Wokhumba umunthu makhalidwe

Tavomereze, nthawi zambiri timaganizira za momwe zingakhalire zabwino, ngati zinthu zonse zikutuluka, koma tsiku ndi tsiku timakumana ndi mavuto osiyanasiyana. Iwo akuyembekezera ife pa sitepe iliyonse. Ngakhale kuti tipite ku sitolo yapafupi ya chakudya, tifunikira kudzipangitsa tokha kuti tuluke pabedi, kuvala ndikupita kunja kuzizira. Kodi tinganene chiyani za ntchito zazikulu zokhudzana ndi ntchito kapena kudzikonza. Komabe, tipita patsogolo, ndi imodzi yokha yomwe imasankha njira yake. Kutalika kwake ndi kufulumira kwa kayendedwe kake kumadalira makamaka momwe munthu amachitira zovuta, kuchuluka kwake komwe ali wokonzeka kugonjetsa kuti akwaniritse cholinga. Izi zikutanthauza kuti malingaliro ndi zofuna za munthu aliyense zimagwiritsidwa ntchito, zomwe nkhani yathu yadzipereka.

Amakhumba makhalidwe ndi makhalidwe awo

Makhalidwe amphamvu a munthu amaphatikizapo:

• Sankhani - kuthekera mwamsanga kusankha cholinga ndi njira yochikwaniritsira, ngakhale pavuto lovuta, pamene vutoli liri ndi chiopsezo;
• zolinga - kuyendetsa molimba mtima ku cholinga, kukhumba kupereka nthawi yochuluka ndi mphamvu kuti zitheke;
• Kulimbikira - kuthekera kubweretsa mulanduwo kumapeto, osati kutembenuka ndi kusiya njira yake kupita kumodzi;
• kulimba mtima - kuthekera kuthetsa chisokonezo ndi mantha, ngakhale ndi kuzindikira mosamala za ngozi zomwe zingatheke;
• chilango - kugonjera khalidwe labwino ku zikhalidwe ndi malamulo ena;
• kudziletsa - kudziletsa, kuthekera, ndi chithandizo cha mphamvu, kuletsa zinthu zomwe zimalepheretsa kukwaniritsidwa kwa mimba;
• kudziimira - kuthekera kuchitapo kanthu, mopanda chidwi ndi ena, ndikuyesa khalidwe lawo, malinga ndi zomwe amakhulupirira.

Kukonzekera makhalidwe abwino

Psychology ya umunthu wokhumba mwamphamvu imati iwo sali angwiro. Koma n'kofunika kumvetsetsa kuti adakalibe ndi chikhalidwe, chomwe chimatsimikiziridwa ndi zikhalidwe za thupi la dongosolo lamanjenje. Mmene anthu amachitira ndi zovuta ndizochitika mofanana ndi liwiro ndi mphamvu za momwe angaganizire, koma mwachidziwikire kukula kwa umunthu wokhumba mtima kumachitika pakuchita ntchito ndi kupeza zochitika payekha.

Zochitika zoyamba zomwe zingathe kuwonetsedwa pa msinkhu wa msinkhu, pamene mwanayo aphunzira kudzisamalira yekha, ndiko kuti, safuna kukhutira ndi zosowa panthawi yomwe akuwonetseredwa. Pakuyankhulana ndikudziwitsidwa kwa dziko loyandikana, khalidwe limapangidwa, ndipo makhalidwe amtundu wa umunthu adzalandire malo amodzi omwe akutsogolera.

Chitani chinachake popanda kutenga nawo mbali chifuniro chotheka kokha pakupeza zosowa za thupi kapena chikhumbo cholimba. Kodi ndi chitukuko chanji chomwe tikhoza kukambirana? Koma kuyambira ubwana ife taphunzitsidwa kuti pambali pa mawu oti "Ndikufuna" pali mawu akuti "ayenera", ndipo nthawi zambiri yachiwiri ndi yofunika kwambiri kuposa yoyamba. Kotero timapeza luso lophunzira ndi kugwira ntchito, kuchita ntchito zina tsiku ndi tsiku, komanso kuthandizana ndi anthu ena m'malire ena.

Kuzindikira kwa umunthu wolakalaka kwambiri kungatheke ponseponse pofufuza kafukufuku wa maganizo, ndi pothandizira kuyesa zomwe zapindula ndi njira zokhudzana ndi nkhaniyo. Nthawi zina, kuti muwone momwe angapangire chitukuko, nthawi zina mavuto amawoneka, mwachitsanzo, kuyankhulana ndi ntchito kapena zovuta zapadera.

Kukula kwaokha kungatheke pokhapokha pothetsera zopinga. Kawirikawiri, mphamvu zowonjezera zowonjezereka, zimapindulitsa kwambiri ntchito ya munthu, miyezo ya moyo ndi kukhutira nazo zonse.