Kodi mungatani kuti mukhale ndi mtima wodzilemekeza?

Kodi mungatani kuti mukhale wopambana komanso wodzidalira? Kwa amayi ambiri amakono, nkhaniyi ndi yosafunika kwambiri. Yang'anani pozungulira ndipo mudzawona ambiri, kapena mazana, aakazi akale ndi amvi okalamba, odzazidwa ndi moyo ndi imvi, ndi kukhumba ndi opanda pake pamaso pawo. "Ndi chifukwa chani ndipo n'chifukwa chiyani iwo adadzipereka kumoyo wotero?" - Mukufunsa. Yankho liri losavuta - ambiri a iwo ali odzichepetsa kwambiri kuti athe kukondana ndi iwoeni, kusiya kuvutika ndi zochitikazo ndikupita kukakumana ndi kupambana. Ngati muli ndi nkhawa tsiku ndi tsiku ndi funso la momwe mungagwirire ndi kudzichepetsa, ndiye kuti malangizo ochokera m'nkhani ino athandiza kudziyang'ana nokha ndi zovuta zanu kuchokera kumbali ina.

Kodi mungadziteteze bwanji kwa mkazi wamakono?

Choyamba, nthawi zonse kumbukirani kuti kudzichepetsa sikutanthauza matenda, ndipo sikungatheke kukonza. Ndipo ngati mutadzipeza nokha muzinthu zosiyanasiyana, komanso nthawi zodzudzula nokha, zikutanthauza kuti mu moyo wanu munali malo abwino kwambiri kuti awoneke. Yang'anirani mu kukumbukira kwanu ndipo yesani kudziwa zifukwa zomwe mumadzidandaulira nokha.

Mwachitsanzo, timalemba mndandanda wa iwo:

1. Kulankhulana ndi makolo mudakali ana. Aliyense amadziwa kuti mavuto athu ambiri amabwera kuyambira ubwana. Ndipo mu funsoli: "Kodi mungatani kuti mukhale ndi mtima wodalirika?" Psychology imapereka, choyamba, yang'anani zapitazo. Ana, monga chinkhupule, amatenga mawu aliwonse a makolo omwe amawalembera. Ndipo ngati mwanayo amamva nthawi zonse akudzudzulidwa, ndiye kuti amazitenga ngati zachizoloŵezi, ndipo akalamba saganiza ngakhale kuti akuyenera kwambiri. Cholakwika china cholakwika ndi mawu oti "ayenera" omwe amakondedwa ndi makolo ambiri. Ayenera kukhala anzeru, monga makolo, abwino kuphunzira, ndi zina zotero. Zotsatira zake, munthu amachititsa mantha kuti asakondweretse ena komanso masewera ena.
2. Kudalira maganizo a ena. Ziribe kanthu momwe munthu akuyesera kuti apite patsogolo, padzakhala nthawizonse omwe amayamba kumutsutsa iye ndi kuyesa kumuchepetsa iye. Ngati munthu nthawi zambiri amamvetsera maganizo a alendo - izi zimawopsyeza kudzidalira.
3. Kupereka kufunika kwa chochitika choipa. Pali zochitika zomwe zimafooketsa chikhulupiriro chathu mwa ife eni komanso maluso athu. Izi zimatsogoleranso kudzinyesa kudzidalira. Mwachitsanzo, ngati mumadziimba mlandu wosiyana ndi wokondedwa wanu, ndiye kuti kunyada kwanu ndi kudzidalira kwanu zidzatsika ndithu.
4. Ntchito yowonjezera yofunika kwambiri. Anthu ena pofuna kuti zinthu ziziwayendera bwino amakhala ndi zolinga zomwe sitingakwanitse. Kawirikawiri, chifukwa chake ndi chachifupi kwambiri kuti sichifike. Mwachibadwa, osapeza zomwe akufuna, amasiya kukhulupirira ndi mphamvu zawo.

Mwamwayi, lero munthu ali ndi chidziŵitso chokwanira chofotokozera momwe angachitire ndi kudzichepetsa. Zidzakupatsani mosavuta mabuku, maphunziro, maphunziro ndi uphungu wa mitundu yonse. Ngati mukufuna kuti mwamsanga muzidzidalira, njira zosavuta zidzakuthandizani, zomwe zingagwiritsidwe ntchito pandekha, kunyumba.

Kodi mungatani kuti mukhale ndi mtima wodzikuza?

Choyamba, muyenera kuzindikira nthawi imodzi - mavuto anu ndi kudzidalira sizinthu zongoganizira chabe zomwe zakhala chizoloŵezi. Inu mumakonda kusakhulupirira nokha, mumakonda kuganiza kuti simungathe kupirira, ndi zina zotero. Panthawiyi, moyo wathu wonse ndi zotsatira za malingaliro athu. Kotero, njira zonse zowonjezera kudzidalira, ziyenera kukhazikitsidwa pa kusintha maganizo anu. Ndipo muyenera kuyambanso kusintha kusintha kwa kulingalira. Izi ndi zomwe zimachitika:

• mukukumana ndi vuto linalake;
• inu mukuzifufuza ndi kuziganizira pa izo;
• muli ndi maganizo ena pazochitikazo;
• mumayamba kuchita mogwirizana ndi malingaliro anu ndi malingaliro anu.

Kuti musinthe kaganizidwe kake ka malingaliro ndikupanga kusintha kwa ntchitoyi kuonjezera kudzidalira, gwiritsani ntchito ndondomeko yothandizira yankho la momwe mungapitirizire kudzidalira kwa mtsikana aliyense:

1. Yambani tsiku ndi tsiku ndipo mugone ndi mawu akuti: "Ndili monga ine, ndipo ndimadzikonda ndekha."
2. Kosatha muiwale chiganizo "OSATI". Dzifunseni nokha: "Ndine woyenera!", "Ndingathe!", "Ndidzachita!"
3. Musadzilungamire kwa wina aliyense pazochita zanu. Onetsetsani kuti mukuchita zonse bwino, ngakhale wina sakonda. Uwu ndiwo moyo wanu ndi maganizo anu.
4. Lekani kudziyerekeza nokha ndi ena. Musayang'ane kuti wina akuchita chilichonse chabwino kuposa inu. Kumalo ena, maluso anu ndi ochuluka kwambiri. Khulupirirani.
5. Onetsetsani nokha ndi zovala zanu. Ponyani mithunzi yonse imvi ndi yosadziwika. Yang'anani pa mafashoni, nthawi zambiri amapita ku salons okongola. Pangani chizolowezi chanu choganiza kuti ndinu woyenera, monga Mfumukazi yeniyeni.
6. Musapatse aliyense kwa ena. Ngakhale iwo ali ana anu ndi mwamuna wanu. Achibale anu adzakhutira kwambiri akamalandira chakudya chosavuta komanso amayi abwino okoma mtima kuposa chakudya chachifumu komanso aakazi otopa ndi okwiya.
7. Dzilemekezeni pa ntchito iliyonse yabwino pokhudzana ndi wekha. Konzani maulendo a mini kwa moyo wanu ndi thupi lanu. Dzilimbikitseni nokha, lankhulani mawu omwe amadzipangitsa kudzidalira, ndipo mudzakhala ndi mgwirizano wamkati.
8. Phunzirani kuchotsa malingaliro oipa, atangofika pamalingaliro anu. Moyo wathu ndi umene timaganizira za izo. Dzivomerezeni nokha ndi zofooka zonse. Pang'onopang'ono iwo adzakhala amtundu wanu, ndipo mwinamwake chofunika chanu, chomwe inu mudzakondedwa ndi ena. Ndipo chinthu chachikulu ndi chakuti inu nokha mudzayamba kudzikonda nokha.