Mumsewu nyengo ndi yonyansa, anthu onse amadandaula, amapita phazi m'basi, ndiyeno kuntchito amafunsa chifukwa chake ndikumva zoipa. Ndipo chokondweretsa chinachake - moyo umataya zodabwitsa zodabwitsa! Ndipo kotero apa tikupita, tikugwedeza, kulandira mmalo moyankha mmalo mwa kumwetulira mawu otukwana ndi achisoni. Koma ndizosatheka, munthu analengedwa kuti akhale wosangalala. Kotero iwe uyenera kuphunzira momwe ungasangalalire moyo ndi momwe ungasangalale nawo.
Kodi mungabwezere bwanji chisangalalo cha moyo?
Kawirikawiri, funso la momwe mungaphunzire kusangalala ndi moyo ndilolakwika. Aliyense ali ndi mwayi wokondwera ndi moyo, ena mwa iwo adataya luso lawo pang'ono. Ndipo musatsutsane - mwakuya patali tinali okondwa ndipo tinasangalala tsiku lililonse. Kotero, izo zidzakhala zolondola kwambiri kuti mupeze njira momwe mungabwerezerere chimwemwe cha moyo, momwe mungachibwezeretsenso.
- Choyamba, kumbukirani pamene simunakhale ngati robot, mwakuchita zomwe mukufunikira. Nthawi imene mumakonda maphunziro anu.
- Mukukumbukira? Kodi ndi nthawi yanji: ubwana wakanthaŵi, nthawi yoyamba chikondi, kuphunzira ku yunivesite, zaka zoyambirira zaukwati?
- Tsopano ganizirani zomwe zasintha kuyambira apo, bwanji tsopano simukuwona zosangalatsa za moyo. Tsopano mukupita ntchito yopanda chidwi, kusiya kulemba mwamuna wanu, chifukwa cha matenda onse omwe adayambitsa matenda? Chavuta ndi chiani, nchiyani chimakupangitsani inu kuwononga moyo?
- Osangopeza ndi mawu akuti "izi mu ubwana panalibe nkhawa, ndicho chifukwa chake panali chimwemwe chochuluka", moyo wachikulire sutanthauza chikhalidwe chokha komanso chizolowezi. Mutha kuyang'ana agogo aakazi awo, ali ndi zifukwa zambiri zowawa (matenda ambiri, penshoni yaing'ono, ana amapita kawirikawiri), koma ambiri a iwo angapatse achinyamata kukhala okondwa. Kotero msinkhu sungakhoze kukhala wolingalira kwa malingaliro achifundo kwa moyo.
- Tiyerekeze kuti munaganiza kuti ndinu wokondwa ngati mwana. Chabwino, chinali chiyani ndiye, chomwe chilipo tsopano? Ndiye aliyense anapatsidwa ndi makolowo, ndipo simunasowe kusankha nokha, kodi mukuganiza kuti ichi ndi chikole cha chimwemwe? Inde, ayi, ndizoona momwe mumaonera zochitika za tsiku ndi tsiku. Pokhala mwana, mumadziŵa kuti mungasangalale ndi zokondweretsa za moyo - phwando lokoma, thambo lakuda bulu ndi chibwana, ndikutsatira mwachidwi gulugufe. Kotero chomwe chikukuletsani inu tsopano ndi kukondwera chimodzimodzi, kapena kumwamba kungasinthe mtundu, maswiti sali okoma, ndipo makoswe si omwe achoka? Mwinamwake, mwangokhala otanganidwa kwambiri ndi zodandaula za moyo womwe simumakhala ndi vuto loyang'ana kukongola uku.
- Inde, tsopano muli ndi banja, ntchito ndi chisamaliro chomwe sichinalipo kale. Koma palinso chimwemwe cha moyo wa banja, kodi mwaiwalika za iwo? Simudziwa kusangalala ndi zomwe mukuchita bwino kapena zinthu zazing'ono monga nyengo yabwino? Kenaka khalani okondwa kwa mwamuna wanu ndi ana anu, chifukwa ndi dalitso kuti ali opambana komanso odabwitsa.
- Kodi mungayambe bwanji kusangalala ndi moyo? Kuti tiphunzire kuganiza mosiyana, chifukwa malingaliro athu amapeza kusinkhasinkha kwawo. Ndipo ngati mukuganiza kuti mnzako ndi munthu woipa, mutu ndi waumbombo ndi munthu wosalungama, abwenzi ndi odzikonda, mwamuna ndi wokonda kudya, ndipo anthu onse padziko lapansi ndi onyansa, ndipo posachedwa mudzalandira zowonjezereka zokhudzana ndi malingaliro anu. Yesetsani kukhulupirira kuti mumakhala pakati pa anthu osangalatsa kwambiri padziko lapansi, chifukwa izi ndi zoona. Inde, onse ali ndi zofooka, koma taonani zomwe anthu awa ali nazo. Mudzadabwa kumva kuti mlembiyo ndi miseche, koma munthu wamtima wokoma mtima amene angakuthandizeni pa nthawi yovuta, ngati mumuloleza. Ana anu, ngakhale kuti akung'ung'uza, ali ndi luso lapadera, ndipo nthawi zina mwamuna akhoza kukhala waulesi, koma amakukondani inu ndi ana ndipo sanayambe "kuyang'ana" nthawi yonse ya moyo wake pamodzi.
Muzinthu zonse, yang'anani zabwino, ndiye chisangalalo sichidzakudikirirani. - Pofuna kuti zinthu zizikuyenderani bwino, muyenera kukhala ndi zolinga zokhudzana ndi moyo, kuti mukwaniritse zolinga zanu. Izi ndizoona, koma musakhale mukutsatira zam'mbuyo kuti muiwale za zomwe zilipo. Dzisungeni nokha ndi lingaliro lakuti mu zaka zisanu inu mudzakhala mutu wa nthambi, ndipo ana amapita ku yunivesite yapamwamba, koma kumbukirani kuti mukukhalanso panopa, ndikusowa. Apo ayi, mudzakhala bwanji zaka zisanu kuchokera pano? Ndi malo abwino komanso okonzeka ana, koma ndi kuwonongeka kwamanjenje ndi kuwonjezereka kwa matenda aakulu. Ndipo ngati simunaphunzire kudzipereka nokha ndikusangalalira panopa, zidzakhala choncho.