Kukhala ndi chikhalidwe cha munthu ndi chisonyezero cha momwe malo apamwamba m'madera akukhala ndi munthu. Izi sizikutanthauza ntchito: chikhalidwe cha munthu chikhoza kusintha malinga ndi umoyo wake, zaka, chikwati kapena ntchito. Udindo umenewu pazomwe anthu amacheza nawo sikutanthauza malo a munthu, komanso umamupatsa ufulu ndi maudindo ena. Kwa mtundu uliwonse, iwo akhoza kukhala osiyana.
Kodi mungadziwe bwanji kuti ndinu munthu wotani?
Sikofunika kuganiza kuti munthu aliyense ali ndi chikhalidwe chimodzi. Aliyense wa ife ali ndi zakudya zingapo panthawi imodzimodzi, zomwe zimadalira dongosolo lomwe amalongosola. Mwachitsanzo, udindo wa amayi ukhoza kukhala wambiri: iye, mwachitsanzo, ali ndi mkazi, mayi, mwana wamkazi, mlongo, wogwira ntchito kampani, wachikhristu, ndi membala wa bungwe. Zonsezi zimatchedwa kuti udindo. Kuchokera pamwambamwamba, tikuwona chomwe chimatsimikizira kukhala ndi chikhalidwe cha anthu: izi ndizokwatirana, ndi malingaliro achipembedzo, ndi ntchito zamalonda, ndi zofuna zawo, ndi zina zotero.
Monga lamulo, munthuyo mwiniwakeyo amadziwika kuti ali ndi chikhalidwe chachikulu, komanso izi zimakhudzidwa ndi gulu lomwe anthu ena amadziwika, poyamba. Kuwonjezera pamenepo, n'zotheka kusintha khalidwe la munthuyo: Mwachitsanzo, timasintha udindo wathu pamene tipita ku maphunziro apamwamba, kulenga banja, kupeza ntchito yatsopano, ndi zina zotero.
Mitundu ya maimidwe a anthu
Pali mitundu iwiri ikuluikulu ya maudindo aumunthu pazomwe anthu akukhalapo. Woyamba wa iwo amadziwika ndi zomwe munthu amapindula pamoyo wake: msinkhu wa maphunziro, ndondomeko zandale, ntchito, ndi zina zotero. Zomwe boma limapereka ndizopatsidwa kwa munthu mwachibadwa: dziko, chinenero, malo obadwira, ndi zina zotero.
Komabe, sizomwe zikhalidwe zonse zachikhalidwe za amai ndi abambo zimayesedwa mofanana ndi ena. Ena a iwo ali otchuka, ndipo ena-mosiyana. Udindo wolemekezeka umadalira pazinthu zomwe zimagwiritsidwa ntchito ndi mtundu wina wa anthu komanso ndondomeko yamtengo wapatali yomwe imagwira ntchito m'dzikolo.
Kuonjezerapo, pali mitundu yambiri ya chikhalidwe cha anthu: zaumwini ndi gulu. Mkhalidwe waumwini ndi udindo pa msinkhu wa kagulu kakang'ono ka anthu, komwe munthu amakambirana nthawi zonse. Mwachitsanzo, gulu ili likhoza kukhala banja, antchito kapena kampani ya mabwenzi. Monga lamulo, iye amatsimikiziridwa ndi mikhalidwe ya umunthu ndi makhalidwe osiyanasiyana aumwini.
Gulu la gulu limasonyeza munthu ngati membala wa gulu lalikulu la chikhalidwe. Izi zikuphatikizapo udindo wa munthu monga
Malingana ndi malo omwe anthu amakhala nawo, munthu amasintha khalidwe lake. Mwachitsanzo, panyumba mwamuna ndi bambo ndi mwamuna, ndipo amachitira zinthu mogwirizana. Ndipo kuntchito iye ndi pulofesa ndi mphunzitsi, ndipo, motero, adzachita mosiyana. Malinga ndi momwe munthu amavomerezera bwino molingana ndi udindo wake, amalankhula za kuthekera kwake kukwaniritsa udindo wake. Ndicho chifukwa chake pali mawu monga "katswiri wabwino", "bambo woipa", "bwenzi lapamtima" - zonsezi zimasonyeza chizindikiro ichi. Ndipo munthu mmodzi yemweyo akhoza kuthana mosiyana ndi maudindo awo, chifukwa chikhoza kukhala "choipa" kuchokera kumalo amodzi ndi "abwino" pamzake.