Ndinayamba kukondana ndi anzanga - kodi ndiyenera kuchita chiyani?

Mwambi wina wotchuka umati, "Chikondi cha mibadwo yonse chimagonjera, koma kodi chiridi chomwecho, ndipo kodi pali tsogolo la ubale wa anthu osagwirizana? Lero, simunawone chithunzi kwa nthawi yayitali - msungwana wamng'ono, wazaka 20-25, akuyenda ndi mwamuna wa zaka 40 mpaka 50. Kwa anthu ambiri, makamaka kuuma kwa Soviet, izi zimatchedwa kupotoka ndipo sizikugwirizana ndi maubwenzi akuluakulu ndipo makamaka alibe chikondi.

Zifukwa za kusankha

Nchifukwa chiyani atsikana amamvera amuna akuluakulu ndi zomwe zimakopa iwo:

1. Aliyense wamkulu ali ndi zochitika za moyo . Iye adayika kale ziphuphu zake ndipo akhoza kunena zomwe ziri zolondola ndi zomwe siziri. Atsikana ambiri amawayerekezera ndi odnodokami awo, omwe kwenikweni samasamala za dziko lonse lapansi. Amuna achikulire ndi olimba mtima, odzidalira okha, pafupi nawo, ngati kumbuyo kwa khoma lamwala, ndi anyamata omwe ali ndi nkhawa zokha zogonana komanso nthawi yosangalatsa.
2. Mwamuna wamkulu, monga mwachizolowezi, amapereka ndipo msungwanayo sakusowa kulingalira za komwe angapezere ndalama kuti apange kavalidwe katsopano kapena kupita ku lesitilanti. Wokondedwa adzakufunsani mphatso, kapena kugula nyumba ndi galimoto, izo zimadalira pa chikhalidwe chake. Ngati mumasankha anzanu amene, ngati mulibe kanthu, muyenera kulipira pazinthu zonse pamodzi ndi poyambira.
3. Amuna amenewa amatha kuyamikila zabwino, ochenjera komanso olemekezeka. Iwo amadziwa chomwe ndi motani, ndipo makamaka chofunika kwambiri kuti anene, chochitika ichi sichipezeka pakati pa anyamata.
4. Atsikana omwe amamvetsera amuna oterewa, nthawi zambiri amanyalanyazidwa ndi abambo awo ali mwana. Amalandira kwa abambo akulu omwe atate awo sanawapatse: chisamaliro, kusungidwa, chikondi, chifundo, ndi zina zotero.
5. Mwamuna wachikulire amadziwa kuchita zinthu, nthawi yomwe amalankhula bwino kwambiri kale. Munthu woteroyo amakwatira ngati akufuna kuti azikhala ndi moyo wake wonse, ndipo samapempha kuti adikire zaka zingapo kuti aganizire ndi kusankhapo kanthu.
6. Amuna oterewa ngati akukondana kwambiri, akuwopa kuti adzakutaya komanso adzakhala okonzekera chilichonse kuti aike dziko lonse lapansi, koma izi zikhoza kuyembekezera kuchokera kwa mnyamata wamng'ono yemwe sangathe kusankha zochita pamoyo wake. Chochotsapo ndi nsanje , zomwe zidzatsagana ndi chibwenzi chanu chachikulu, koma kodi n'zotheka ndi mnyamata wamng'ono?
7. Kwa wamkulu wanu wosankhidwa, simungokhala chinthu chogonana, adzalandira moyo wanu, khalidwe lanu ndi makhalidwe ena omwe si ofunika kwa mnyamata.
8. Mwamuna wachikulire ndiwothandiza kwambiri pamoyo, angathe kuthandizira mavuto aliwonse amene angakwaniritsidwe pamoyo wanu osati ndi malangizo okha, koma ndi ntchito.

Kodi chingachitike n'chiyani?

Pali zitsanzo zambiri za mabanja osakwatiwa omwe ali osangalala. Onse ali bwino ndipo sanadandaulepo kuti atenga njira imeneyi. Koma pali zitsanzo ndi zokwanira zolepheretsa mgwirizanowu, zomwe, mwatsoka, zasokonezeka. Nthawi zambiri abwenzi amenewa amakhala nawo malingaliro osiyana pa moyo ndipo poyamba izi zimakopeka, koma m'kupita kwa nthawi izi zingayambitse kusamvana kwakukulu komanso kugawikana. Mudzatha kumvetsera mawu anu omwe akukhumudwitsa kuti: "Kodi mumadziwa chiyani muzaka zanu, ndinu aang'ono kwambiri." Pali kuthekera kuti patapita kanthawi simudzasangalatsidwa ndi iye, ndipo adzalandira mnzanga watsopano, ngakhale wamng'ono. Amuna achikulire akufunira akazi awo osankhidwa kwambiri, choncho mudzafunikira kukwaniritsa zomwe akufuna.

Kutsiliza

Bwanji ngati mutayamba kukondana ndi munthu wamkulu - mvetserani mtima wanu. Zaka zingathe kusewera bwino mu ubale wanu, ndipo mwinamwake mosiyana. Choncho, kuikapo pangozi kapena, kusiya, kuyang'ana kuyang'ana munthu wina wamng'ono, izi ndizomwe mungasankhe.