Masewera a chilakolako, chimodzi mwa zokonda zomwe achinyamata amakonda. Kwa zaka zambiri, sizimataya ubwino wake ngakhale agogo athu amatha kudzitamandira kuti atapanga zinthu zina kwa abwenzi awo. Koma, ku mbali inayo, funso la zilakolako zomwe zingapangidwe ndi mnyamata, nayenso, sanatayike kufunikira kwake. Ndipo asungwana ambiri, kuvomereza masewerawa, akuyamba kudabwa ndi zomwe angasokoneze bwenzi lawo. Tiyeni tiyesetse ndipo tidzakambirana pa mutu uwu ndikuganiza zomwe zingamuthandize mnyamata kuganizira malingaliro athu.
Mnyamatayo anatsutsa chilakolako - chiyani choganiza?
Choyamba, popeza mtsikanayo anavomera kuchita chilakolako, zikutanthauza kuti akadakali ndi ziyembekezo zina kuchokera kwa mnyamatayo. Izi ndi zachikazi - sitidzayankhulana ndi iwo omwe alibe chidwi ndi ife. Choncho, chifukwa chenicheni chofunira mnyamata chikhale choyenera kwa ife. Komabe, chikhumbo chingakhale chifukwa chabwino chobwezera munthu amene sakusangalatsani kwambiri. Mwachidule, pali zosankha zambiri ndi zochitika. Choncho, mndandanda wa zikhumbo zenizeni kwa mnyamata ziyenera kupangidwa malinga ndi malingaliro anu kwa iye ndi zolinga zanu. Tiyeni tiyesere kuwamvetsa.
1. Ngati mnyamata amene mumamukonda, ndipo simukumbukira kuti mukupitiriza kuyandikana naye, zosankha zokhumba zingakhale zotsatirazi:
- Mupempheni kuti alembe kalata m'dzina lake pa pepala lonse la A4. Izi zidzakuuzani ngati muli ndi mwayi woyanjana ndi munthu uyu komanso momwe amachitira ndi inu. Ngakhalenso ngati ubale wanu sukupitirirabe, mudzakhala ndi chikumbutso chabwino cha mphindi ino;
- lolani akuitanani inu pa tsiku. Mwina zingakhale bwino kuti mukhale pafupi;
- pemphani kuti akupsompseni. Njira iyi ndi ya iwo omwe sangathe kupirira;
- funsani mphatso kuchokera pansi pa mtima. Komanso njira yabwino yowonera momwe amakuchitira.
2. Kodi mungaganize za mnyamata yemwe ali bwenzi lanu lapamtima?
- mungathe kupulumutsa chilakolakocho mpaka mutasowa thandizo la munthu uyu (mwachitsanzo, mutengeni ngati mwachedwa kapena muthandizidwe);
- Ngati mumakonda mnzanu wina, funsani mnzanu wokangana kukambirana ndi mnzanuyo, kapena mumuitane kuti ayende nanu;
- Ngati mulibe theka lachiwiri, funsani munthu amene akutsutsana ndi wina kuti akuuzeni;
- mukhoza kukhala ndi chikhumbo chokongola kuchokera ku gulu lachikondi ndi laubwenzi. Mwachitsanzo, kukakamiza kudya mandimu popanda shuga, kuvomereza chikondi kwa mkazi wachikulire, kuimba pakati pa nyimbo ya pop kapena popita ku sitolo muchovala chimodzi;
- Njira ina yomwe imakhudza abwenzi ndi chikhumbo chakuti munthu amene anatsutsana za chinachake adakudabwitsani. Nthawi zina izi zimachita bwino, chifukwa choti mnzanu amadziwa bwino.
3. Kodi chikhumbo chopanga mnyamata amene amakonda chibwenzi chanu ndi chiyani? Pachifukwa ichi, malingaliro ayenera kupita kumbali imodzi yokha. Mwachitsanzo:
- kuvomereza kutuluka ndi chibwenzi ichi;
- Ngati mnzanu akukhala pafupi kapena akuyembekezera nthawiyi, munthu amene akukanganayo ayenera kumpsompsona, kapena kumakhala naye nthawi. Mwinamwake, chinachake kuchokera pa izi chidzakhalanso.
4. Pali nthawi zambiri pamene munthu wosadziwika yemwe sakusamala za iwe amataya bet, kapena iwe sumamudziwa bwino. Ndi chikhumbo chotani chomwe inu mungachiganizire za munthu woteroyo?
- Muuzeni kuti alembe kapena kunena za iye mwini;
- simungathe kukhumudwitsa ndikungochititsa kuti mukhale osangalatsa. Pamapeto pake, simungataye chilichonse;
- Chinthu china chachikulu - chilakolako chamanyazi.
Monga kulira kuchokera ku khonde, kusamba mu kasupe wamkati, kuyenda mumsewu mu diresi la mkazi, ndi zina zotero.
Poganizira za mtundu wanji wa chikhumbo chomupanga mnyamata, yesani kuyambira pa zofuna zanu. Mwinamwake muli ndi chikhumbo chachinsinsi, chomwe mwakhala mukubisala kwa munthuyu kwa nthawi yayitali. Pachifukwa ichi, chilakolako chanu ndizo mwayi wokha kusintha. Ndipo kumbukirani, zomwe mukuganiza musakhale zonyansa kwa munthu. Ziribe kanthu momwe mumachitira zimenezi, masewera oterewa, ndi mikangano iliyonse nthawi zambiri amakhala ndi mafilimu osangalatsa ndipo samatsogolere kuwapadera. Ngati chilakolako chako sichiyesa kuyandikira kwa mnyamata, tanthawuzeni kuti ndiwe nthabwala zoyambirira. Ndipo lolani malingaliro anu akuthandizeni!