Kodi mungapulumutse bwanji chisudzulo ndi mwamuna wanu?

Poyamba, mudakondwera ndi chikhalidwe chanu, ndipo tsopano mu pasipoti yanu padzakhala chisindikizo cha kusudzulana? Ichi si chifukwa chogonjera kuvutika maganizo! Pambuyo pa chisudzulo, moyo umangoyamba kumene. Koma, mwatsoka, si onse omwe amazindikira mfundo iyi. Kwa mkazi, chisudzulo kuchokera kwa mwamuna wake ndi tsoka lomwe chiyembekezo, maloto, tsogolo ndi chikhulupiriro mu chilungamo zikugwedezeka. Komabe, palinso mwayi wokonza maganizo anu kumoyo, kapena kani - kuyang'anitsitsa ndi maso ena. Izi ndi zomwe tidzayesa kuchita.

Moyo pambuyo pa chisudzulo kuchokera kwa mwamuna wake

Ndi funso: "Kodi tingapulumutse motani chisudzulo kwa mkazi?" Akatswiri a zamaganizo amakono amakumana pafupifupi tsiku ndi tsiku. Zonse zovuta zimangokhala mwachibadwa. Oimira abambo ofooka amavutika kuchititsidwa manyazi, kupandukira komanso kumenyedwa kwa zaka zambiri. Koma pamene zithera ndi kusudzulana, kupanikizika kumayamba pambuyo pa kusudzulana, kusasamala ndi kusafuna kukhala ndi moyo. Izi zikufunika kuti zikonzedwe, ndipo posachedwa! Chinthu choyamba kukumbukira ndi zenizeni zenizeni za zomwe zimachitika kwa amuna, miyezi isanu ndi umodzi pambuyo pake mkazi adzalandira chidziwitso pambuyo pa chisudzulo:

• pafupifupi chaka ndi theka pambuyo pa kusudzulana kwa amuna kumakhala ndi vuto lachisokonezo, ndipo akazi pa nthawi ino akukondwera ndi ufulu wawo, pamene oimira chigonjetso cholimba amamva chisoni ndi kusowa mtendere;
• malinga ndi akatswiri ena a maganizo, mwamuna yemwe wapita kwa mkazi wina, patatha pafupifupi zaka zitatu, amayamba kudandaula ndi zochita zake ndi maloto ake obwerera kwawo;
• m'mizinda ikuluikulu, pafupifupi munthu wina aliyense wachitatu amene wasudzulana akukwatirana naye kale, ndipo munthu aliyense wazaka 4 akulota kuti achite.

Mfundo izi ziyenera kuti ziwathandize kulingalira pa izo. momwe angapulumuke kusakhulupirika ndi kusudzulana ndi mwamuna wake. Koma kukhala ndi mikono yowongoka, pambuyo polekanitsidwa sikuvomerezedwanso. Ndondomeko zokhudzana ndi kusudzulana zitangolandiridwa, malowa amagawidwa, dzina la mtsikanayo limatchulidwanso mu pasipoti, ndipo ana amatetezedwa ndi alimony, ndi nthawi yoti mudziganizire nokha okondedwa.

Kotero, tiyeni titsike kuzinthu zothandiza monga kuiwala mwamuna pambuyo pa chisudzulo:

1. Khalani ndi chipiriro chokwanira ndipo dziwani kuti zonse zimatenga nthawi. Makamaka kuti muiwale zodandaula zonse ndikukhazikitsa maganizo mu moyo.
2. Konzani zoyeretsa zonse ndikuchotsa chilichonse chomwe chimakukumbutsani za mwamuna wakufa. Ngakhale ngati mugulu wake wokonda kapena mpando wake. Mwinamwake nthawi ina popanda zinthu zapafupipafupi zidzasokonezeka, koma posachedwapa zidzatha.
3. Musati mutseke nokha. Azimayi ambiri akutsutsana ndi mwamuna wawo wokondedwa payekha, akuphika ndi madzi awo osasamala komanso omverera. Pezani msungwana yemwe angakhoze kulira kapena pakukonzekera kwambiri kukonza kulira mu blog. Kumbukirani kuti nthawi zina misonzi imathandiza kuti munthu ayambe kuchira.
4. Ngati simudakhumudwa kwa nthawi yayitali mutatha kusudzulana, yesetsani kutenga tsiku lanu ndi zinthu zosiyanasiyana. Muzochitika zovuta kwambiri, tipezani nokha chiweto chabwino. Zimatsimikiziridwa kukulepheretsani kukhumudwa ndi kutenga nthawi yanu yonse yaulere.
5. Samalani kudzidalira kwanu. Mwinamwake, sali bwino kwambiri pambuyo pa chisudzulo. Gwiritsani ntchito katswiri wamasewera omwe angatenge zovala zatsopano ndi chithunzi chatsopano. Kusinthidwa kunja kumakhudza kwambiri chikhalidwe cha mkati. Chinthu chachikulu pa nthawi yomweyo chimaumirira kuti ndinu wokongola komanso wosasunthika.
6. Dzizindikireni nokha kuti kusudzulana si mapeto a moyo, koma chiyambi chinachake chatsopano ndi chokongola kwambiri kuposa kale. Iyi ndi nthawi yosamalira ntchito ndi ana, potsiriza, kuchita zomwe munalota kapena zomwe mwamuna wakale sanakulole kuti muchite. Zindikirani kuti ndinu mbuye wa moyo wanu ndipo muli omasuka kuchita pafupifupi chirichonse! Tsopano palibe zoletsedwa kwa inu!

Ndipo potsiriza, chinthu chofunikira kwambiri. Mukakonzekera ubale watsopano, musawope. Kutentha kumasiya zipsera, koma osati pa moyo waumwini. Chisankho chanu chatsopano sichiyenera kukhala china chofanana ndi chakale. Lolani uyu akhale munthu wosiyana kwambiri. Ndiyeno mutsegula tsamba latsopano la bukhu lotchedwa "Moyo Wanu", lomwe ndithudi lidzakhala wogulitsa kwambiri.