"Zokhumudwitsa zimapanga zinthu zazikulu m'zinthu zazing'ono"
Mwambi wa Chiswedwe
Chisangalalo ndi chimodzi mwa malingaliro omwe nthawi zambiri timayesera kubisala. Kodi ichi ndi chinthu chabwino, funso lina? Tiyeni tipeze zomwe zizindikiro zikukuchotsani pamene mukuyesera kubisala zomwe mukukumana nazo, komanso momwe mungadziwire zomwe munthu wina akuda nkhawa nazo.
Zizindikiro zooneka kuti munthu ali ndi nkhawa
Nthawi zina manja, machitidwe ndi zolankhula zimapatsa munthu mutu - mumatha kuona kuti ali ndi nkhawa kwambiri:
- kumanjenjemera ndi mawu ake, mawu osokonezeka komanso akudandaula. Sizovuta kumvetsa kuti pamene munthu akudandaula, amachita zonse kuti apirire yekha. Koma kawirikawiri mawuwo amachititsa chidwi;
- kunjenjemera pamadzulo, zala kapena ngakhale thupi lonse. Kugwedezeka kwa miyendo ndi chifukwa cha kumasulidwa kwa "mahomoni opsinjika" m'thupi, cholinga choyamba chokonzekeretsa thupi kuti likhale lochita masewera olimbitsa thupi (kuteteza) ndi kulimbitsa thupi. Kuchokera ku izi, minofu imayamba kugwedezeka;
- kuyenda mmbuyo ndi mtsogolo. Chisangalalo nthawi zambiri chimapangitsa munthu kudumphadumpha pang'onopang'ono mozungulira chipindacho, ndipo kufotokozera izi ndizofanana "mahomoni opsinjika". Kawirikawiri zimawoneka ngati osayendetsa kuyenda mobwerezabwereza. Nthawi zina munthu amaima ndipo, poyesera kudzipilira yekha, amawombera manja, mwachitsanzo, kumbuyo kwa mpando;
- kuyang'ana kuyang'ana. Ngati wogwiritsira ntchito mosamala amayesetsa kupewa maganizo anu, izi sizikutanthauza kuti akunama. Kawirikawiri kuyang'anitsitsa kumasonyeza kuti munthu ali ndi nkhawa pamene akuyankhula nawe.
Zosayera zimasonyeza kuti munthu ali ndi nkhawa
Nthawi zina timatha kusunga maganizo. Koma maso odziwa adzalandirabe chisangalalo ndi zizindikiro zina. Mwachitsanzo:
- kusungirako ndi kukumbukira mawu apitalo. Pofuna kubisala, nthawi zambiri timataya ulusi wa zokambirana ndipo nthawi zina sitimakumbukira kuti mutuwo, koma lingaliro linayamba;
- pamene munthu ali ndi nkhawa kwambiri, nthawi zambiri amakoka zinthu zina mosadziwa. Aliyense akatembenuza cholembera m'manja mwake, wina amakoka tsitsi lake pa chala, wina amakoka mphuno zake. Anthu ambiri, akudandaula, ayamba kugwedeza misomali yawo. Ngati wothandizana nawo akuwomba zala zake mofulumizitsa - izi ndizonso zosasinthika;
- ena amayamba kumwa zala zawo patebulo. Chizindikiro chosasamala ndi chonyenga ndipo chimapatsa chisangalalo cha interlocutor;
- Ngati galasi ndi madzi, kapu ya tiyi kapena kapu ya vinyo musanayambe wothandizira, onani momwe munthuyo amamwa. Mwamasuka, mwachiwonekere, chikhocho chidzachotsedwa pang'onopang'ono. Chisangalalo chimatipangitsa ife kumamwa mobwerezabwereza ndi timapang'ono ting'onoting'ono, kapena, mosiyana, volley, pamene ife timakhala pakhosi;
- Maso osakaniza ndi chizindikiro cha zodzichitikira. Ngakhale, kuyang'ana uku sikuli momasuka, kosakayikitsa, koma ngati kumangidwa, koma nthawi imodzimodzi;
- kusuta fodya. Ngakhale iwo omwe kawirikawiri amasuta ndudu (amatengera) mu nthawi ya chidziwitso amakhala akukoka kwambiri ku phukusi. Kusuta kumathandiza kubisa chisangalalo, makamaka, zizindikiro zina. Penyani momwe munthu amasuta kuti amvetse kuti ali ndi nkhawa. Mwachitsanzo, ngati kuwala sikugwira ntchito nthawi yomweyo, kumatha kutaya mtima, ndikuyang'ana pa mphindi ino. Kudyera, kusuta fodya ndi umboni wa kuyesa kulimbana ndi zowawa;
- kusinthasintha kambiri kawirikawiri, kusokoneza, kuseka kosakwanira. Pali tsatanetsatane yeniyeni ya chifukwa chake munthu aseka pamene akuda nkhawa. Uku ndikumangirira bwino kwa minofu, yomwe imafotokozera m'njira zosiyanasiyana (mobwerezabwereza momwe zimakhalira). Kuwonjezera apo, kuseka ndikochita chitetezo cha thupi kuti likhazikitse;
- kusayanjanitsika kopanda pake. Poyesera kubisa chisangalalocho, tikhoza kupita ku zovuta zina - kukhala osayanjanitsika komanso osasamala;
- nkhanza. Munthu ndi wamwano ngati akukhulupirira kuti ali pangozi, ndipo, chifukwa chake, ali ndi nkhawa.