazi ayenera kukumbukira mwambi wina wanzeru wakuti: "Ukwatira sichiyenera kukangana, ngati kuti sakwatira kapena kukwatiwa." Ndikofunika kuzindikira kuti ukwati sungakhale mapeto mwa iwo wokha, makamaka, chifukwa chokhalira moyo ndi mwamuna mmodzi.