Banja lirilonse la m'tsogolo lidzafuna kuti tsiku lawo la ukwati likumbukiridwe kosatha. Patsiku lachikondwerero lidayikidwa kale, mkwati ndi mkwatibwi amayamba kudabwa kuti: "Kodi tingatani kuti tikhale ndi ukwati wosangalatsa?". Anthu amene angokwatirana kumene akulolera kuti tsiku laukwati likhale tsiku lolide. Ndipo madzulo a chochitika chokondweretsa ichi, zonse zachinsinsi za ukwati wachikhalidwe zimakumbukiridwa. Kusunga miyambo ndi zikondwerero zaukwati ndi gawo lalikulu la holide yosangalatsa. Ndipo ambiri a miyambo ya ukwati imeneyi ali ndi mizu yakale komanso mbiri yakale. Zinali zofunikira kuti makolo athu adzalandire madalitso a makolo pa tsiku lowala, ndipo kusunga miyambo kunkaonedwa ngati chinthu chofunika kwambiri chokhalira chimwemwe ndi moyo wabwino.
Miyambo Yachikwati ya Russia
Nthawi zonse ku Russia, maukwati ankaonedwa kuti ndi chimodzi cha zochitika zofunika kwambiri pamoyo wa munthu aliyense. Ukwati unali wosangalatsa ndi phokoso. Ankakhulupilira kuti kumveka kumveka ngati ukwati ukuchitika. Ambiri mwa miyambo yakale idapulumuka miyambo yamakono:
- matchmaking. Mwambo umenewu unayambitsanso ukwati uliwonse. Cholinga chake chinali chakuti mkwati adatumiza abwenzi ake okondedwa kwa makolo ake. Ngati mkwatibwi ankakonda mkwatibwi ndi makolo ake, ndiye adagwirizana pa ukwatiwo, ngati ayi, ndiye makolowo amapereka timapepala monga kukana. Chizoloŵezichi chakhalapo kufikira lero lino miyambo ya ukwati wa Ukraine ku midzi;
- phwando ndi nkhuku phwando. Phwando la nkhuku ndi nkhuku ndi chizolowezi chakale cha Chirasha, koma chikadalibe lero. Mu masiku akale pa phwando la nkhuku mkwatibwi wamtsogolo anali kukonzekera ukwatiwo, ndipo abwenzi ake anali kulankhula naye za mizimu yoipa. Bungwe la bachelor nthawi zambiri limakhala ndi abambo, abale ndi abwenzi a mkwati. Iwo ankaimba nyimbo ndi kuyenda mumisewu;
- ukwati. Ukwati ndi mwambo wakale wa Orthodox, womwe umachitikira pakati pa mabanja okhulupirira ndi lero. Mwambo umenewu ukuimira mgwirizano wa uzimu pakati pa mwamuna ndi mkazi. Kalelo, makolo adadalitsa ana awo atatha ukwatiwo.
Ukwati womwewo ku Russia unakondwerera masiku atatu. Tsiku loyamba linaperekedwera kwa mkwati ndi mkwatibwi basi. Mkwati ndi mkwatibwi anabwera ku nyumba ya mkwatibwi m'mawa, pambuyo pake anyamatawo anapita ku ukwatiwo. Pambuyo paukwati, mkwati ndi mkwatibwi analandira dalitso kuchokera kwa makolo awo, okondwa kuchokera kwa alendo ndipo phwando la chikondwerero linayamba. Ukwatiwo ukanatha mpaka m'mawa, alendowo amatha kumwa vinyo ndi zakudya zokoma kwambiri, koma mwamuna ndi mkazi amene anali atangopangidwa kumene sankayenera kukhala ndi vinyo. Pa tsiku lino, alendo, monga lamulo, adagona usiku wa nyumba ya mkwatibwi.
Tsiku lachiŵiri la ukwatilo linali lochepa kwambiri kuposa loyambirira. Miyambo zambiri za tsiku lachiwiri laukwati zikuwonetsedwa panthawi ino. Pa tsiku lachiwiri alendo adasonkhana kunyumba ya mkwati ndikupitiriza phwando lawo. Pa tsiku lino, makolo a mkwati ndi mkwatibwi adapatsa ulemu waukulu - adayamikiridwa, atakhala m'malo olemekezeka komanso osangalatsa.
Pa tsiku lachitatu laukwati, mkazi wachinyamata anapatsidwa mayesero enieni - ayesedwa kuti amadziwa momwe angakhalire
Maukwati ambiri ku Russia amachitika mogwirizana ndi miyambo imeneyi. Ena mwa iwo asintha mosazindikira, ena achoka, ndipo atsopano awonekera. Mabanja amakono amathamanga njiwa "mwachangu" ndipo amapita ndi alendo kuti ayende kumapaki akuluakulu ndi mapiritsi. Ena, osafuna kuiwala mizu yawo, amagwiritsa ntchito miyambo ya maukwati a Armenian, Tatar kapena Azerbaijan. Kungakhale kukwatira mkwatibwi, kuyendera kusambira pa tsiku laukwati kapena kukongoletsa phwando la phwando pamtundu wamitundu. Pokhala ndi malingaliro, mkwati ndi mkwatibwi akhoza kusintha tsiku lofunika kwambiri la moyo wawo kukhala lokondwerera tchuthi, zomwe alendo awo adzakumbukire kwa nthawi yaitali.