Musanayambe mtsinje woopsa komanso wosadziŵika wotchedwa "ubale waulere", ganizirani: kodi mumafunikira chiyani? Kodi mukufuna chiyani kwa iwo? Ndipo kodi mukufunitsitsa kupereka chiyani ngati zinthu zikuyenda bwino, monga momwe mudakonzera?
Kodi mawu akuti "ubale waulere" akutanthauzanji?
Inde, tikhoza kunena kuti uwu ndiwo mgwirizano wa anthu omwe ali ndi mgwirizano wapamwamba wokhazikika ndi kudzikula kwaumwini, omwe ndi odziimira okha, omwe amadzidalira okha omwe amathera nthawi yokha pokhapokha chifukwa amakhala okondwa komanso omasuka pamodzi. Palibe kudzipereka, kumverera, udindo, nsanje kapena mantha a imfa. Chirichonse chimachokera pa kusankha kwaufulu kwa onse ndi kukonzeka kwa zochitika zilizonse.
Koma kusintha kwakukulu kwa kugonana, kumatitsimikizira momveka bwino kuti ufulu woterewu sutchulidwa payekha, komanso mu kugonana, popanda kugonana. I. mwakonzeka kuzindikira osati nokha, komanso kuti mnzanuyo akhale ndi ufulu "kusiya".
Ngati mnyamata akulimbikitsana paubwenzi - sizosadabwitsa. Kwa iye, izi ziri ndi zinthu zambiri zabwino: palibe udindo, palibe udindo pa mbali yake. Mwina izi sizingakhale zofunika kwa inu pa gawoli la chiyanjano, komabe zingakhale zabwino kuganizira chifukwa chake mnyamata akufuna kuyanjana kwaokha - chifukwa chiyani iwo ali naye? Ndipo n'chifukwa chiyani mumawafuna?
Ubale woterewu ukhoza kuchitika m'magulu awiri: mwina mmodzi mwa awiriwa ndi wokonzeka kuchita chirichonse, kungokhala pafupi ndi munthu amene amamukonda kwambiri, kapena uku ndi ubale wosakhalitsa popanda kukhumudwa, kumvetsa chisoni, kapena kutsegula, mpaka mutembenuka chinthu china chofunika kwambiri. Kumene mumamva bwino kwambiri - sankhani nokha. Chinthu chimodzi chikuwoneka kuti: Kugonana kwaulere ndi njira ya anthu okhwima kwambiri komanso amphamvu omwe amadziwa bwino zomwe akufuna komanso samanga malingaliro osafunikira kwa wokondedwa wawo, mwinamwake chipululu chowotcha chimatha kukhala mumsasa pambuyo pake.
Ndikuganiza kuti chinthu chovuta kwambiri mu bizinesi ili ndikudziwa za atsikana ena a chibwenzi chanu ndipo zimakhala zosavuta, ngati, simunamvere. Kuonjezerapo, kusamala, chikondi komanso chidziwitso cha aliyense wa ife amafuna tsiku lililonse. Chosankha, chomaliza, ndi chanu, koma nthawi zonse kumbukirani - mukuyenera bwino. Yemwe ali wokonzeka kutenga udindo ndikukusamalirani, osati kungoyendetsa galimoto usiku pamagulu a usiku pa nthawi imodzi. Ndipo zabwino izi, mwinamwake, kwinakwake pafupi. Mwinamwake ndi bwino kuyang'ana pozungulira?
Pokhala maubwenzi aufulu muukwati, pakhoza kukhala zosankha zosiyanasiyana. Mwachitsanzo, mwamuna ndi mkazi amakhala pamodzi osati chifukwa chakuti ali ndi chikondi komanso ali pamodzi, koma chifukwa amakhala omasuka - ali ndi ana wamba, amakhazikitsa moyo wa tsiku ndi tsiku, nyumba zogulitsa, komanso nthawi zina bizinesi. Ndipotu, izi, mwina, koposa momwe banja lathu limaganizira, kuchuluka kwa mgwirizanowu.
Nthawi zina mkazi amadziwa kuti mwamuna wake ali ndi ufulu "kusiya". Ndipo ngakhale mwanjira ina izo zimafotokozera izo mwachimvekere. Mwachitsanzo, mitala yamwamuna kapena chisoni kwa atsikana abwino, omwe alibe munthu womasuka. Poyamba, zingamveke kuti banja ili lilinso ndi ubale weniweni. Koma zonse zingakhale zovuta kwambiri. Ziri bwino, musanayambe kuganiza, pambuyo pake kuti mufunse mwamuna wake: "Kodi mumamva bwanji za ubale waufulu m'banja lanu?" Ndipo, mwachiwonekere, mudzamva kuti ufulu wokhala ndi chiwerewere m'banja mwadzidzidzi, koma ndi ufulu wamtundu wanji ngati masewerawa amangopita ku cholinga chimodzi ?!
Inde, munthu sangathe kuiwala achinyamata, omwe moyo wawo ndi umoyo wawo ukhoza kutenga nawo mawonekedwe odabwitsa ndi odziimira okha. Komabe, mibadwo yakale ikhozanso kuyambitsa zovuta zonse. M'nthawi ino ya maphunziro openga nzeru, nthawi zonse zimawoneka kuti chinthu china chofunikira chikudutsa ndipo mukusowa zonse
Inde, ngati izi ndi zosankha za akuluakulu odziimira okha popanda kuganiza, bwanji? Sikuti aliyense ali wokonzeka kupitiriza kufunafuna theka lake kapena kuyembekeza kwake kuti azitha kukhala ndi moyo waumulungu. Koma chinthu chachikulu ndi kukumbukira kuti banja silimatanthauza "kusowa ufulu", ndipo mgwirizano wogwirizana umathabe!