Gawo lokongola la anthu likugawidwa m'magulu awiri - omwe amati "Kugonana ndi anthu awiri - fu, ndi shiti" ndi iwo omwe amaganiza kuti "Ndikufuna kugonana ndi amuna awiri" sakupumula. Komanso, zochitika zamakono zambiri. Koma, ngakhale chiwerengero cha anthu omwe akufuna kuyesa kugonana ndi amuna awiri nthawi yomweyo sichipezeka. Zifukwa izi ndi zosiyana, kudziletsa kwa munthu wina kumalepheretsa, ndipo wina amakhala wokonda nthawi zonse, pofotokoza mwachidule kuti "simugonana ndi anyamata awiri." Zoona, amayi ena, akupeza mzere wotere, akuyesetsabe kugonana ndi abwenzi awiri, koma "kumbali." Ndipo kuwatsutsa chifukwa cha izo ndi zovuta - moyo umodzi, ndipo mukufuna kuyesetsa kwambiri. Koma mungakonze bwanji kugonana ndi amuna awiri?
Ndikufuna kugonana ndi anyamata awiri!
Kamodzi pamene mayi ali ndi malingaliro okhudzana ndi kugonana ndi amuna awiri, nthawi yomweyo amafuna kulankhula ndi kuchitapo kanthu mwamsanga. Koma izi zimalepheretsedwa ndi zambiri "bwanji ngati", zomwe zimangowonekera pambuyo pangwiro. Koma amayi ambiri amasamala za momwe chidziwitsochi chidzakhudzire maubwenzi omwe alipo, ngati angaike banja lawo pangozi pokwaniritsa chikhumbo chawo. Ndipo mantha amakhala amphamvu kwambiri moti amayi samayesetsa kuti amuwuze mnzake za zongoganizira. Ndipo ndikutani tsopano kusiya zilakolako zawo kapena kupeza amuna angapo "kumbali" yomwe ingathandize ndi kukhazikitsa? Zokambirana zonsezi ziri ndi ufulu kumoyo, koma kukambirana ndi wokondedwa wanu za kugonana atatu pamodzi. Ndipo musawope kuti akuganiza kuti ndiwe wamwano kapena kuganiza kuti simukumukonda. Amene akudziwa, mwinamwake adzatenga lingaliro lanu ndi chidwi. Ndipo, ndithudi, simuyenera kuchita manyazi ndi zilakolako zanu, okonda kugonana amalingalira za kugonana ndi amuna awiri. Mu chilengedwe, chisankho chimapangidwa ndi mkazi, ndipo mwa anthu ndi mkazi amene amasankha wokondedwa wake. Koma sizomwezo, wina ali wanzeru, koma wina ndi wokongola kwambiri, ndani amene angasankhe? Izi zimafuna kuyesedwa kwina kwabedi - zinalembedwa mu majini aakazi, koma motsutsana ndi chikhalidwe cha chilengedwe ndi zovuta kukana. Choncho, mutaganizira za kugonana ndi anyamata awiri, simukufunikira kuganiza zolakwika zokhudzana ndi chiwerewere chanu.
Kodi mungakonze bwanji kugonana ndi abwenzi awiri?
Sikuti anthu onse amachirikiza lingaliro loitanira mnzawo zabwino, amatha ndipo sangakane kwa msungwana wachiwiri, koma sikuti aliyense akhoza kugawira mkazi wawo ndi mwamuna wina. Koma izi sizikutanthauza kuti tiyenera kuiwala za chikhumbo chathu. Pofuna kuti izi zitheke, ziyenera kuchitidwa bwino kwambiri, komanso kuti zisamalengeze mwamuna wake pakhomo ", ndikuyitanirani mnzanuyo, wachitatu adzakhala." Choyamba, muyenera kukambirana ndi mnzanuyo ndikupeza momwe angagwiritsire ntchito kugonana kotereku / kovomerezeka. Ngati wokondedwayo atembenuka mphuno zake kapena akunena kuti "ayi," musatope, amuna nthawi zina amati "ayi", kutanthauza kuti "ndikuvomereza." Tangoganizani kuti mwasiya njirayi, chifukwa mumamukonda komanso mumalemekeza maganizo ake. Ndiyeno pakapita kanthawi, perekani kuti muwonetse filimu yowonongeka pamutu wa nkhani ya kugonana (MZHM, ndithudi) ndikuyang'ana zomwe munthu wake anachita. Ngati filimuyo imamulimbikitsa, onse "kasitomala akuyendayenda", pang'ono, ndipo atenga maganizo anu kale. Pali nthawi pamene mwamuna sagwirizana ndi katatu mwa njira iliyonse, pakadali pano ndizomveka kubwereranso, koma banja lanu ndi loposa ndalama kuposa mlendo pabedi lanu?
Malangizo otsogolera kugonana ndi anyamata awiri
Pambuyo pokalandira chilolezo cha mnzanuyo pofuna kuyesa, mungayambe kukonzekera chochitikacho. Ndi bwino kupenda mfundo izi:
- chikhumbo cha abwenzi chiyenera kukhala chiyanjano ndi chowona mtima, mwinamwake palibe amene adzasangalale;
- Kuitanira ku gawo lachitatu la anzanu sikuli loyenera - chifukwa chiyani mumamva bwino kapena nsanje zomwe zingabwere pambuyo pake;
- zochitika zonse za zomwe zikubwerazi ziyenera kukambilana ndi mnzanuyo.