Chiyanjano pakati pa mnyamata ndi mtsikana si nthawi zonse limodzi ndi chimwemwe ndi chimwemwe. Nthawi zina pamakhala nthawi zomwe zimakhala zovuta kapena kuzizira. Ngakhale izi sizili nthawi zosangalatsa, koma zimathandiza kumvetsetsa bwino ubalewo ndikudzipangira okha zifukwa.
Atsikana nthawi zambiri amada nkhaŵa chifukwa chakuti mnyamatayo anayamba kukonda pang'ono kuposa kale. Komabe, ngati mnyamatayo watha, zizindikiro zidzawonekera pomwepo. Iwo sangathe kuona msungwana yekha, komanso anthu ozungulira.
Kodi mungamvetse bwanji kuti mnyamatayu watentha?
Kawirikawiri, atsikana amatsutsa za ubale wa khalidwe la mnyamata. Zikuwoneka kuti ngati mwamuna amamukonda, ndiye kuti nthawizonse amasonyeza zizindikiro zofanana zomwe adakumana nazo poyamba. Komabe, ziyenera kumveka kuti chiyanjano sichitha kukhala pamwamba pa zilakolako. Ndipo ndi zachilendo ngati mnyamata amasiya kuzungulira kasanu pa tsiku ndikupereka maluwa a maluwa tsiku ndi tsiku. N'zotheka kuti adapeza chidaliro mu ubale ndikubwerera kuzinthu zofunika.
Kuzizira kumatanthauza chinthu china. Kudziwa kuti mnyamatayo watentha kwambiri kungatanthauze kuti sanasangalale ndi mtsikanayo, safuna kuti azikhala naye nthawi ndikumakumana.
Zizindikilo za kumverera kozizira kwa mnyamata zingakhale:
- Kukana kukomana, zifukwa, kuti watopa, wotanganidwa, alibe nthawi. Ndipo zifukwa zoterezi zikuwoneka pafupifupi tsiku lililonse, ndipo mnyamata samachichita kanthu kuti akumanebe;
- iye anataya chidwi ndi moyo wa mtsikanayo, sakusamala momwe amachitira nthawi tsiku lonse ndi amene adakumana naye;
- pamsonkhano, amatha kudya chakudya chamadzulo, kugonana ndikupita kukagona kapena kuchoka;
- iye salinganizire tsogolo logwirizana;
- Kukambirana pa foni kunakhala kofulumira;
- pamene akuyesera kuyankhula za kumverera mnyamata akhoza kuyamba kuimba mlandu mtsikana wonse, osamupatsa mwayi woti anene chilichonse.
Ngati zizindikiro za vutoli zakhala zikudziwikiratu, ndiye kuti ndi bwino kuganizira zomwe mungachite ngati mnyamatayo watentha. Komabe, pazimenezi muyenera kukhala otsimikiza kuti sikuti ubale wapita kumalo osasunthika, kapena munthuyo, ali ndi mavuto kuntchito.
Nanga bwanji ngati mnyamatayu watentha?
Atsikana ambiri samadziwa choti achite ngati mukuona kuti mnyamatayu watentha. Choncho, oimira gawo labwino la umunthu amayamba mantha ndi kulakwitsa, kusiyana ndi kufika nthawi yopatukana.
Ngati pali kukayikira kuti maganizo a mnyamatayo akuchepa, muyenera:
- Lekani kulamulira mwamuna. Amuna mwachibadwa amakhala omasuka kukonda. Amakhumudwa pamene wina akuwayang'ana nthawi zonse.
- Musati mulole. Amuna ndi osaka, choncho tikuyenera kuwapatsa mwayi woitana poyamba, kunena mawu oyamba poyamba, kupanga msonkhano woyamba. Musamafikire mosavuta ndi kuvomereza kukomana nthawi iliyonse yamasana kapena usiku. Mnyamatayo ayenera kumverera kuti ndiwe wofunikira komanso kuti siwe wake ndipo akhoza kutha ku moyo wake nthawi iliyonse.
- Ndikofunika kukhala okongola ndi okongola. Misonkhano yayitali siyenera kukhala chifukwa chodziwonetsera nokha. Amafunika
khalani okongola, ukufalikira ndi kowala. - Musapite kukayankhula kuti muike ma bulati onse pa "ndi". Ngati mnyamata ndi wofunikira kwa inu, ndi bwino kuyesa kubwezeretsa chiyanjano mosamala ndi unobtrusively. Nthawi zina mnyamata samvetsa zomwe sakonda. Pankhaniyi, pali mwayi uliwonse wodzikweza nokha ndikugonjetsa wokondedwa wanu.
- Chitani chilichonse kuti muzikhala limodzi: chitani zomwe mumakonda , muzikhala ndi anzanu komanso achibale anu.
Nanga bwanji ngati mwamunayo watha kuchoka patali?
Mtunda nthawi zambiri umachotsa chikondi chosasinthika. Ndikovuta kwambiri kukamenyana ndi chikondi patali. Komabe, apa mungagwiritse ntchito malamulo omwe ali pamwambapa: musamangokakamiza, kupereka ufulu, kukuchititsani nsanje.