Kodi mungapeze bwanji chibwenzi?

Nthawizina amzanga amakhala pafupi ndi ife kuposa achibale, ndipo ndizo zabwino. Koma, ndikuti mungapeze bwanji bwenzi labwino? Musathamange kuzungulira mzindawu ndi chizindikiro chomwe makalata anganene kuti "Ndikufuna kupeza chibwenzi"? Ayi, njira imeneyi, ndithudi, ili ndi ufulu wokhalapo, komatu si bwino kuti mutenge.

Ndiye mumapeza bwanji bwenzi lapamtima, muyenera kuchita chiyani? Ndipotu, pangakhale yankho limodzi lokha ku funso ili kuti mupeze munthu, muyenera kuyang'ana wina. Chabwino, anthu ena amadziwa bwanji kuti ndinu oyankhulana, okondana polankhulana, ngati mumalankhulana ndi achibale anu pafoni, komanso ndi makompyuta, mukukankhira pakani? Funso lina ndilofuna kufufuza.

Kumene mungapeze chibwenzi?

1. Kulankhula za kompyuta. Kodi muli ndi Intaneti? Pewani kuwerenga nkhani zokha ndikuzigwiritseni ntchito (maphunziro)! Ndipo simunadziwe kuti intaneti ikhoza kupeza bwenzi lachiyanjano polankhulana? Bwerani ku maunikira, lembani m'madera omwe muli ndi nkhani zomwe mukufuna. Ndipo, yankhulani, yankhulani. Zidzakhalapo kuti padzakhala anthu omwe malingaliro awo amagwirizana ndi anu, omwe mumakondwera nawo komanso osangalatsa kuti mupitirize kukambirana. Koma mungapezenso m'dera lanu la abwenzi anu, omwe mutatha kukambirana pa intaneti zingakhale bwino kukonzekera nthawi zonse pamoyo weniweni. Chinthu chachikulu ndicho kuchita ndi kusachita manyazi kuti ufotokoze malingaliro anu, mwinamwake zingatheke kukhala mwamtendere mu ukonde, ndiye ndithudi sipadzakhala phindu lililonse kulandira.
2. Kusakhulupirika kwa intaneti, ndikukhulupirira kuti kulankhulana kumakhala kokha pamene muwona maso a interlocutor? Ndiye mumayendetsa msewu "kwa anthu." Kodi mumatsimikiza kuti palibe anthu omwe mumagwira nawo ntchito (omwe mumaphunzitsa) omwe mungakonde kulankhulana nawo? Kodi alipo? Chabwino, ndiye mukuyembekezera chiyani? Musazengere kuyamba kukambirana, osati potsata ndondomeko yogwira ntchito (kuphunzira) mwachibadwa. Pali nkhani zambiri zomwe zingakambidwe pa nthawi ya masana. Koma ngati zidachitika kuti simukufuna kulankhulana ndi anzanu kuntchito, ndiye ndani amene amakulepheretsani kupeza anthu omwe ali nawo chidwi? Lowani zochitika, yambani kupita ku gulu labwino, makalata, kuyenda, potsiriza. Chinthu chachikulu sikuti ulowe mu ngodya, koma kuti udziwonetse wekha. Izi sizikutanthauza kuti mumayenera kufuula pachindunji kuti ndinu osiyana, ndizokwanira kuti mukhale nokha, chifukwa m'mayiko amakono ndi amodzi mwazinthu zamakono, koma chotengera mtengo ndizowona mtima.
3. Ndiuzeni, kodi munali ndi abwenzi anyamata? Ngati ndi choncho, kodi zakhala zotani? Kodi zonsezi zingasokonezeke usiku wonse? Mwinamwake mutasintha zina mu moyo wanu munalemedwa ndi mavuto anu omwe munaiwala za abwenzi anu? Chabwino, sizingachedwe kupepesa, sichoncho? Ngati anthu awa ndi okondedwa kwa inu, ndiye kuti ndi bwino kuchita. Anzanu enieni amamvetsetsa nthawi zonse ndipo sadzasunga chakukhosi.

Kodi mungatani kuti musiye kucheza?

"Zimakhala zovuta bwanji kupeza bwenzi lapamtima" - iwe udzanena, ndipo iwe udzakhala wolondola. Koma ndikufuna kudziwa kuti sikovuta kupeza chibwenzi, momwe mungasungire, ubwenzi umene munapeza. Kuphatikiza pa luso la kuyankhulana kosangalatsa, mudzafunikira china chake, ndiko, kuthekera kumvetsetsa, khalani okonzeka nthawi zonse. Egoism ndi, ndithudi, siipa, koma nthawi zina mumayenera kuganizira za ena, yesetsani kulandira, komanso kupereka. Ndi ochokera kwa anzathu kuti timasangalala kumva mawu ofunda, ndi ochokera kwa anzathu omwe timapempha malangizo, kaya ndi kugula sketi yatsopano kapena nyumba, ndipo ndi mabwenzi omwe tidzakhala akudandaula za dziko lonse ndikupeza chitonthozo. Kotero, ngati mwakonda kuti bwenzi lidzakuthandizani nthawi zonse, musaiwale kuti akufuna kufotokoza za mavuto ake, ndi kupeza malangizo kuchokera kwa inu. Chinthu chachikulu sikumuneneza, kufotokoza maganizo anu pa vuto, koma simuyenera kutsutsa - ndipo simungamuthandize mnzanu, ndipo mutha kuwononga chilankhulocho. Kulemekeza malingaliro ndi malingaliro a munthu wina sizinavulaze aliyense.