Congruence - (Latin congruens, -ntis - commensurate, yoyenera), m'maganizo: a umphumphu; kulandira chidziwitso chowona; zochita, malankhulidwe ndi osalankhula. Munthu wothandizana ndi munthu woonamtima, osadziwika ndi bodza. Mwachitsanzo, tikamayankhulana, tikhoza kuwona makalata kudziko lina la kunja. Mfundo imeneyi ya congruence inayambitsidwa ndi Carl Rogers. Monga chitsanzo cha kusayenerera, kungakhale kunyenga kapena chinyengo. Iwo akusokonezeka ndi chinyengo ndi kuphatikiza.
Chiphunzitso cha congruence
Munthu amene amasonyeza kusaganizira ena sangathe kuzindikira izi. Zimachitika panthawi ya mkwiyo kapena nkhawa, kapena chisokonezo. Mwamuna, pa nthawi imeneyo, amaganiza mozama. Ndipo tikuzindikira izi, koma osamvetsera kwambiri, kumvetsetsa ndi kukhululukira. Koma zimachitika kuti munthu mwadala amayesa kunyenga, kuvala chigoba. Kenaka tiyamba kuchichita mosiyana.
Kusonkhana mukulankhulana
Ndi munthu wokhudzana kwambiri ndikufuna kuyankhulana, kukhala ndi malonda. Nthawi zonse timatsimikizira kuti mawu ake ndi oona. Sitikuyendera ndi kukaikira za kusayera kwake. Kumbukirani maganizo anu kwa mwana wamng'ono.
Pochita zinthu ndi anthu okayikira, nthawi zonse mverani zizindikiro zakunja. Kawirikawiri, anthu odzitamandira amadzipereka okha mwachinsinsi. Yerekezerani ndi zomwe munamva, ndiyeno mudzakhala omvetsera komanso okhudzidwa. Zotsatira zake, iwo sanyengedwa. Mfundo ya mgwirizano ndi kukhala woona mtima, kwa inu nokha komanso kwa ena. Anthu oyandikana nawo amamva kuti ndi osaganizira. Izi ziyenera kumveka. Muzochita zilizonse, anthu ogwirizana amakhala ovomerezeka kwambiri.
Kusonkhana mu Kulankhulana
Tsiku lirilonse timafunika kuti tikhale ndi moyo wabwino. Ngati munthu wina wosasunthika mu congruent apitiliza kukangana m'nyumba yake ndi pamsewu, sadzapambana. Chifukwa muchita chirichonse timadziwonetsera tokha. Monga tili kunyumba komanso m'banja, timakhala ndi antchito komanso mabwenzi. Yesani kukhala ndi chizoloŵezi chabwino. Ndipo kotero, mmodzi ndi mmodzi, yesetsani enawo, m'malo mwazoipazo.
Kudziphunzitsa nokha ndi kofunika kuti muyankhulane. Khalani owona mtima ndi abwino. Ndili ndi anthu oterewa, amadzipangira okha, amakhala ndi chidwi.
Sikovuta kukhala congruent. Zonse zimayamba zochepa. Ngati mukufuna kukwaniritsa izi kwa ena, yambani nokha:
- Choyamba, nthawi zonse perekani nkhani za zochita zanu ndi zochita zanu, ziribe kanthu kaya zing'onozing'ono zingakuwoneke bwanji. Muzochitika zomwe mumadziwika nokha, yerekezerani kuti amadziwika ndi dziko lonse lapansi. Mwina, ndiye kuti mumaganizira mobwerezabwereza, koma mochuluka, ndithudi, musalakwe.
- Chachiwiri, ngati tatha kudziphunzitsa tokha, tidzakhalanso omveka kwa ena. Ndipo adzakulemekezani kwambiri ndikukukhulupirirani! Aliyense adzadzikweza yekha ngati amvetsetsa kufunika kwake ndikukhazikitsa cholinga. Anzanu angakuthandizeni. Khalani owona mtima ndi inu nokha ndi ena. Bwino!