Ubale wogonana pakati pa anthu achikondi umabweretsa chisangalalo chokwanira, kulimbitsa ukwati ndikupanga okonda kukhala ngati "theka la lonse".
Mwachizoloŵezi, gawo lothandizira mu ubale wapamtima umaperekedwa kwa kugonana kolimba, koma lero akazi samafuna kukhala osalongosoka ndipo akufufuza zolemba zomwe zimayendetsa amuna openga.
Kodi n'chiyani chimapangitsa munthu kukhala wopenga?
Anthu onse ali pawokha muzofuna zawo, komabe, molingana ndi kugonana kwa amuna, pali zovuta zomwe pafupifupi anthu onse amakonda. Ndipo imodzi mwazochitika zoterezi ndizo mitundu yonse ya machitidwe a kugonana . Izi zimapangitsa munthu kuti adziwe bwinobwino vutoli, kuti azigonjetsa mkazi. Chikondwerero cha wokondedwayo chimawonjezanso chifukwa cha mphamvu zoposa iyeyo. Zizindikiro zamaganizo, kuphatikizapo zozizwitsa za thupi, ndizo zimayambitsa zowopsya kwambiri zomwe azimayi awiriwo amapeza.
Chotsatira chomwe amachikonda kwambiri pa abambo ndi udindo wa wokwera . Pachikhalidwe ichi, mkaziyo akutsogolera, amatha kuyendetsa liwiro ndi mphamvu ya malowedwe. Mwamunayo amatha kumvera, ndipo ngati atha kukhala wolimba mtima kuti amuthandize kudzidzimitsa yekha ndi kumangoyang'ana maso, chidwi chake chidzawonjezeka nthawi zambiri chifukwa chogogomezera kugonana.
Mpikisano wa wokwera chifukwa cha kuwonjezeka kwa zosangalatsa akhoza kukhala zosiyanasiyana. Mwachitsanzo, kugwera ndi mnzanu yemwe sakukumana naye, koma ndi msana wake , akutsamira manja ake pa mawondo a mwamuna. Pachikhalidwe ichi, kukakamizidwa kwa ziwalo zamkati mwa abambo ndi amai kumawonjezeka, ndipo kumverera kumakhala kowala kwambiri.
Vuto limene limapangitsa munthu kukhala wopenga ndilo "69" . Makhalidwe ovomerezeka a amuna amtengo wapatali kwambiri, ndipo udindo umenewu umapatsa onse kuwapatsa ndi kulandira. Komabe, amayi ena omwe ali ndi udindo umenewu amatsutsidwa ndipo nthawi zonse amangoganiza za momwe amaonekera, zomwe zingawathandize kukondweretsa munthu. Amayi sayenera kusokonezeka - ngati munthu mwiniwake ndiye anali woyambitsa mafilimu ocheperetsa, ndiye amakonda kuyang'ana kwa mkazi ndi fungo lake.
Pomaliza m'pofunika kunena kuti kuchuluka kwa chisangalalo kuchokera ku kugonana kwa banja kumadalira okha, choncho ndikofunika kudzipangitsa kuti mukhale wolimba kwambiri komanso kuti musamachite manyazi komanso kuti mukhale ndi chidaliro chonse cha mnzanuyo.