Ali mwana, akuluakulu amaphunzira mwana wawo kuthandiza pakhomo, kudzikonza okha ndi kuphunzira bwino. Chimodzi chimaperekedwa mophweka, ena amapita mufupipafupi, koma potsirizira pake amatsimikizira zolinga za makolo. Palinso gulu la ana omwe ali abwino pa chirichonse, koma pazifukwa zosadziwika iwo sakufuna kuthera nthawi ndi phindu. N'zachidziwikire kuti wina aliyense wa ife nthawi zina amafuna kukhala waulesi kwambiri komanso kumakhala pabedi. Koma pamene mwana nthawi zonse amasiya kugwira ntchito ndipo sakufuna kuphunzira , makolo amayamba "kumenya mabelu".
Kuyang'ana chomwe chimayambitsa
Chilichonse chili ndi chiyambi chake ndi ulesi wa zinyenyeswazi zako zakhazikitsanso pazifukwa. Ana amayamba mwakhama ndikuthandiza akuluakulu. Choncho musanayambe kumukalipira ndi kumulanga mwana wanu, yesetsani kumvetsa chomwe chimayambitsa khalidweli.
- Kawirikawiri ana safuna kuchita chilichonse chifukwa chosowa zolinga. Ngati mwanayo achita chinachake pokhapokha chifukwa choti akuyenera kuchitidwa, ndithudi adzakhala wamanyazi. Nthawi zina ana amayang'ana makolo awo ndipo safuna kuti avomereze khalidwe lawo akamayenera kuchita zomwe ayenera kuchita. Ntchito yanu ndikutanganidwa ndi zomwe mukuchitazo ndikukulimbikitsani kugwira ntchito. Ngati mukufuna kukhala bwana wamkulu ndikukhala pa mpando wa chikopa - phunzirani kuganiza ndi kugwira ntchito, ngati mukufuna chidole - pangani zidole zina.
- Kuopa kulephera. Ngakhale akuluakulu komanso anthu ogwira ntchito bwino nthawi zambiri amagwiritsa ntchito mawu akuti "ngati akugwira ntchito," "Sindikudziwa, koma ndikuyesera." Potero, timakonzekera kuti tisapite patsogolo, kotero kuti patapita nthawi tikhoza kutchula kuti chinthu chilichonse chinali poyamba. Ana amachita chimodzimodzi. Akuyang'ana njira zobwerera, kuti asakwiyitse. Koma amasankha mawonekedwe osiyana: ulesi monga chitetezo choipa, kutopa. Mwanayo amamva kuti ntchito inayake imachotsa mphamvu yake, ndipo imabwera matenda a ulesi. M'nyumba imene makolo nthawi zonse amakhala ndi chigwirizano chokwanira ndi kupereka ntchito zambiri kwa mwana, amatha kukhala waulesi popanda kupuma. Koma pakadali pano, ulesi umayamba kukhala wosasamala komanso wovutika maganizo.
- Palinso zochitika zosiyana, pamene amayi ndi agogo agwedeza kwambiri. Zotsatira sizingakhale nthawi yayitali kubwera. Ngati mwanayo wakhala mu njirayi kwa zaka zingapo, ndiye kuti kubwezeretsanso nthawiyo sikugwira ntchito. Muyenera kugwiritsa ntchito nthawi yochuluka kuti muzolowere chitsanzo china cha khalidwe. Monga lamulo, vuto limapitirira mpaka pachiyambi cha sukulu.
- Kusiyanasiyana koopsa kwa khalidwe la makolo pamene mwana akuyesera kuti apange wamkulu msinkhu. Kuperewera kwa masewera ndi kusunthira mu moyo wa zinyenyesa kumabweretsa chitetezo chotani mu mawonekedwe a ulesi.
Kodi tingathetse bwanji vutoli?
Chodabwitsa kwambiri, koma chinthu choyamba chiyenera kugwira ntchito pawekha. Musasamalire mwana wamkulu kwambiri ndikumupatsa mwayi wodziwonetsera yekha. Musamatsirize bizinesi yoyamba ndi iye mpaka kumapeto. Mwanayo ayenera kudziwa kuti chilichonse chomwe adayambitsa ayenera kumaliza ndi kukhala ndi udindo pa izi.
Musamulole mwana wanu nthawi zonse. Pamene katundu sangapume mokwanira, thupi limakhala motere: limadwala ndipo limapereka mpata wotsitsimula. Tiyeni tigwiritse ntchito tsiku limodzi pa sabata monga momwe mwanayo akufuna.
Kodi munayamba mwalingalira kuti mwanayo ali wokonzeka kukhala waulesi? Amadziwa izi ndikuzigwiritsa ntchito monga chishango: ozungulira adzalandira izi monga opatsidwa, ndipo chilangocho chiyenera kunyalanyazidwa. Ndipo zimachitika kuti ndizosavuta kudziyerekezera kukhala waulesi kusiyana ndi kupita ku sukulu ndikukhazikitsa mavuto a anzanu kapena kukonza chisokonezo.
Ntchito ya kholo ndi kuzindikira komwe miyendo ikukula ndi kuphunzira momwe angayesere njira zothetsera vutoli. Muyenera kukhala oganiza bwino ndipo nthawi zonse muthandize mwana wanu kuti asagonje pakufuna kuchita chirichonse, kulimbikitsa kupambana kwake m'njira iliyonse ndi kulimbikitsa.