Gulu la Hellinger

Chilichonse chatsopano ndi okalamba oiwalika, nthawi zina ngakhale okalamba. Ndizowopsya kuganiza, njira yokonzedweratu idadziwika zaka 5000 zapitazo ndipo idagwiritsidwa ntchito ndi dervishes ku Central Asia, ndipo idapatsidwa kutchuka kokha m'ma 90s a zaka zapitazo. Kawirikawiri malingaliro a magulu a nyenyezi amadziwika ndi dzina la Bert Hellinger. Zinali ndi kugonjera kwake kuti njira imeneyi idagwiritsidwa ntchito mu psychotherapy. Koma, kuwonjezera pa otsatila, njira iyi ili ndi otsutsa oyendera mfundo omwe amaganiza kuti ntchito yake siilandiridwa. Tiyeni tiwone chomwe chiri chabwino mwa njira za magulu a banja ndi Hellinger ndi momwe zingakhalire zoopsa.

Chofunika kwambiri cha njira zowonongeka kwa mabanja ndi Hellinger

Palibe amene angatsutse kuti banja limakhudza kwambiri mapangidwe a umunthu, ndipo kusokonezeka kulikonse kumakhudza aliyense m'banja, makamaka ana. Kawirikawiri anthu sangathe kuthana ndi mikangano payekha, chifukwa alibe mwayi wowona vutoli kudzera mwa adani. Bert Hellinger pachifukwa ichi amagwiritsa ntchito njira zamagulu a banja. Zakale zimapanga chisankho cha azidindo chifukwa cha udindo wa mamembala awo. Kenaka, malo opangidwa amakhala opangidwa ndi malingaliro abwino a wodwala kapena kasitomala, ndipo pulezidenti aliyense ayamba kukayikira maganizo awo, maganizo awo ndi malingaliro awo. Potero zimatsimikizira kuti pali mgwirizano pakati pa gawo lililonse la dongosolo.

Malingaliro a Hellinger akhoza kuchitika mu gulu, ndipo akhoza kukhala payekha. Pachifukwa chomaliza, mmalo mwa anthu m'malo mwawo, ziwerengero, malingaliro, angwe, mipando, ndi zina zotere zimagwiritsidwa ntchito. Koma dongosolo la Hellinger likukonzekera mu mapangidwe ophunzitsira ali otheka kuti akhale ogwira mtima kwambiri. Popeza nthawi zonse sizimagwira ntchito munthu, amatha "kufika pakhungu" la wina.

Zikuwoneka kuti chirichonse sichili choipa, anthu amapeza mpata wosokoneza mkhalidwewo mwatsatanetsatane, kuti atulukepo kuti achoke nawo omwe angagwirizane ndi mamembala onse a m'banja. Komanso, palibe chitsanzo chimodzi, pamene dongosolo la Hellenberg lasintha miyoyo ya anthu kuti ikhale yabwino. Nchifukwa chiyani pali anthu ambiri osakhutira omwe amanena kuti njira iyi ndi yoipa?

Zowopsa za Njira Yowonongeka kwa Banja la Hellingser

Buku loyamba la Hellinger pa njira ya magulu a mabanja linatchedwa "Chikondi cha Chikondi", ndipo linakhazikitsa mfundo zoyambirira za njirayi:

1. Lamulo la kukhala mwini. Wachibale aliyense ali ndi ufulu wokhala nawo. Ngati membala aliyense wa banja athamangitsidwa, otsalawo akukakamizidwa kugwira ntchito yake, mwa njira ina kubwereza tsogolo lake.
2. Chilamulo cha utsogoleri. Banja latsopano limayamba kuposa kale. Ngati ana, akukhazikitsa banja lawo, adzalumikizana kwambiri ndi kholo lawo, ndiye kuti mavuto a m'banja latsopano ndi osapeweka.
3. Lamulo lokhazikika. Wina aliyense m'banja ayenera kupereka ndalama zomwezo.

Kuphwanya malamulo amenewa kumabweretsa mavuto ndi mikangano, koma kuti mudziwe kuti ndizosiyana zotsutsana, nkofunika kuyesetsa kwambiri. Zowonjezera, ntchitoyo ndi yovuta ndi mfundo yakuti zolakwa zingapangidwe ndi anthu omwe sali moyo. Pa dongosolo Otsatira mmalowa amasankhidwa kuti awathandize, choncho, pali ambiri omwe amavutitsidwa. Bioenergetics akukwiyitsa, kunena kuti kuchita izi ndi kofanana kwambiri ndi uzimu, anthu amatha kutenga mapulogalamu a achibale awo omwe anamwalira. Pachifukwa chomwechi, Orthodoxy imaona kuti Hellinger ali ngati obscurantism, ochepa chabe okhulupilira okhulupirira maganizo amaganiza kugwiritsa ntchito njira zina mwa njirayi.

Ndi gulu liti limene likugwirizana ndi kukuthandizani, koma kumbukirani kuti psyche ndi munthu amene amafunikira chithandizo choyenera, choncho sizothandiza kudalira nkhawa zake za nonprofessionals kuyesera kupeza ndalama pa mavuto a anthu.