Maubwenzi awiri amadza pakati pa anthu, pamene ali oyenerana ofanana. M'mabanja omwe ali ndi zibwenzi zotero, mwamuna ndi mkazi wake amamvetsetsa mwachindunji, nthawi zonse amadziwa kuti ndi ndani omwe amathandiza, kumvetsa bwino, ndi ntchito ziti, ndi zina zotani.
Kugonana kungabwere mwa munthu aliyense ngati iye akupeza theka lofanana mmalingaliro ake, mu mzimu, mu nzeru, ndi zina zotero. Palibe "anthu abwino" omwe nthawi zonse amakhala okondwa muukwati komanso "zoipa", omwe sangathe kukhala nawo m'banja. Mwachidule munthu aliyense yemwe wapeza "chojambula" chake amatha kupanga mgwirizano wapamwamba.
Malinga ndi chikhalidwe cha anthu, mawiri awiriwa amapezeka pokhapokha. Anthu omwe amapanga mgwirizanowo sakudziwa nthawi yomweyo kuti ali ndi mwayi wotani. Kumayambiriro kwa ubale wotere, zonse zimachitika ngati kuti zokha - poyamba zinangoyamba kuyankhulana, ndiye zinakhala chizolowezi kuyenda pamodzi, ndi zina zotero. Misonkhano ya anthu awiri omwe sagwirizana nawo sali limodzi ndi mphepo yamkuntho, ndipo aliyense amakhala ndi mtendere ndi chitonthozo. Pokhapokha atapatukana, mtsikana ndi mnyamata amamvetsa momwe kulili kovuta popanda wina ndi mzake, momwe samapezera malo awo ndikumverera kuti iwo omwe sakhala nawo pafupi sakuwamvetsa.
Chikwati chachiwiri
Chikwati chokwatirana chidzawonongedwa ndikukhalitsa. Anthu omwe ali ndi kumvetsetsa kwathunthu sangathe kutsutsana. Nthawi zonse zovuta m'banja mwathu zimathetsedwa chifukwa cha chithandizo, chifundo ndi zofanana, mwachitsanzo, Ngati wina ali wokhumudwa, chifukwa pali mavuto ogwira ntchito, ndiye kuti mwamuna kapena mkazi sangakhale pamutu pake kuti amasangalale.
Komabe, osati maanja onse amene amapanga maubwenzi opanga maukwati amapanga maukwati molingana ndi chiwerengero cha anthu. Anthu omwe alibe ubale wotero muubwana amaopa kuwonjezereka koteroko kapena kukhulupirira kuti theka lachiwiri ndi labwino kwambiri ndipo sakuliyenerera. Kapena, mmalo mwake, pokhala ndi wokondedwa awiri, pali kumverera kuti munthuyu ali wophweka, wosasangalatsa ndipo samamuwononga nthawi. Popeza atasiya ubale wabwino, munthu akhoza kupeza moyo wosasangalala.