Kupanga khalidwe

Si chinsinsi kwa aliyense kuti dziko lamkati la munthu ndi chodabwitsa chimene chimasintha nthawi zonse m'moyo. Mphindi chabe ingatipangitse ife kukhala osiyana kwambiri kuposa momwe ife tinapitilira miniti yapitayo. Ndipo ndithudi, zomwe ziri mkati mwathu zimasonyezedwa ndi khalidwe lathu. Makamaka, zimakhudza khalidwe. Chochitika chilichonse chimene timakumana nacho chimakhudza khalidwe lathu. Ndipo kungakhale kolakwika kunyalanyaza zikhalidwe ndi njira za mawonekedwe a khalidwe. Osachepera kuti tidziwe momwe ife tiri ndi izi kapena makhalidwe ena a umunthu kuchokera kwa ife.

Kukula ndi kupanga khalidwe

Makhalidwe angakhale otsimikizika otchedwa maziko a umunthu. Ili ndilo maziko, omwe amalola njira yina yakuyankhulira mawonetseredwe osiyanasiyana a moyo. Vuto la mapangidwe a khalidwe lapangidwa ndi sayansi kwazaka zambiri. Kawirikawiri amakhulupirira kuti chiphunzitso ichi cha umunthu wa munthu chinali choyamba chopezeka ndi Julius Bansen, yemwe ankawona khalidwe kukhala ndi makhalidwe ena ake. Pambuyo pake, akatswiri a zamaganizo ndi mayina a dziko (Freud, Jung, Adler) ankaganiza kuti mapangidwe a khalidwe la munthu ndi njira yomwe sichidziwika bwino chifukwa cha kugonana kapena zolimbikitsa zina. Komanso lero, funsoli ndi maonekedwe otani, akatswiri a anthropologist akugwirizananso. Cholinga cha chidwi chawo ndi kufunikira kwa khalidwe kwa munthu aliyense.

Zinthu zomwe zimakhudza mapangidwe a khalidwe

Mapangidwe ndi kusintha kwa khalidwe ndi ndondomeko yomwe imatenga gawo lalikulu la moyo. Kukhala ndi umunthu wamunthu umatha kupatsirana mazira, makolo chaka ndi chaka, monga anyezi amayamba kuwonjezeka ndi zigawo zosiyanasiyana za mikhalidwe ndi makhalidwe omwe amapangidwa makamaka pogwiritsa ntchito chikhalidwe chomwe chimakula ndikukula. Ndicho chifukwa njira zopezera khalidwe ndizofunikira kwa akatswiri a maganizo. Ndipo, ngakhale kuti njirayi ili ndi khalidwe laumwini, lingaliro lachizoloŵezi silinathetse. Ndipo magawo akulu a mapangidwe a khalidwe ndi awa:

1. Nthawi yeniyeni yomwe zotsatira za khalidwe lamtsogolo la munthu zimayamba kutchedwa ndizovuta kwambiri. Kwa akatswiri ena a maganizo, njirayi ikufotokozedwa pafupi kuchokera kubadwa, mwa ena - mwachionekere kuyambira zaka ziwiri. Mulimonsemo, ndi bwino kukumbukira kuti nthawi ya zaka ziwiri mpaka khumi ndi nthawi ya kulandira kwapadera kwa mwanayo zomwe amauzidwa komanso momwe akuluakulu amachitira ndi iye. Komanso, musaiwale za njira zakuthupi zomwe zimapangitsa kuti munthu asinthe khalidwe lake. Izi zikuphatikizapo khalidwe.
2. Chinthu chotsatira chomwe chimakhudza mapangidwe a khalidwe kale ku msinkhu wa zaka zapanyumba ndi, ndithudi, kukula kwa momwe mwanayo akukhudzidwira pazochita ndi masewera a gulu. Zomwe zimakhalapo kuti kugwirizana koteroko kumakhala ndi mwana, kumakhala bwino kukhala ndi makhalidwe monga kusakhazikika, kulondola, kudzidalira, ndi zina zotero. Koma ndi bwino kukumbukira kuti zochita zina zolimbitsa thupi zingathe kuwononga zilakolako za makhalidwe ena.
3. Mu nthawi ya sukulu, pafupifupi zaka zisanu ndi ziwiri mphambu zisanu ndi zisanu ndi ziwiri (15) zaka zisanu ndi zisanu ndi zitatu (15), gawo lopweteka la munthu limapangidwa Kukula kwa makhalidwe ena kumadalira kukula kwa kudzikuza kwa mwana, msinkhu wa aphunzitsi ndi anzake kwa iye, komanso mphamvu ya ma TV (Internet, TV, etc.). Pafupifupi zaka 15-17 munthu amakhala kale ndi makhalidwe ena omwe sangasinthe moyo wake wonse. Kuwalongosola kudzatha kokha munthuyo yekha chifukwa cha chitukuko chokhazikika ndikudzipangira okha. Komanso, zonsezi (ntchito, kudziphunzitsa), komanso zoipa (kusuta, kumwa mowa mwauchidakwa).
4. Ndili ndi zaka 25-30, kupangidwe kwa khalidwe kumaphatikizapo kuchoka pa "ubwana" (maximalism, kapelekero, ndi zina zotero) ndi kutulukira kugwirizana koyenera (udindo wa zochita, nzeru, etc.).
5. Pambuyo pa kusintha kwa zaka makumi atatu, monga lamulo, sichikuchitikanso. Chimodzimodzinso chingakhale matenda a maganizo kapena nkhawa. Ndili ndi zaka 50, anthu, monga lamulo, amayamba kale ndi malingaliro ndi maloto osiyanasiyana ndikuyamba kukhala ndi mfundo ya "pano ndi ino." Munthu wamkulu akakhala, nthawi zambiri m'makumbukiro ake akuyamba kugwira ntchito. Makamaka ndi khalidwe ndi kuyamba kwa ukalamba.

Choncho, kumayambiriro kwa moyo, maziko ndiwo mphamvu ya banja komanso chikhalidwe cha anthu pa chikhalidwe. Koma wamkulu munthuyo amakhala, m'tsogolo kwambiri zimadalira kugwira ntchito payekha ndi dziko lanu lamkati.