Palibe mkazi yemwe sakhala ndi zokhumudwitsidwa ndi zosayembekezereka za moyo potsutsana ndi wokondedwa, kusamvetsetsana kochuluka, komanso, kusudzulana kochokera kwa iye.
Kodi mungapulumutse bwanji chisudzulo kwa mkazi?
Amayi ambiri omwe ali ndi mphamvu yogonana akuyembekeza mpaka mapeto kuti sipadzakhala kusiyana pakati pa moyo wa banja, zonse zidzathera paokha. Ndi zophweka kufotokoza chifukwa chake kusudzulana, kuchoka kulikonse, ndiko kupanikizika , kumbuyo kumbuyo, kumverera kwachisoni kwa iwo. Akazi ena, chifukwa cha kuphompho kwa kukhumudwa, sangapeze mphamvu kuti apulumuke nthawi imeneyi ya miyoyo yawo. Komanso, maganizo ambiri okhudzana ndi kudzipha, khomo limadwala nkhawa. Koma musataye mtima. Pali njira zingapo zophweka zothandizira kutuluka kunja kwa usiku wakuya kwa zolephera za moyo.
Momwe mungapulumure popanda kupweteka kusudzulana:
Musayang'ane misonkhano ndi munthu amene kale anali naye. Ndi zachilengedwe, ch kuti mukufuna kumuuza misozi yonse kuchokera mkati. Koma, ngati mumalankhula kwenikweni, onetsetsani kuti ngakhale chisudzulo chisanatheke mumatha kumuuza zambiri. Musatembenuke kukhala mkazi wodetsa. Khalani wonyada, gwirani zowawa zanu. Kumbukirani kuti poyamba, mutatha kugawidwa ndi oyambirira simudzatha kulankhula naye popanda kukhudzidwa, ndipo izi zingachititse manyazi ena.
Samalani zomwe zili panyumba panu. Osakhala pamenepo, kumizidwa mu kuganiza, koma kusuntha, kuchita. Mukhoza kuyamba kukonzanso, pangani kukonzanso. Musalole nokha kugwa mu melancholy.
Momwe mungapulumutsidwire bwino kusudzulana: komiti nambala ziwiri
Musayese kupita ku mapwando osatha kufikira mmawa. Musafulumire kukhala mlendo wokhazikika ku maphwando okondwa ndi masewera. N'zotheka kuti mungaganize kuti njira yopulumukira ufulu wanu ndi chisankho choyenera. Inde, poyamba mungasokonezedwe ndi maganizo omwe akuwononga moyo wanu, koma posachedwa chinyengo chidzasinthidwa ndi zosangalatsa zomwe zidzakhala zolimba kuposa zomwe zinali pachiyambi.
Musauze abwenzi anu za zovuta zonse za munthu yemwe poyamba ankamukonda ndi mtima wanu wonse. Pofufuza moyo wanu wapamtima ndi mfundo zochepetsetsa, mudzangowonjezera mavuto anu.
Momwe mungapulumuke kuvutika maganizo pambuyo pa chisudzulo: gawo lachitatu
Kupsinjika maganizo m'nthaŵi ino kumawonetsedwa ndikumva kuwawa, kusasamala ndi nkhawa, zomwe ziribe chifukwa. Mnzanu wapamtima wa kuvutika maganizo ndiko kusafuna kudya bwino, kukhalapo kwa kusowa tulo m'moyo wanu. Pofuna kuthetseratu matendawa, pangani zinthu zonse zomwe zimathandiza kuti muzisangalala (mwachitsanzo, zingakhale zonunkhira). Kumbukirani kuti kugona tulo kudzakuthandizani kuthetsa zizindikiro za maganizo.
Ngati simukufuna kudya chilichonse, dziwani kuti chakudya chomwe muli nacho chimakhala ngati malo amatsenga. Musaiwale za maganizo anu. Pezani chinachake chomwe chingakulepheretseni (kupanga, kumeta, maphunziro a chinenero china). Chinthu chofunikira kwambiri mu izi ndikuti simudzakhala nokha ndi dziko lanu. Ngati muli ndi mwana m'manja mwanu, perekani nthawi zonse kwa iye. Amawerenga buku la Andrei Kurpatov, Louise Hay, yemwe mosavuta adzakuthandizani kuthana ndi vuto linalake losokoneza maganizo. Momwe mungapulumuke nkhawa mukatha chisudzulo: gawo lachinayi
Dziwani ufulu wanu. Kuti muchite izi, chitani zomwe mzanu wanu wakuletsani kuchita. Samalani maonekedwe. Musaiwale kuti zomwe mumawoneka zikuwonetsa dziko lanu lamkati. Chifukwa mumadzikonda nokha ndipo musalole kupita ndi tsitsi losasamba.
Pambuyo pa chisudzulo, pewani kuyesedwa kuyambanso kukondana. Mukuganiza kuti ichi ndi chiganizo chokha chokha, ndipo mukudziwa kuti mukukhala nokha, mukuponyedwa kuphompho. Nkhani iyi yokondana ikulephera. Mudzafanizitsa wokondedwa wanu ndi wakale, ngakhale osazindikira. Izi, zowonjezera, zidzakhudza kupatukana kwanu, zomwe sizingatheke kukupangitsani vuto latsopano la maganizo.
Ndipo potsirizira pake dzikumbutseni nthawi zonse pamene zikuwoneka kuti palibe mphamvu yotuluka mu nthawi ino, mawu a Coco Chanel: "Chirichonse chiri m'manja mwathu, choncho sayenera kutaya".