Chikondi chosasangalatsa ndi mlendo mu mtima wa munthu aliyense, wokhoza kukonda, mwakuya. Ndipo ngakhale kuti iye adawatsogolera anthu ntchito zazikulu za luso, ntchito zopanda malire, ndi zina zotero, kwa zaka mazana ambiri, kukomana ndi chikondi chopanda chikondi, kumva ululu ndi kupsya mtima, posachedwa timabwera ku funso - kodi chikondi chosasangalatsa ichi chingatheke bwanji, kuiwala, kuchotsa, kuchoka mitima miyaya.
Musanafunse funso limeneli, dziyankheni nokha, koma moona mtima - koma kodi mukufunadi kuvutika kwambiri ndi chikondi chosasangalatsa, monga kale. Zikumveka ngati zodabwitsa, koma akatswiri ambiri a maganizo amalingalira za kuchuluka kwa masochism muzochitikira chikondi chosasangalatsa ndi chosaganizira. Choyamba, ife timagwiritsidwa ntchito pochitira chifundo: onse kuchokera kwa ena ndi kwa ife eni. Vuto la chikondi chosasangalatsa ndi chakuti munthu amadalira pa iye. Ndiponso, kuvutika n'kofunikira kwa iye, monga mlingo wa mankhwala apadera. Kotero, mwachitsanzo, chikondi choyamba, chomwe, monga lamulo, chimakhala chosasangalatsa (kapena chosaganiziridwa), chimakumbukiridwa kwa ife nthawi yaitali chifukwa cha malingaliro omwe agwidwa. Mwachidziwikire munapaka mafuta pamoto, kuwonjezera kukhumudwa ndi nyimbo zoyenera, malingaliro, ndi mwadzidzidzi mukudzigwetsa misozi. Wodziwika? Kotero, kuvutika-kodi chikondichi?
Pafupi ndi zimenezo, chikondi ndi chiyani, kukangana ndi kufotokozera akatswiri, olemba ndakatulo ndi akatswiri a maganizo a maganizo kwa zaka zopitirira zana limodzi. Ambiri amavomereza kuti chikondi chenicheni chiyenera kubweretsa chisangalalo ndi kukhala wokhutira. Ngati kumverera kumakhala kudalira, kukankhira manyazi ndi masochism, ndiye kumatsutsana ndi chikhalidwe cha chikondi - kulenga. Mutha kutaya moyo wanu, mwayi wanu, ufulu wanu wachimwemwe. Ndipo ngati mukufuna kusintha mkhalidwewu, ndiye ichi ndilo gawo loyamba lachisawawa.
Kotero, choti muchite ngati mukufuna chikondi chosasangalatsa kukhalabe m'mbuyo.
Kodi mungachotse bwanji chikondi chosasangalatsa?
- Ndikofunika kuyang'ana chikondi chosasangalatsa osati monga kumverera kokweza, koma monga matenda. Njira yotereyi ingatilole kuti tiikepo mbali yochepa ya nzeru:
- ngati ndalamazo ziloledwa, pitani ku zokambirana ndi katswiri wa zamaganizo. Katswiriyo adzakuthandizani kupeza njira zomwe zimapangitsa kuvomereza kuti banja lanu silingathe kukhalapo;
- gwiritsani ntchito masewera apadera omwe cholinga chake ndi kukhululukira. Talingalirani mwachikondi wokondedwa wanu, mumupemphe iye kuti amukhululukire, mum'patse iye chimwemwe, mumamasule iye;
- Ganizirani za chikondi cha munthu wina, monga - kwa inu nokha. Chitani zonse kuti muzidzikonda nokha, kuti mudziwe nokha makhalidwe anu abwino kwambiri. Dzikumbutseni nokha ndi kuvomereza chikondi chanu. Fotokozani kwa mwana wamkati kuti simudzamusiya konse;
- nthawi zina, kuganiza za momwe tingaiwale chikondi chosasangalatsa, timataya lingaliro lililonse la kutaya zikumbutso zonse za moyo. Koma izi ndi zomveka. Bisani zithunzi zojambulidwa kutali ndi zinthu zomwe zikukukumbutsani za wokondedwa wanu;
- Musalowe m'malo mwanu chifukwa cha maganizo okhumudwitsa. Ndizodabwitsa kuti timagwiritsa ntchito mphamvu zochuluka bwanji podzipangira tokha
chikondi chosasangalatsa. Ndipotu, kumverera koteroko kulibe chifukwa poyerekeza ndi moto umene umafuna nkhuni za kutentha. M'malo mwa zochitika zabwino, mumadyetsa chikondi chanu ndi zochitika. Kodi ndibwino kuti muwononge nthawi ngati mukufuna kusiya chikondi chosasangalatsa? Ayi!
Dziwani dziko la zokondweretsa, mabuku osangalatsa, zilankhulo zakunja, kuvina, kuyenda - chomwe chimakupatsani chimwemwe, osati kuzunzika.
Ndipo, chofunikira kwambiri, khalani omasuka kudziko. Apo ayi, simungadziwe kuti ndi ndani yemwe ali woyenera kutenga malo apamwamba pamoyo wanu!