Ndikofunika kuzindikira kuti interlocutor yanu imakhala ndi inu mofananamo ngati popanda kukhalapo kwanu, ndipo ngakhale mutatha kunena mosakayikira kuti ndinu wonyenga wotsutsana ndi awiri, zimachitika kuti pamoyo wanu mutha kukumana ndi akatswiri odziwa ntchito. Kudzudzula ndi kukhutira, mumupatsa zonse zomwe muli nazo, ndipo mutangopita naye limodzi, mudzazindikira kuti mwakhala wothandizira.
Pali zidule zambiri momwe mungadziwire khalidwe la munthu. Musanyalanyaze iwo chifukwa cha zabwino zanu.
Timatsimikizira khalidwe la "patsogolo" ndi "pambuyo"
Ngati muli ndi msonkhano wofunikira, onetsetsani kuwona mtima kwanu kwa interlocutor. Bwerani maminiti khumi ndi limodzi patsogolo pake, fufuzani malo omwe simudzawonekeramo ndikuwonekerani. Mfundo yoyamba momwe mungadziwire mtundu wa umunthu wa munthu ndikutengera zotsatira zake:
- ufulu ndiulemerero - cholinga cha munthuyo ndicho kufika pamsonkhano, samasokonezedwa ndi zochitika zowonongeka, amatha kutenga udindo pazochita ndi malonjezo ake;
- yunifolomu, koma munthu amatembenuka mozungulira nthawi zonse - anthu awa nthawi zonse amasamalira mthunzi wawo, zomwe zimasonyeza kusakhala kwawo;
- wodekha, wosasamala, mutu ukuchepetsedwa - munthuyo, mwinamwake, waganizira pa chinachake, kapena akuvutika;
- chowoneka chakuthwa, nthawi zonse kumangomveka phokoso laling'ono - munthu woteroyo amafunafuna kuthandizira mu malingaliro a ena, akugwedezeka ndi wovuta kwambiri.
Pamene nkhani yanu ilipo, gwiritsani ntchito sitepe yachiwiri, momwe mungadziwire khalidwe la munthu - kugwirana chanza:
- waulesi - kaya munthuyo ali wotopa, kapena ngati mulipo ambiri pamsonkhano, ndipo mumagwedeza manja kumalo omaliza, chidwi chanu chimanyalanyazidwa ndipo sichikuwona kuti ndinu ofunika;
- akuswa zala ndi kukumba m'manja
- Ichi ndi chizindikiro cha kukangana, munthu amasonyeza kuti alibe chidaliro mwa inu; - Dzanja lachiwiri likuyika iwe pa phewa lako - kaya wogwiritsa ntchito manipulator kapena munthuyo asanayambe kukuyesa iwe, monga momwe iwe umachitira (mulimonsemo, kuyankhulana kudzakhala kosangalatsa);
- Amakanikizira dzanja lanu ndi manja awiri - dikirani pempho kapena uthenga wofunikira.
Pano pali mfundo ziwiri zomwe mungathe kuziwoneratu kuti pakhale chitukuko. Kenaka, muyenera kuyerekeza khalidwe la munthu pokambirana ndi zomwe munadziwonera nokha panthawi yoyamba.