Mu psychology, mwa zolinga zimamveka kuti munthu akhoza kukumbukira zolinga zake, momveka kupanga zolinga, kuthana ndi mavuto, osasiya ndi njira zonse kukwaniritsa zotsatira.
Monga akunena, kulota sikuli kovulaza. Komabe, munthu aliyense ayenera kumvetsa kuti ndalama kapena zinthu zina zomwe zimapindula kuchokera kumwamba sizingagwe. Tiyenera kuwerengera okha mphamvu zathu ndipo, ndithudi, tichitepo kanthu.
Vuto la kudzipatulira limasonyeza bwino ntchito yathu. Zambiri za izi tidzakambirana.
Chiyeso cha kudzipereka
Fufuzani momwe inu mulili munthu wamodzi yemwe angakuthandizeni njira zisanu. Palibe chovuta kupititsa mayesero awa. Kuchokera ku mayankho atatuwa, sankhani chimodzi. Yankhani mafunso onse ndikupeza zotsatira zanu.
1. Kuti mukwaniritse cholinga chanu, inu:
- Fotokozerani nthawi yeniyeni yomwe ikugwiritsiridwa ntchito;
- konzani zochita zanu;
- ganizirani njira zosiyanasiyana kuti mukwaniritse, musankhe zosavuta.
2. Tangoganizirani kuti tsiku lomaliza pasanapite tchuthi, bwana akukulangizani kuti muchite ntchito yodalirika kwambiri. Kodi mungatani:
- Yankhani ndi kukana;
- Sungagone usiku wonse ndikuyesera kukwaniritsa ntchitoyo;
- thandizani ulendo wanu.
3. Mukukonzekera tchuthi ndi anzanu, koma pamapeto omaliza, mmodzi wa iwo sangathe kupita. Kodi mungatani:
- Thandizani kuthetsa vuto ndi mnzanu;
- sankhani kubwezeretsa ulendo;
- Mudzakhala wokhumudwa ndipo simudzapita kulikonse.
4. Kodi mumavomereza ndi mawu akuti: "Ndibwino kudalira munthu wina, kusiyana ndi kudalira ena"?
- Ine ndikuganiza ndi zopanda pake;
- nthawi zina;
- kuvomereza.
5. Ngati mulibe ndalama zokwanira kugula chinthu chofunika kwambiri ndi chofunikira kwa inu, inu:
- tengani izo pa ngongole;
- kubwereka ndalama kwa abwenzi;
- adzayembekezera kuti awonekere.
Chinsinsi cha mayesero
Ngati mutapeza zambiri "mayankho", ndiye kuti mukhoza kutchulidwa kuti munthu wamphamvu kwambiri komanso wofunitsitsa. Mukupita ku cholinga ndikuchifikira ndi njira iliyonse. Kulimba kwa khalidwe ndi kudziimira kumapangitsa kuti mupambane.
Ngati pali "b" mayankho. Nthawi zambiri mumapereka zofuna zanu m'dzina la ena. Mungathe kukwaniritsa zomwe mukufuna, ngati simumangogwa mwamsanga ndikugonjetsedwa ndi wina. Musasinthe zolinga zanu ndipo musawasiye.
Ngati pali mayankho ambiri "mu". Ndiwe munthu "woyandama pansi pa mtsinje." Sindikonda kukonza ndikusalemba zolemba. Mwinamwake mukukhutira ndi chirichonse. Inu simukukhazikitsa cholinga - si chinthu chanu.
Kodi mungatani kuti mukhale ndi mtima wodzipereka?
Choyamba, dzithandizeni nokha kuti mu moyo uno mukufunadi chinachake. Kodi maloto anu ndi otani? Kodi mukufuna kukhala ndi moyo zaka 10-15? Lembani zofuna zanu papepala. Musati muwotche iwo nthawi yotentha pa Chaka Chatsopano, popanda chirichonse chomwe simungathe kutenga chirichonse. Mutatha kulemba maloto anu, sankhani ntchito. Chimene muyenera kuchita kuti mukwaniritse zotsatira. Perekani nthawi yoyenera. Pokhapokha njirayi maloto anu adzasintha n'kukhala zolinga zenizeni ndipo mutadziwa kale momwe mungayendere.
Tsopano chinthu chofunikira kwambiri ndi kukhala osakhala pansi. Pezani zotsatira zochepa. Zopindula zing'onozing'ono zidzakulimbikitsani kuti mutha kupambana. Dzilemekezeni chifukwa cha ntchito yomwe yachitika.
Yesetsani kutsatira ndondomeko zomwe mumakhala nazo ndipo musadzipatse nokha.
Kukula kwa cholinga kumaphatikizapo kugwira ntchito paokha. Musataye mtima musanalephereke, musaope zovuta ndipo musayang'ane njira zosavuta. Dziphunzitseni nokha ndi kuganiza kwanu.
Cholinga chimatsimikizira udindo. Umu ndi momwe muyenera kudzichitira nokha ndi moyo wanu.