Kodi mungagonjetse bwanji nsanje?

Mwinamwake chowopsya choopsa kwambiri komanso nthawi imodzi ndizochita nsanje za mbuyomu. Atakhala zaka zingapo pansi pa denga limodzi, atakhazikitsa moyo ndi kubereka ana, zonse zimayamba kuyenda ndi "kutopa". Panthawiyi, mkazi, makamaka ngati ali ndi amayi panyumba ya lamulo, amayamba kusowa chikondi chachikulire komanso malingaliro ake. Apa ndi pamene miyala ya pansi pa madzi ikuyamba kuonekera: zonse zimakonzedwa, nyumba ndi "chikho chodzaza", mwanayo ndi banja, ndi nyongolotsi yaing'ono yamphongo.

Nsanje kwa zakale za munthu

Ngati mkazi akuganiza, zidzakhala zovuta kwambiri kusintha maganizo ake. Choipa kwambiri ndi chakuti wokondedwa wanu si woyandikana naye khonde, sangathe "kuumirira" pa kuyitana kwa mwamuna wake pa foni, simungathe kulankhula naye ndikupeza ubale, ndipo mwamuna mwiniwake alibe chowonetsa. Nsanje kwa zaka za mwamuna wake zikuwoneka kuti zikutsogolera chiyanjano kukhala chimaliziro chakufa. Chilichonse chikhoza kuyamba ndi chithunzithunzi chakale kapena msonkhano wina uliwonse pamsewu, koma ndi chirichonse, koma ngati mbewu za nsanje zimagwa panthaka, iwo adya chiyanjanocho kuchokera mkati. Mayiyo akuyamba kuvomereza kuti palibe mgwirizano ndi zochita za mwamuna wake, kuganiza kuti ndi zofunika kwa iye lero, kudziyerekezera ndi zilakolako zakale. Kodi mungagonjetse bwanji nsanje komanso ngati n'zotheka kupewa?

Psychology ya nsanje ya mkazi

Choyamba tiyeni tiwone chifukwa chake mkaziyo ali ndi nsanje. Pali mitundu yambiri ya nsanje. Ngati mumvetsetsa mtundu wanu, zingakhale zosavuta kusankha momwe mungagonjetse nsanje kwa mwamuna wake. Pali mitundu itatu yosiyana:

1. Nsanje ndi katundu. Nsanje yamtundu uwu ili ndi mphamvu pa anthu, ozoloŵera kusunga chirichonse cholamulidwa. Ngati mkazi yemwe ali ndi chikhalidwe chotere sakudziwa zonse za mbuyomu, angayambe kukayikira kuti mfundo yofunika kwambiri yathawa "diso loona zonse".
2. Nsanje chifukwa cha kudziletsa . Pafupifupi choyambirira cha mtundu woyamba, pakali pano anthu akukhala achisoni, osatetezeka, okhumudwa kwambiri, nthawi zambiri ndi kudzidalira.
3. Nsanje ngati chithunzi. Apa chirichonse chiri chosavuta: simudziwa nokha kuti ndinu wokhulupirika ndipo mukuganiza kuti mnzanuyo akhoza kupunthwa.

Mmene mungagonjetse malingaliro a nsanje?

Choncho, tiyeni tione mmene tingagonjetsere nsanje, pogwiritsa ntchito mndandandawu.

1. Choyamba, dziwani moona mtima chifukwa chake mukuyamba kuchitira nsanje: mwina muli ndi mavuto kuntchito kapena ndinu "osakhala pakhomo", mwinamwake amakumbukira kuti zaka 30 zili pafupi - zonsezi ndizisonyezo za kusakhutira kwanu. Kumbukirani choonadi chenicheni: ngati simukudzikonda nokha, n'chifukwa chiyani ena akukondani? Nsanje kwa zaka za mwamuna wake pa nkhaniyi ndi kungodziyesa yekha (ndikudziŵa bwinobwino) ndikufotokozerani chifukwa chake chinachake sichimakhudzidwa ndi moyo. Mwinamwake iye ankagonana ndi zokongola ndi akazi aluntha, koma iye anakwatira iwe, ndipo muzinthu za banja "sanawoneke, osati kulowetsedwa." Ndiye kodi mungathe kudzigwira nokha? Kuti mugonjetse nsanje pankhaniyi, yambani ndi kudzidalira nokha, kupeza njira zothandizira. Ngati pali zotheka, kodi yoga kapena salsa - iyi ndi njira yabwino yokondweretsa nokha ndi kuyatsa moto wakale wa ubale. Azimayi okwiyitsidwa tsopano ali ndi manja ambiri-meyda (patchwork, kupha, scrapbooking) kuti mutha kugwiritsira ntchito malingaliro anu.
2. Ngati simukupereka mpumulo ku maubwenzi omwe simudziwa, kapena mwamuna wanu sakonda kukumbukira zakale, muyenera kuyankhula momveka bwino. Kuyambitsa zokambirana simungathe kukhala ndi zifukwa kapena kudzinenera. Tiyeni tikhale oona mtima: zedi muli ndi nthawi zakale, osati kuti mwamunayo, palibe aliyense amene ayenera kudziwa, ndipo nthawi zonse alibe chodzitamandira, nanga n'chifukwa chiyani okhulupirika anu alibe "zigoba zake"? Mmene mungagonjetse malingaliro a nsanje pankhaniyi: malingaliro otsogolera mu njira yabwino. Popanda kulakwitsa kapena kupambana kokale, popanda ubale ndi amayi ena ndi zochitika, mnzanuyo sanali munthu yemwe munakwatirana naye. Mwa njira, ndipo mwinamwake simunakhalepo mpaka mutakwatirana mu nyumba ya amonke.
3. Ngati moyo uli wopambana, palibe vuto ndi kudzidalira ndipo zikuwoneka ngati palibe chifukwa choyendetsera magawo onse a mwamuna, koma kukayikira kukudzimangira nokha, nkoyenera kudzimvera nokha. Kawirikawiri lingaliro la kukwatulidwa kapena kukwera kumalo komwe "kungochoka" ubongo kumangosanthula, pamene kugulitsidwa kwa wokondedwayo timamulakalaka ndikukweza mutu. Zomwe mungachite: samverani moyo wanu wapamtima, kawirikawiri kusakhutira kumapangitsa chilakolako chokangana ndi amuna ena (kulemekeza kudzidalira kwawo), ndipo kenako pamutu panga pali maganizo omwe mwamuna angathe kumbali ina "kuwombera."