Kuti mudziwe omwe amai amawoneka kuti ndi abwino pamaso pa amuna, ndiwotani mkazi wabwino komanso momwe angakhalire amodzi, ndikofunikira kudziŵa ndondomeko yoyenera yowunika.
"Momwe mungakhalire mkazi wabwino?" - funso ili liribe yankho lachilengedwe chonse, koma malingaliro ena ali ndi malo oti akhale. Pano pali makhalidwe apamwamba a mkazi wabwino, omwe amuna amamvetsa, ndi kudziimira, kumvetsetsa, kuzimayi. Inde, kuti mukhale abwino, muyenera kuganizira momwe mungakhazikitsire makhalidwe amenewa mwa inu nokha, ngati mulibe iwo.
Kotero, tiyeni tiwone chomwe mkazi wabwino ayenera kukhala?
Osati mwadzidzidzi, ndi akazi amodzi a munthu amene amamverera mosavuta, molimba mtima. Ndipo ndi ena - ngati kuti pamatentha otentha, nthawi zonse mumakhala ndi nkhawa. Pano pali malamulo a khalidwe la mkazi woyenera, yemwe angamuthandize kuti ayandikire bwino kwa mkazi aliyense:
- Mkazi wabwino nthawizonse amawoneka bwino;
- Iye ndi wokoma mtima komanso wokonda kuchereza alendo kwa aliyense, koma amadziwa momwe angachitire, kuti ndi mwamuna wake wokha amene amamva kuti ndi wokondedwa kwambiri, wabwino kwambiri. Choncho, mkazi wabwino ayenera kukhala bwenzi;
- Mkazi wabwino amalemekeza malo a mwamuna wake ndipo amadziwa komwe angayime, kuti asamukhumudwitse iye;
- Musaiwale kuti mkazi wokongola ndi pabedi ayenera kukhala okongola;
- Samasokonezeka ndi mafunso opanda pake, chifukwa amamvetsa mwamuna wake, amene akuyenera kusankha yekha;
- iye ndi wochenjera, ndizosangalatsa kukhala mumtundu wina uliwonse, osati kuopa khalidwe lokwanira ndi kuyera. Choncho, zindikirani kuti malamulo a mkazi woyenera sali okha kunyumba;
- ali ndi chisangalalo (amadziŵa kumene chenicheni chimayambira ndipo masewera akumatha). Izi zikutanthauza kuti mkazi wokongola mwa maso a munthu amawonedwa osati wosamalira nyumba, komanso moyo wa kampaniyo;
- Amasunga ana, abwenzi achikazi komanso makolo omwe ali kutali kwambiri ndi mwamuna wake (mkazi woyenera amadziwa momwe angalankhulire ndi mwamuna wawo).
Ndipo kodi sayenera kukhala mkazi wabwino?
Makhalidwe amenewa adzakuthandizani kumvetsetsa zomwe mkazi wabwino ayenera kukhala. Zikuwoneka kuti zonse ziri zophweka, koma ndizoyenera kuzindikira kuti amuna alibe zofunika. Kuwonjezera pa kumvetsetsa momwe tingakhalire mkazi woyenera, ndikofunikira kudziŵa kuti amuna amadziwika ndi makhalidwe omwe sakufuna kuwawona mwa amayi. Mwachitsanzo:
- Ngakhalenso amuna ochepetsedwa kwambiri ndi osamvera samakonda akazi awo akamakangana ndi anzawo. Kuchita masewera olimbitsa thupi ndi amuna osadziŵika kumatha kukumbukira, koma kusakaniza ndi mnzanu wapamtima kumakupangitsani kukwiya ndi kukwiya. Komanso, kuletsa izi, kumbali ya munthu, kunyozetsa, ndi kovuta kwambiri: ndi kovuta kuika mnzanu pamalo, ndipo kupereka ndemanga kwa mkazi ndi chinyengo chotsimikizika.
- Mayesero osiyanasiyana, kafukufuku, kafukufuku wasonyeza kuti maonekedwe ochititsa chidwi ndi chiwonetsero chokwanira sichikwera ngati amayi amapatsidwa, ndipo zinsinsi za mkazi wabwino ndizosiyana kwambiri.
- Amuna samakonda kwambiri pamene akazi awo amawafotokozera. Pokhapokha iwowo amavutika ndi zinthu izi, koma pamaso pa anthu ena, ndemanga zoterezi ndi zotsutsa zimakwiyitsa. Komabe, makhalidwe awo achimuna amafunsidwa, ndipo ulemu ndi woipa. Ndiko, funso la momwe tingakhalire mkazi wokongola lingapangidwe mosiyana - momwe sitingakhale mkazi woipa.
- Amuna nthawi zambiri sadziwa chifukwa chake, nthawi ina amalephera, amayi akhoza kubwereza molakwitsa zomwezo. Panthaŵi imodzimodziyo, iwo samvetsera malangizo ndi malangizo omwe amuna amayesa kuwaumiriza.
Kodi tchimo limabisala chiyani, mkazi chifukwa cha malingaliro ake sakhala otha kuganizira mozama mkhalidwewo, kotero, nthawi zina, nthawi zina ndibwino kudziyesa kuti mukugwirizana ndi mwamuna wake. Ndipo izi ndi zina mwa malamulo a khalidwe labwino la mkazi. - Zofuna zamuyaya za akazi kukhala ofatsa, okonda, nthawi zonse kukamba za chikondi ndi malingaliro, makamaka powerenga amuna magazini ndi nyuzipepala kapena kuwonera masewera a masewera, amachititsa amuna kukhala openga. Mu nthawi zotere mungathe kuthamangitsira mawu osasangalatsa, omwe angakhale ovuta kukumba. Kotero chifukwa cha chifundo, sankhani nthawi yoyenera - banja lanu chimwemwe ndi maganizo omwe angapindule nawo basi.