Timagwiritsidwa ntchito poona kuti amuna nthawi zambiri amabisa malingaliro awo, powalingalira mawonetseredwe awo ngati ofooka. Koma khalidweli limapangitsa kukayikira, kodi anthu amadandaula? Mwinamwake samasowa ndipo sapezeka kupezeka, ndipo ife mwachangu tikupempha kwa iwo monga choncho?
Momwe mungapangire munthu kuphonya?
Choyamba, muyenera kumvetsa pamene tayamba kunjenjemera. Mwachiwonekere, izi zimachitika mukataya mwayi wokhala ndi mtengo wapatali. Aliyense amaphonya makolo awo, ubwana wosasamala, nyama yokondedwa, ndi zina zotero. Maganizo amenewa ndi ofanana kwa aliyense, choncho funso ngati amuna amadwala kapena ayi silofunika. Ngati muli wokondedwa kwambiri kwa wosankhidwa wanu, ndithudi adzadikira misonkhano ndi inu, akuyembekezera aliyense. Ngakhale kuti amvetsetse momwe munthu angaphonye, sizikupweteka. Mwadzidzidzi padzakhala chosowa chothandizira wokondedwa wanu kuti amve kumverera kwake?
- Kawirikawiri, atsikana amayesetsa kwambiri kuti asonyeze chikondi chawo mwakuti samalola munthu kugwidwa. Yesani njira ina, musamamuimbire ola lililonse, inunso muli ndi zinthu zina. Gwiritsani ntchito nthawi yambiri yogwira ntchito komanso zosangalatsa, ngakhale tsopano akuitana ndikudabwa momwe mukuchitira.
- Ngati simukukhala limodzi, ndiye kuti ulendo wobwera kwa munthu uiwale chinachake kuchokera kwa iye chomwe chidzakumbutsani. Inde, ngati mukuganiza momwe mungapangire mwamuna wokwatira akuda, malangizo awa sangagwire ntchito. Ngati mkazi atapeza chinthuchocho, wokonda kukumbukira, koma osati kuti ndi mawu abwino.
- Mukufuna kuti munthu aphonye? Gwiritsani ntchito nthawi yambiri, yodzala ndi zosangalatsa, zosaiwalika. Ndiye kukumbukira kulikonse komwe amakumana nanu mwachangu.
- Ngati mukuganiza momwe mungapangire mwamuna wokwatiwa akuda, ndiye kuti mukuyenera kugwirizanitsa luso lofufuza. Ganizilani zomwe sali pabanja: kugonana, kusamala kwambiri, mbale zomwe amakonda, kutamanda. Yesetsani kumupatsa zomwe akufuna, ndipo kenako adzakukumbukirani ndikukuphonyani pamalingaliro apadera omwe sangathe kufika pakhomo.